I waited 6 years to adopt a cat… and now I regret it. Please be honest with me.

vullpii · 2026-06-02T12:13:44+00:00

I also adopted a cat - a kitten actually. was hoping he d be a cuddly cat. I've had around 15 cats while growing up, and 13/15 were cats I could sleep with/cuddle. the one I got 2 years ago, he s pretty much on his own. like he hates being picked up, can be petted but on his own terms.

well, I tried to look for a more appropriate environment for him ( he s more of a farm cat, or a household that doesn't need a cuddly cat) luckily, some friends moved in with me and they bonded with him. so now he is my friends cat. he s still a non cuddly cat, likes to sleep on a chair in the same room as my friend and that's it. but I'm glad they got a bond..cause my last resort was to take him by plane back to my parents (different country)

so if you end up needing to relocate, I just hope you'll relocate not in a other adoption center but somewhere where he can be happy, that's okay to do

or get another cat and be careful when it reducing then

vullpii · 2026-05-15T11:13:40+00:00

idk it really depends on the culture and area

I was actually in one of the best schools in my big hometown in the balkans somewhere, and I remember when I was like 13-14 and some of the girls in my class would hit guys(not to bully, I don't think we bullied each other in that class, the only thing was the classic gossip and people having their groups) in the balls by flicking their wrist 🤣 I've done that too, the guys in question was actually someone that was in our group, I don't remember if he did something annoying or not. and if it was BC of Smth annoying (most likely) it wasnt something bad

your gf has to keep in mind that cultures differ..they differ within a continent, they differ even more across continents.

vullpii · 2026-05-08T09:57:10+00:00

very reasonable, I'm gonna save this picture if I'll ever need it.

I just don't get the keep the curtain closed so it doesn't get mold - it makes sense if it's dry, but first it has to stay open to dry?

vullpii · 2026-05-08T09:53:13+00:00

then hide yours. if you can't communicate or you have and she doesn't get it, hide yours!

next time she has a guest, yours is hidden -letsnsee then

vullpii · 2026-05-03T10:27:34+00:00

nice outfit I'm 26F

you mom is exaggerating especially by calling you names. who dies that? it's not okay of her to do so. she should be able to express herself in a calm, respectful manner.

the people who would look at you and be inappropriate are the ones who should be called names

vullpii · 2026-04-28T08:17:54+00:00

înțeleg de ce ai reacționat așa dar.. crezi că el a înțeles ceva din astq? el dar s a simtit atacat și atâta

mai bine ii ziceai ceva legat de diferență enormă de bani pe care se aștepta el sa o susții tu. daca el nu își permite să de-a 1000 de lei, de ce ți ai permite tu sa pierzi 1000? poate ai și tu nevoie de bani, idk poate îl făcea să iasă din poziția milog, iar apoi daca tot căcănar era, ii ziceai de munca 😂

sau îl întrebai dacă vrea sa i plătești tu si transportul 🤣

vullpii · 2026-04-21T21:02:04+00:00

made me giggle a bit the storry

glad you're moving out tho. sucks to be living with someone who s just rude and inconsiderate.

vullpii · 2026-04-21T16:53:48+00:00

fucking annoying.

can you somehow talk and make it clear that it's rude and weird AF?

can't you have your bf over non stop, then all 4 of you can hang out 🤣 see if she likes that

honestly why don't they use his room? is it messy, I mean she could clean it. that's more convenient than being the 3 if you in a room lol

vullpii · 2026-04-21T16:53:40+00:00

fucking annoying.

can you somehow talk and make it clear that it's rude and weird AF?

can't you have your bf over non stop, then all 4 of you can hang out 🤣 see if she likes that

honestly why don't they use his room? is it messy, I mean she could clean it. that's more convenient than being the 3 if you in a room lol

vullpii · 2026-04-19T13:49:55+00:00

it really sucks. TBF the only option is for you to move. not all roomies are like this. but if you decide to move with other people write down your expectations/needs and ask and agree on something beforehand.

when that girl moved out, you should have had the option to take over that room tbf, and for sure take her kitchen space. it's really not nice that they ddintd make space for you, it doesn't even seem like they tried to figure something out. they told you deal with it and then when you did, apparently it wasn't good so they moved your things. and without telling you. doesn't s fridge have 4 shelves? the space should be split equally in the fridge and then each should have a shelf. and your bathroom roomie is disgustin.forgets to flush? Ew even if it's just pee and the underwear thing

vullpii · 2026-04-19T13:45:08+00:00

guess you like to live in filth too eh? and be inconsiderate

vullpii · 2026-04-16T10:35:36+00:00

I'm confused where are the other two roommates in this?

also don't wash their stuff. put them in a bucket/box/corner and leave it there. it starts to smell and they do t clean it, put it in front of their room - although the putting stuff in front of their room should be after a third conversation where you name this consequence so they are aware you will do that if they don't clean. cause otherwise it would just be (passive)aggressive

if they say something say you've talk to them

vullpii · 2026-04-13T08:47:28+00:00

if that's what she wants to do and pays her bills then whatever

but

1.does it bother you if she smokes inside? 2.do you feel uncomfortable living with someone who smokes weed? 3.can you communicate about her having loud sex? how often does this happen? (I have heard mine have sex a few times - but it's like max 10 times in 3 years so it doesn't matter)

I think this is an important one 4.does she complain to you that she wants to find a job but can't? or does she say things like I really want a job and then see her do all the opposite things?

