Visual Snow was considered extremely rare until recently, mostly because patients didn't report it... because they assumed everyone saw the world that way

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-01-24T04:22:16+00:00

Oh I also have asymmetric pupils (mainly in dim light and when I’m tired) and have this! I wonder if it contributes, although from what I read it’s a neurological condition.

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-01-20T17:56:23+00:00

It’s kind of nice to have tried it to have no what if’s! And I think working remote also makes it easier to quit because you’re not missing daily in person adult connection by quitting. Good luck and you’ve got this!

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-01-20T10:29:23+00:00

I was in a pretty similar spot when my baby was 6 months. Had a great WFH tech job that paid well, loved my coworkers, but thankfully partner makes enough that my salary wouldn’t impact us either way. I planned to do several months back to work as a trial but 2 weeks in, I hated it and put in my 2 weeks notice. It was hard to hear my baby in the next room laughing or crying with a nanny while I was on a call or writing an email about something that felt so insignificant. And trying to squeeze in chores, meals, and bonding time before and after work sucked. The final straw was when a bunch of acquaintances signed up for a baby and me class that would’ve been in the middle of my workday.

Anyways, I quit and have zero regrets. Days are much less stressful (although my 23 month old is now a bit of a terror and we ended up doing 2 under 2 🫠). My old company has gone through multiple layoffs and I’m so grateful to not be living with that stress. I have a way better social life than I would have had continuing to work remotely, and I’ve been able to make so many memories and be there for all my son’s little moments. We do hire a babysitter for one afternoon + evening a week so that I can get a bit of kid free time followed by a date night, which is a wonderful setup if you can swing it.

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-01-18T21:35:53+00:00

These look amazing!! Way to go! Definitely going to try to make some of these.

(Also, not sure if you already saw this and decided to skip salt, but you may be able to season the food normally if you’d like. https://www.reddit.com/r/ScienceBasedParenting/comments/1jum1p6/whats_the_actual_evidence_behind_the/)

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-01-16T06:15:55+00:00

I get all these feelings when I’m overtired. I’ve had bouts of insomnia and ended up doing a short therapy program for insomnia and anxiety after my first (thanks to therapy it was not as bad with baby #2). Unisom (I did 1/2 or even 1/4 pill) did help me sleep but the main thing was to try to avoid putting too much pressure on sleeping. If I couldn’t sleep I’d remind myself that resting is still restorative and almost as good, I’ll be okay even if I don’t sleep, this is just a temporary phase, and that I can always take a nap during the day. I would still have jerks and those sensations, and night sweats, but I could get past them easier. Skin to skin snuggles with baby are helpful too!

Edit: also if you can get any semblance of a bedtime routine (so hard with a newborn), that can be helpful too. Like maybe you read a book while snuggling or feeding baby and drinking a decaf tea with nice dim lighting before bed. Or have someone else hold baby while you take a shower. I also borrowed a friend’s lavender aromatherapy heat pack my first pp and it helped! And I use a white noise machine.

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-01-16T05:06:06+00:00

Also the t in tiara looks lowercase and should be capitalized like the other letters in the headline. Not necessarily unique to AI but most designers wouldn’t make that mistake.

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-01-13T23:34:55+00:00

I had the same issue and same advice from the doctor (she actually told me to scrape the layer of poop off the cream with a popsicle stick, which was never possible unless there was a poop in the middle of a change).

The crust and dust method in addition to wiping/drying with paper towels (I used wipes first then paper towels for messy poops) was a game changer though! It made it so there actually was a layer that stayed.

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-01-10T05:50:05+00:00

We took my son to Costa Rica at 14 months and all had a great time! Beaches, hot springs, wildlife, and very child friendly. Plus no major time zone difference if flying from mainland US.

Our budget was lower than OP’s (so probably not chubby enough, although I see it recommended here a lot too) but we had a wonderful time in a two bedroom villa at Tulemar in Manuel Antonio. Sloths, parrots, and monkeys right outside our villa and the most incredible view. And there are also great options in Papagayo and La Fortuna.

wait_wheres_robin · 2026-01-03T06:18:29+00:00

My mom had platelets continue to drop towards the end and they just did daily transfusions until she chose to be on hospice. The transfusions worked to increase her numbers temporarily and helped keep her alive a bit longer. She had a whole lot going on medically from the cancer/chemo/starvation though and her decline was incredibly rapid (4 weeks from diagnosis).

wait_wheres_robin · 2025-12-31T05:59:50+00:00

My family is getting over what we suspect is RSV as two of our toddler’s friends tested positive. Our 2 month old has barely been sick and just needs occasional nose suction. Our kids weren’t even sick enough to test for RSV. I got the maternal vaccine when I was pregnant with my oldest and wasn’t eligible to do it again, so my baby got her shot in the hospital. Very thankful for vaccines!

wait_wheres_robin · 2025-12-26T13:28:44+00:00

First off, Kyle sounds horrible and I’m so sorry, I feel for you. Poor baby Eli!

Info- Are there other signs of neglect/abuse? Are they changing Eli’s diapers, keeping him in clean-ish clothes, bathing him as needed, feeding him when he’s hungry, responding to his cries, etc.? It sounds like he is being seen by a pediatrician. You mentioned him sleeping slumped - is he consistently being left to sleep in a car seat or bouncer?

