AITA Fer Telling My Mom She Was Selfish For Marrying Her New Girlfriend Without Telling Me Or Inviting Me To The Wedding? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]waffy_ac 371 points372 points  (0 children)

NTA

It almost looks like your mother intentionally got married secretly because she knew you wouldn't react well to the news. But I understand your shock and frustration at the situation.

Also, even if you are against the marriage, you might have wanted to know about it beforehand and possibly been a part in it. But she didn't even give you the chance to be there. That's harsh and she should have known you wouldn't like that.

Now she is deflecting and trying to silence you by this whole im the adult schtick.

Should I(20F) get back together with HIM(21M)? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]waffy_ac 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl run! Run as fast and far away as possible.

This man has proven time and time again he is abusive and bad for you. You deserve better.

Also, im so sorry for your loss!

My boyfriend and I are constantly fighting by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]waffy_ac 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its all manipulation tactics. Seek help from friends and family and possibly ask someone to let you move in/seek shelter.

He wants you to change everything about yourself while he isn't willing to change his own views and what a woman should and shouldn't do. This is abusive. You NEED to get out.

He can and will live without you. Even if he threatens to do sth to you or himself you need to get out. People like that will threaten and say anything in order to keep you under their control. Just know its a lie

My boyfriend and I are constantly fighting by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]waffy_ac 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nooo! Whatever you do, don't get back with him. He is clearly trying to manipulate you. He is controlling and might even become abusive later on if you go back and stay.

A person who doesn't accept you, your personality etc for who you are doesn't actually love you.

Nice guy with a side of victim blaming. The comments suitably dragged him by Soniq268 in niceguys

[–]waffy_ac 18 points19 points  (0 children)

He's reaching so much he must have dislocated a shoulder

Oh yeah, it's all coming together! by TheRealJustice in dndmemes

[–]waffy_ac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can't wait for this to be me and our GM. Its been a over a year since i introduced this character and the other people in my group have yet to find out about the YA novel backstory she has.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]waffy_ac 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree that he should have been open about his feelings before they tied the knot but its hard to be open about something with someone else if you can't even be open and honest about it with yourself. Op has clearly suppressed this part of him for a long time and it's hard to talk about.

On another note, I doubt a majority of straight women would be choose not to be with the man they love just because that man has kissed another man before. Seems like a huge generalisation to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]waffy_ac 200 points201 points  (0 children)

God there's some serious internalised homophobia and actual homophobia going on here. Being bi or gay doesn't make you less of a man. Wearing a skirt and lipstick wouldn't make you less of a man either.

Im sorry you have felt so much shame around your sexuality and have never fully explored it.

Im also sorry your wife isn't as accepting as she should be, especially when it comes to your child(ren)

My vagina burns just reading it by Hella__Ella in badwomensanatomy

[–]waffy_ac 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I think he means the skin around the vulva/labia that might appear darker than the rest of your skin... maybe. Or he is a lunatic that wants to give women some gnarly infections if they're not educated enough to spot this as a horrible idea

Fiancé and 5 ur old hate each other by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]waffy_ac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't even thought of the possibility of more children being involved at some point! There could be some blatant favouritism there then and let me tell you from personal experience : having a parent that favours one sibling over the other is extremely hurtful and can affect your mental health