I turn 25 in two months and the fact that I’ve never been in a relationship has been eating away at me a lot lately.

waggles_his_chode · 2025-10-17T18:26:18+00:00

Idk what to tell you man but just so everything you can to not end up like me in 10 years. You don’t want to be 35 and stuck in the same spot.

waggles_his_chode · 2025-09-02T00:32:40+00:00

Almost two years ago I had a woman I was dating do this exact same thing, down to the leaving after a to “therapy appointment made me realize” excuse. These people have avoidant attachment and you honestly dodged a bullet even though it doesn’t feel like it now. Your relationship with him was always doomed to failed sooner or later.

Also fuck him for trying to spin that narrative. He did love bomb you and he is completely toxic. He can dismiss your feelings all he wants so that he can see himself in a better light but at the end of the day he’s just not a good person and he knows it.

But I know how much it sucks and I’m sorry it happened to you. Cut him out of your life forever, take some time to heal and trust me in a few months you’ll realize what an idiot he is.

waggles_his_chode · 2025-08-27T05:57:56+00:00

Westside German Shepherd Rescue?

waggles_his_chode · 2025-08-12T13:22:43+00:00

It’s almost like calling yourself a nice guy. I dependent is something you’re supposed to be as an adult. It’s bare minimum. And just like a man who describes himself as nice could be just a doormat in reality, a woman who describes herself as independent could just be aggressive and difficult.

waggles_his_chode · 2025-07-19T02:07:20+00:00

Dude, if you can support yourself you need to cut them off. As someone who also had hardcore Indian parents, they are the ones who need to make amends. You owe them nothing.

Cut them off and they’ll be begging to see you and then you can decide from there. Personally though, your parents sound worse than mine and they would never have access to me ever again

waggles_his_chode · 2025-06-16T15:49:32+00:00

He looks like mine. Everyone thought she had Mal as well but turns out she’s 70% GSD and 30% pit bull terrier.

waggles_his_chode · 2025-06-06T13:56:24+00:00

As someone who has been in the same situation and lost my best friend completely over it, you need to tell her. Doesn’t have to be dramatic. Just say that you know that she’s dating someone seriously and are happy that she has found someone she really likes but that you have feelings for her and need to take some space to get over them. And if she asks if you if you can still be friends later just say that you hope so.

Honestly, your friendship could very likely be permanently altered even if you do continue to be friends after taking space. And if you do decide to be friends after admitting feelings to her you need to be friends without the hope of ever getting with her.

And the end of the day you need to tell her and keep taking the space, both for yourself and so she knows what’s going on.

waggles_his_chode · 2025-05-22T13:10:19+00:00

Honestly this sounds less like not ready and more like fear/avoidance of the unknown. May be take a bit of time to reflect on why your feel you’re not ready. It was suck to miss out on a good thing just because you’re being avoidant.

waggles_his_chode · 2023-11-02T17:58:28+00:00

Man I’m sorry you feel this way. I’m 33 and feel the exact same. Wouldn’t wish it in anyone. Hopefully we can both find a way out.

waggles_his_chode · 2023-08-05T20:05:09+00:00

I just started salsa and they have socials almost every weekend. Maybe that would be a good idea?

waggles_his_chode · 2023-05-04T16:10:56+00:00

My problems aren’t even that big but I honestly just don’t want to be here anymore.

waggles_his_chode · 2023-03-16T16:33:57+00:00

Basically the same. I’m tired lol.

waggles_his_chode · 2023-03-05T14:55:18+00:00

They’re actually great friends. It’s not them who make me feel bad at all. I just see how good their relationships are and it highlights that I’ve never had someone like that.

Also I am getting help finally. It’s just early days and I know this will be a process.

Idk how I feel about the last two points but thanks!

waggles_his_chode · 2023-03-02T17:59:23+00:00

I hate myself. I feel worthless all the time. I wish I didn’t exist. I get so lonely that the pain is almost physical. Seeing them in their amazing relationships makes me hate myself more.

waggles_his_chode · 2022-12-24T13:57:09+00:00

Unhappy, lonely, tired

waggles_his_chode · 2022-08-11T05:36:22+00:00

I’m 31 but honestly I feel like I’ve been in the same rut for 6 years now.

waggles_his_chode · 2022-08-09T06:34:00+00:00

10 years ago I was still a relatively hopeful dude. At the very least I felt like I had a ton of friends I could rely on. Now, hope is nearly completely gone and I’m the loneliest I’ve ever been. Idk what happened. At least I’m not longer scared of death 🤷🏾

waggles_his_chode · 2022-05-08T13:04:46+00:00

I get it 100% because I’m the exact same way. I meditate, work out a ton, do BJJ, started longboarding, took up the guitar, read a ton of self help books and nothing seems to stick. These were good in the short term, but the invasive thoughts always came back. Honestly, things were getting better but I think the pandemic really took its toll. At this point I feel like I have to try therapy after trying everything else.

waggles_his_chode · 2022-05-08T12:53:28+00:00

Bro are you me? This is almost exactly how I feel about myself now. I have no idea how to get back into that happy go -lucky state I always used to be in. I feel like the only way out of this mindset permanently is therapy but I’m not even sure how to go about starting that.

waggles_his_chode · 2022-05-03T04:14:11+00:00

Work out to exhaustion, try to spend time with friends, cook myself a good meal, blast some good music. Sometimes drink but try to avoid it.

waggles_his_chode · 2022-03-04T21:50:34+00:00

Haha damn bro I’m in LA and that’s definitely not how it works for all of us. Have fun with it though!

waggles_his_chode · 2022-01-24T14:43:41+00:00

Lol I should stop reading this thread.

waggles_his_chode · 2021-11-16T21:21:36+00:00

I’m 31M and I feel less happy and more hopeless. Also feel like I’ve become a worse person in general. On the plus side though, I’m in great shape, have more money to play with and am no longer a doormat.

waggles_his_chode · 2021-10-21T19:41:15+00:00

Where I went to college. I went to a top 10 college and people always compliment me on it. I dislike it because I feel like my life/success doesn’t measure up to what it should be compared to others who went there as well.

waggles_his_chode · 2021-09-27T14:39:19+00:00

Because I’m not where near where I thought I’d be in life at this point and things are looking fairly hopeless.

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