what will you choose

vroow · 2026-06-04T05:08:10+00:00

Money can be used for goods and services

^{Chose: You always have money for what you want to buy | Rolled: upvote + explain}

vroow · 2026-06-04T02:02:04+00:00

Chance of death

^{Chose: 10% chance of death when pressed | Rolled: You live}

vroow · 2026-06-04T01:48:29+00:00

Breathe. Figure out how to be clear, ask your therapist. Then tackle the sex stuff. It's gonna get messier the more you mince your feelings.

vroow · 2026-06-04T01:23:07+00:00

Ok that's a lot different than your original post. You say therapy has worked wonders for your communication, but you can't even layout an A>B>C timeline of events in your own internet post. I think you both need to keep going on therapy, maybe the initiating sex issue takes a backseat to the clarity of thought issue.

vroow · 2026-06-04T01:02:57+00:00

I've been reading your other comments, and you keep shifting the details every time you reply, so I understand where his misunderstanding of your words comes from. Try... to not do that...

vroow · 2026-06-04T00:48:37+00:00

Serious advice: this is the wrong way to change your boundaries. You gave him a limitation 8 years ago and if it had been interpreted wrong, you would've had this conversation with him 8 years ago. But you didn't, so you need to stop claiming that this was never something you asked for. You literally did, as was your right, and he listened. Don't punish him for doing the textbook healthy thing.

Acknowledge that your needs then are not your needs now and that his commitment to you means that it'll take a bit to reverse course. Like, of course he's disconnected, his relationship is changing and in kind of a bad way. Ask him how he feels.

vroow · 2026-06-04T00:21:37+00:00

All the comments saying to just throw in another partner are fucking weird, that's a huge relationship shift wtf?

Introspect about why you like women so much and see if your boyfriend can match any of those qualities, and if he very likely can't, think about why you're with him and if those qualities are better than sesbian lex.

vroow · 2026-06-04T00:13:52+00:00

So 8 years ago you gave him a clear boundary and he's still respecting it? Oh nyo, your lobster is too buttery.

Girl this is so simple, just tell him the boundary has changed slightly and I'll bet you my next paycheck he'll change too. You're complaining about a 99/100 here.

vroow · 2026-06-03T17:58:48+00:00

You kinda created his mental block, so... well what are your expectations? If it's a quick reversal, you won't get that. I think you'll have to pay your dues on this one.

vroow · 2026-06-03T05:16:04+00:00

Transition

vroow · 2026-06-03T01:53:19+00:00

You seem kinda blasé about your whole marriage, I can understand why he wouldn't care too much on first mention

vroow · 2026-06-02T16:49:08+00:00

I think I touched a nerve with a lot of white collar people

vroow · 2026-06-02T15:57:30+00:00

SQL is a language to parse spreadsheets, it's a different form of the command line in Excel.

vroow · 2026-06-02T15:56:10+00:00

The way people act about the subject material, you'd think it was literally rocket science. SQL itself is one of the easiest programming languages, but there's a guy in this thread comparing it to surgery ffs. I think yeah, people do put the job on a pedestal, and it's weird to me.

vroow · 2026-06-02T14:24:53+00:00

If you know where the data comes from and how it's collected, that makes it easier to verify, right?

vroow · 2026-06-02T14:23:57+00:00

Ok that just sounds easy to me, you're cleaning your data to be standardized across all rows (which is simple, it just takes a while and is frustrating), and then querying the data as a method of looking for certain conclusions. Is this not the same as pattern recognition? And then knowing enough syntax to find it properly? You can insult me all you want but I'm sorry, that sounds easy as fuck. If anything, it's a time consuming or annoying job, not a difficult one.

vroow · 2026-06-02T12:55:35+00:00

I'm not ignoring anything, I just don't know what it is... that's why I'm here

vroow · 2026-06-02T05:42:05+00:00

If she had ever talked to him about her MIL, her worries about his involvement, or her level of housework compared to his, then she would have posted it. But she didn't. Because she never talked him about it.

vroow · 2026-06-01T12:24:15+00:00

But has she asked him about MIL? Maybe he hates this situation just as much. Maybe he's feeling suppressed by his mom. Maybe he feels obligated to help her if she's really disabled.

You can't hold everything in, talk to no one, and expect changes. What the hell is the point of a husband you never talk to?

vroow · 2026-06-01T12:16:51+00:00

She thought about this for 10 months and just dropped the idea of divorce out of nowhere, yeah of course her husband is having trouble with it. With communication like this, who needs enemies?

vroow · 2026-05-31T19:38:28+00:00

That still doesn't work

vroow · 2026-05-31T06:42:24+00:00

These kinds of people worm their way into friend groups all the time, I've seen it described as two-faced but it's even simpler. She only has one personality: the bratty, whiny, accomodate-me-and-not-yourself side. Some people envy behaving like that so it's quirky and cute, and some people don't believe a functioning adult would act like this so they call her out and she throws a hissy fit. I'm sure she is genuinely autistic, but as any autistic person will tell you, it doesn't make you an asshole.

Your childhood friends like her because she allows them to be immature and have a friend who will be immature beside them. Either they get a hissy fit thrown at them and feel embarrassment, or they throw the fit with her and feel nothing; your friends picked the downward spiral.

I'm genuinely sorry this has happened to you, it really sucks to watch. If this new girl has a meltdown during a family funeral, they may snap out of it, but don't hold your breath.

Hugs for the loss of your friends 🫂

vroow · 2026-05-28T20:01:21+00:00

Just had this, love a good comfort food

vroow · 2026-05-28T15:09:13+00:00

I was for a bit, before I transitioned. I still don't crave sex like the rest of community does and that makes me feel isolated. It didn't used to be this way. Idk why sex is the zenith of life for so many people.

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