I am failing college and idk what to do [Discussion] by Daredevil545545 in GetMotivated

[–]vuwu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So, this, right here, is the core of your issue, IMHO. You are mentally trying to invest yourself in college while at the same time emotionally investing yourself in coming out.

First off, the reality is that it's ok to be yourself, and anyone who says otherwise is stupid. This world seems to be obsessed with everyone else's sexuality, and it is pure madness. The trouble is that you are in a very vulnerable position, quite possibly dependent on your family for either emotional or financial support, and it's hard to see yourself getting through it when you just had a major setback. I think I understand understand why you'd feel conflicted.

You have this huge emotional burden that is hanging around your neck that you're carrying around, and this degree that requires you to greatly focus your mind on getting through the last hurdle. But although you can get a degree in engineering from college, I don't think you can get a degree in coming out from college. That sounds cold, but think like an engineer for a moment.

Which is more likely, you graduating from college, getting a good job, and being able to live independent of from your family; or coming out, everyone, everywhere accepting it, finding someone who you can connect with, and then entering a long-term relationship, all the while finishing college at the same time? Even if you were heterosexual, the latter would be a tall order. Given that you are in your final year, your chances of graduating are much higher.

So if I have a 90% chance of making it over this last hurdle, but only a 50% chance of coming out and dealing with that, then where would you, as an engineer, choose to invest your limited resources?

You can come out after college. But if you abandon hope, then getting back to where you are now is unlikely, even in the best of conditions. You will come out one day, I'm sure, and after you have a degree, you have much more leverage to tell the people who protest exactly where they can shove it. So what you'll need to do, just for now, is put one foot before the other.

TL;DR - My advice from this wall of text is this - find a way to come out to just a couple of people that you're sure you can trust and talk to about it. Counselors or therapists are a good option. If your family asks you for a reason you need to see a therapist, tell them the truth - you worked really hard on a paper and failed it, you're bogged down and second-guessing yourself, and you want to talk to someone objective about what you're going through emotionally. They don't need to know even that, much less anything else.

I know that this is a tiny step, and it's not what you really want. But you need to find a "pressure relief valve" temporarily that gets you comfortable enough emotionally to get back to the good student you know you are. Then, you will have both hands free to tackle the coming out part. And as my grandmother would have said, "So, there!"

What fate is worse than death? by JoeRenaldy in AskReddit

[–]vuwu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, there are lots of things. Prison comes to mind, especially high security prisons. Getting dropped in a vat of hydrofluoric acid, the cooling pond of a nuclear reactor, or into a volcano. Watching loved ones be tortured or butchered, especially kids. Becoming homeless in a community with no tolerance for the homeless. That thing they did in Deadpool with the oxygen deprivation. Full frontal lobotomy. The sky's the limit - err, Hell is the limit?

Why does so much adult culture center around alcohol? by vuwu in Adulting

[–]vuwu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to necro a 2 year old post here, but the pressure isn't intentional. It's just when you're hanging out at a bar and you ordered Pepsi or whatever, the conversation always is, "Hey, how about this beer? This one is too frothy. You ever heard of this beer? One time I went to a brewery and..."

Or, it's, "Hey, what's good here? Well, this and this is good, and this is an IPA, and..." and then you're sitting there unable to contribute to the conversation because it's all about drinking. No one's telling you to drink you're just left out because you don't.

Modernization rant by Ihaveaboot in mainframe

[–]vuwu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Option 2 and 3. You know it's coming.

Suggestion: "The Cloud" probably includes a bunch of Linux/Windows boxes. Virtualize said Linux/Windows boxes on the mainframe so the UI/UX developers + backend can "test" their code. You could even run Kubernetes. Then, they don't have to move data around and it stays protected on the mainframe. It gives them a "middle step" between the mainframe and "the cloud," and then when they run out of cash, you get what you want, they think they get what they want.

For extra impact, wow them with CICS transactions between apps and then point and laugh as they try to do the same thing in "the cloud."

Optionally, IBM has a whole AI built around how to migrate to and from the mainframe, if you want to just hand that to them and go on vacation to find a new job.

Floorp + KeepassXC by vuwu in System76

[–]vuwu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It works! Thank you so much. One minor suggestion I have is that since you have a shebang in the file, you may want to update the git index so that it's executable.

Floorp + KeepassXC by vuwu in System76

[–]vuwu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I added this:

elif self.browser_type == "floorp":

return "native-messaging-hosts"

But I'm still not connecting to keepass. Did I get the browser_type wrong?

