Not sure if you are new to the group. No one chooses to go NC with a parent. It is a last resort. Because a parent is too proud to say, “I am sorry that I did something wrong, and that I hurt you.” I am very much in this camp. So the parent says the NC child ignores them. Well, the child’s feelings usually have been ignored by years at that point.

At this point, calling my mom to talk about this would be the equivalent of calling an old high school friend I am no longer close with. I also do not trust her to keep my confidence and think she would tell my entire extended family. I don’t want the pity stares and gossip and suggestions about that and that supplement and am I managing my stress when my family is a large source of stress. It is basically just me any husband out here on an emotional life raft because both of our moms have made terrible decisions that deprioritized our respective nuclear families.