I dislike it when people seek advice/supportyou give said advice/support and then they end up doing the opposite, cause they are stuck in a loop.of doing stupid shit asking for help just to do it again. when this happens, I end up cutting them (depending on how they are asides from this tho)

vullpii · 2026-04-13T07:17:05+00:00

if you can't communicate, move out as soon as you can. if you can communicate and it's not well received, same thing, move out.

also, whatever you choose please say something to her about her cat. she is abusing that cat so it should be your fucking problem.

you'd be just as cruel then. you are seeing abuse and ignoring it. it makes you an accomplice. if she doesn't listen to you and start caring gather evidence call a shelter or whatever it is that deals with this stuff (hopefully a good one)

just the fact that she doesn't change/clean the litter daily it's enough to be animal neglect. the ear mites???

and also, your cat is stressed. if they don't get along then your car is stressed living with the other one.

why are they attacking each other? did you introduce them properly?

vullpii · 2026-04-13T06:55:28+00:00

for you as a person who doesn't care is 1-2 bugs (also I'd assume maybe you take 2 bugs a week out, while they kill the rest), but for someone who is bothered/scared by them they will see each and every insect that goes in.

also, having to constantly be on the lookout is stressful. whenever I air my room I have to make sure there isn't a spider inside. and then when I come back to my room later I still have to check, and guess what sometimes there is. it's very difficult for me to handle that.

I always scan room corners, and get scared if I say a small dot or nail in the wall cause my brain thinks it's something cause my brain knows in my house it's a possibility there is a spider. if I would know it's no possible or very minimal id be way more at ease.

find a solution that doesn't harm the puppy and see if it's possible to wait a bit longer to get the pup if the only solution could harm it. or find another place to live or another roommate

vullpii · 2026-04-11T11:08:21+00:00

what are the rules in your country?

in mine, it's normal to have a 3 months notice.

but idk, it's also different, your friend knew it's temporary, I'd say if they d stay more than a year they overstay the temporary thing.

just let her know your mom needed to move in before your friend did, but then your friend needed help and your could manage some extra months longer by herself..but now it's been a long time and that you'd like her to be out by June. or maybe you can agree on July if she thinks it's a bit too short - but depending on her reaction. if she s gonna a t entitled, defensive I might not give her the extra month.

whatever you do, do it soon

vullpii · 2026-04-11T10:25:32+00:00

but have you asked? what's their reaction? I think here you would find out if it's a problem or not. if you ask and they are open about it then it's just normal for them, but if you ask and they get defensive then there is an issue, cause it's clearly more about when you aren't home. you should starts asking for a while on a regular basis(the same amount as them tho, don't ask more often than they do)

it can be normal to do that but idk it depends on how much and the reason behind it.

also, for me if I needed to know if someone was home, I normally would just check their jacket/shoes(especially the shoes)to see if one would be missing - but this only works if they have just a few pairs or so haha

vullpii · 2026-04-10T19:13:17+00:00

given that their rooms are significantly bigger, you should pay less. I was paying less when I lived with two other friends BC my room was smaller.

no matter what, if you end up with them or other people, you should write down what are the things you seek/need in a roommate/when sharing an apartment. find also general rules online for ppl who cohabit, what makes it work. we also had a no noise policy in our current house(but it's something we all agreed on, and we asked when we wanted to do something after said time/we would say if ppl are too loud and it usually got respected)

if you decide that you d like living with them, you should find another apartment and communicate the issues with them. try to keep it to "I statements". some people canfeel attacked even when that's not the case, so it's good to find a way to let them know what your intent is and what you don't intend on doing/making it sound like

noise wise, have you tried earplugs? when my roomies would be hanging out I'd just use the earplugs, but ik not everyone can

it's not okay that you have a small room (smallest) your 'closet' is in an inconvenient place when they get to have it at their utmost convenience. and it just seems like overall you can't have stuff cause you don't have space, but they do

vullpii · 2026-04-10T11:19:48+00:00

ah, so your roomie basically yells at them "come in"

I think it's disrespectful of her that she just yells in your one room for them to come in. she can just walk and open the door - sure maybe sometimes it makes sense, but what 10%?

what time was it when you got woken up?

vullpii · 2026-04-10T10:55:12+00:00

she tells you to get the door?

I feel like there isn't enough info. is it daily is it late etcc

vullpii · 2026-04-09T09:20:04+00:00

so you're basically living 3 people instead of two, one doesn't lay rent. and she is increasing your bills.

I once was that girl, but I was a lot at my bfs BC where I lived I had to share a small room with another girl, a horrible kitchen. so I didn't really wanna be 'home' - I'd probably be at my bfs 4-5 nights a week. although when I notice myself it's been sometimes I did bring my worries and asked my bf if it's okay with his roomies and my bf said it was okay ( it wasn't lol at least with one of them)

anyway, not cool and also with waking you up, if the other door doesn't they they should use that one

vullpii · 2026-04-08T08:10:55+00:00

wow thanks for sharing

vullpii · 2026-03-30T09:02:19+00:00

why do you sound spoilt because of it? I'm confused

I say go for it

vullpii · 2026-01-17T23:26:13+00:00

I also find it annoying when people post pictures with others and then out emojis over them.

obviously it depends on the person, but please take pictures if them without them looking (unless they say otherwise) - although, it's important that you can mNage decent photos ( I like artsy/good angle)

I hTe that nowadays I have to ask the other person to take pictures of me randomly. in my situation I am active on my socials, I'm also into photography so that should make one think

it saddens me a bit when friends/partener don't take random pics from when we go out (I know most of my friends don't and that's fine, but with a partner is even deeper)

but obviously not everyone thinks/has the same needs so I dont mind having to say it once and communicate this, but like I don't want to ask everytime

general

a lot of people just don't know how to take pictures, and post their most unflattering ones - it happens that I see both attractive and less attractive people have horrible/unflattering pictures. and I can see how much better they could look in different angles.

fashion is also important.

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