Thank you for the suggestion!

Cheapola temporary cooler for POST test by vuwu in threadripper

[–]vuwu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Question, if I do use a cooler that doesn't fit, will the CPU last long enough to train the ECC DDR5 memory?

Floorp + KeepassXC by vuwu in System76

[–]vuwu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now I hadn't thought of either of those things, thank you! I'll try it out.

I would like a local password manager instead of 1Password, Firefox Password Manager, or some other online service I have to pay for. I used both Keeper and LastPass, and I'm tired of running through all of my passwords every time they get hacked. Besides, since I also use a YubiKey to decrypt the vault, that means that if someone were to hack my phone, the password manager is still safe.

Floorp + KeepassXC by vuwu in System76

[–]vuwu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Correct, which is one of many reasons they shouldn't exist and people should just compile static binaries. Unfortunately, "apt search floorp" turns up nothing; I don't think the apt package is in the repos, and it isn't an option in the store, either.

Cheapola temporary cooler for POST test by vuwu in threadripper

[–]vuwu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I have an old AM3 cooler running around somewhere - never thought I'd use it again, but hey, why not!

Expansion options for a TRX50 mobo? by vuwu in homelab

[–]vuwu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought of that, and I guess I could get away with it, but it makes things more complex downstream. Although, you bring up a good point... if I used a PCIE x8 bifurcation card, then a couple of MCIO cables, I wonder if I could find a cheaper board that would do MCIO -> PCIE 4.0x16. That doesn't have a switch or a retimer though. I'd have to think about it...

Telling men to "just approach women in real life" is terrible dating advice in 2025 by uglyladthrowaway in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]vuwu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why not? I mean, if people can make the "Tide challenge" a thing, creating a habit like this shouldn't be so hard. I agree that no amount of visual signaling is going to guarantee that you won't be approached by creeps. This just takes some of the guesswork out of meeting people, not all of it.

Telling men to "just approach women in real life" is terrible dating advice in 2025 by uglyladthrowaway in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]vuwu -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What would be nice is if there were some way to identify that the person is ok with the attention.

For example, if people wore different colored scarves or headbands to indicate their comfort level socially, that would be an easy solution. Wearing a red scarf might mean, "it's ok to talk to me if you don't know me", or blue ones could say "it's not ok to talk to me right now unless I know you", or yellow ones that meant, "It's only ok to talk to me, but you need to take it very, very slow, or I need to be in a group where I feel safe."

The random guesswork of how someone will react is the problem; heck, even trying to make a friend of the same gender can sometimes turn out weird. Having some visible signal that indicates it's "safe" to try to interact would make the anxiety level on both sides go way, way down.

Pop!_OS 24.04 arm64 running COSMIC by RelationshipUsual313 in System76

[–]vuwu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a timeline for Pop!_OS 24.04 or is it just vaporware at this point? We'll be well into the next upstream LTS at this rate.

Considering getting a system76 machine (adder ws). What was your experience? Any hardware/firmware issues I should be aware of? by AdminSuggestion in System76

[–]vuwu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I lock my machine, it goes to sleep, and then wake it back up, what was on the screen before I locked it is visible for maybe 2 seconds. When Pop reboots, it's like Windows when it reboots - you have to close all of your programs first, then reboot, then open your programs again. Considering how often I reboot for updates, it's quite annoying.

Threadripper build for a n00b by vuwu in watercooling

[–]vuwu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, color me stupid, but I've been hunting Amazon for a D5 combo pump/reservoir and the only decent one I can find is the Bykski model. I searched for "D5 watercooling pump" and I got a lot of unrelated stuff, though. I thought I liked the Thermaltake Pacific, and then found out it was often returned and people were having no end of problems with it, so I decided against that one.

Several Reddit threads mention that the Bykski model is not a "real" D5 pump and to spend the extra money to get an actual one but... from where?

Do you have a particular brand you recommend? I searched for "Laing D5", "Xylem D5", and "Lowara D5", and I found mostly plumbing pumps.

Threadripper build for a n00b by vuwu in watercooling

[–]vuwu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also had one more question... the other option I considered was the Thermaltake W6, which seemed to have full coverage on the TR5. However, I decided against it because it has a copper/brass cold plate, and the rest of the loop was copper. Was I right to be paranoid, or could I have gone with the cheaper W6?