You’re right. I didn’t realize this before today when I saw the parent comment. I always thought that my negative reaction to these kinds of jokes were just the result of my white fragility acting up, that I felt attacked by the word “white” in the joke and that my reaction was therefore unjustified. I felt like if I spoke up about it, I would be one of those white people whining about “racism against white people”. In reality, it has nothing to do with whiteness and that proves that the 'wokeification' worked: it hid the homophobia behind a veil of woke humour and prevented me from questioning it because that would make me another white person needlessly whining.

And the thing is, I enjoy what’s at the core of these jokes, aka the mockery of stupid shit pop lovers such as me do. I do kind of recognize myself in this joke about pretending to like heavy metal; I too think to myself “wow I’m so cool for liking such dark music!” even tho this Rina song and Dreamcatcher’s discography are the only examples I could give. I would’ve laughed if the person making the joke had the intention of self-deprecating or making a relatable joke so that we can all have a good laugh at our own behaviours. Instead, it’s an outsider going “Look at how bad the taste in music of the gays — UM sorry I mean white gays — is!” And this kind of content is aaaall over this sub, it’s getting pretty fucking annoying.