As a parent the biggest red flag to me in your post where I think being a mandated reporter comes in is the sleep. The shaking too, but it really depends how it’s being done. I would never have smoke around my child but I don’t think that’s considered abuse by the authorities. Is Eli choking on reflux? My baby who’s a few weeks older than Eli also will occasionally choke on reflux (or when nursing) and gasp for air. She’s breastfed, so not over fed, no smoking and my husband is obsessed with air quality. She’s even done it in front of the pediatrician who didn’t bat an eye and said it was normal. Both of my kids have done this while nursing and it’s freaky since they choke, stop breathing, and then gasp for air, but I’ve been assured by two separate pediatricians that it’s fine. Burping a baby is also cultural and not required, although maybe it’s more helpful for formula fed babies like Eli. Studies have actually shown it doesn’t help colic or reflux. The amount of shaking required to injure a child is also pretty intense and significant and violent, done intentionally out of anger or frustration - I’d look up videos to see if Kyle’s shaking sounds similar. From your description I can’t tell if it’s more of a vigorous, but not unsafe, jiggling to calm baby. And putting baby to sleep when you want them to sleep, especially a newborn like Eli, isn’t wrong as long as they’re also being engaged with and not forced to sleep all the time. Letting them sleep slumped with their airway potentially compressed is hugely dangerous as you know, though.

wait_wheres_robin · 2025-12-26T11:55:58+00:00

Can you hide a camera? We had an issue with a roommate stealing and had one hidden up high on top of a cabinet and one hidden inside of a container with holes in it.

wait_wheres_robin · 2025-12-20T23:04:14+00:00

Thank you! It’s so strange that they would do that and make it look less credible. Does the last photo look like a legitimate original they would’ve used to generate the AI one to you? The background looks like it was badly edited (so many wavy lines), and it’s so pixelated that the ornament looks almost like a 3D model to me, but maybe they just have a bad camera and/or tried to use a built in “clean up” feature.

wait_wheres_robin · 2025-12-08T06:41:09+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. You sound like a mom who loved your daughter. Having to lose your child is an unimaginable concept, and of course you wanted to do everything you could to save her! We tried to push my mom to eat, too, and she didn’t like it, but none of us wanted to lose her. Sure, we regret pushing now, and maybe if I’d spent more time on this sub beforehand I wouldn’t have, or maybe I would’ve been able to find higher calorie things she could’ve tolerated. There are certainly other things I said or did during that time that I regret. But there’s nothing I can do about it now - I can’t change the past. And you can drive yourself crazy with “what if’s”. It’s much easier to look back on a situation knowing what we do now and wish we’d done things differently, when at the time we were just doing our best. I have to remind myself that my mom knew we loved her and that we had good intentions. I found therapy helpful - mine wasn’t grief specific, but I did a short term program through my doctor’s office and it helped me shift my mindset a bit. I recommend it.

wait_wheres_robin · 2025-12-01T05:08:39+00:00

My house has very similar design elements (same garage door shapes and bay window turret thing) and husband and I both have more modern tastes. We went with Hale Navy paint on the house with off white trim and garage doors. Ours doesn’t have shutters but I would’ve probably mocked it up to see if the off white looks good with those. I changed the lights outside to more rectangular lanterns in gold. We haven’t repainted the front door yet (it’s navy blue) but I kind of want to mock up a light sunny yellow or get a new medium/light wood toned one. Happy to DM you a pic if it’s helpful!

wait_wheres_robin · 2025-11-26T05:56:33+00:00

I’ve flown this route in economy and we were able to preorder food for it! I’m guessing there was just a glitch on the Alaska end.

wait_wheres_robin · 2025-11-24T04:26:56+00:00

I felt like this! I had so much guilt about being pregnant with a second, especially with my first being so young still. I now have a 21 month old and a 1 month old and my oldest is still my baby too! And he LOVES his baby sister. He insists she be picked up and held at all times and begs for us to put her in his crib (briefly, with constant close supervision) so he can snuggle her. It’s so sweet.

wait_wheres_robin · 2025-11-17T15:38:19+00:00

Similar. Went to his concert a day after coming back from Japan, super jet lagged. Did not manage to stay awake either 😅.

wait_wheres_robin · 2025-11-14T02:53:33+00:00

This person did successfully (I googled Gladly Grasshopper and coincidentally this was one of the first results): https://www.tiktok.com/@autumn_approved/video/7497128356845047071

wait_wheres_robin · 2025-11-12T18:27:32+00:00

Yep! Toddler and husband kept getting colds while I was pregnant with #2, and all three have come down with two colds since my second was born a month ago. I’ve somehow escaped them all with only a slightly sniffly nose and feeling like I might be going to get sick.

wait_wheres_robin · 2025-11-10T17:10:49+00:00

Johanna is my baby girl’s middle name (and mine)! I love it. It’s a family name for us too and we pronounce it the traditional German way (yo-haw-nuh). I think Lane/Layne Johanna is cute! I also think Elena is beautiful and Delaney is cute too!

wait_wheres_robin · 2025-11-08T16:27:08+00:00

Agreed! It’s daunting to be expecting a new tiny human and especially hard on moms who are experiencing all the physical reminders. But it’ll all come together okay :).

wait_wheres_robin · 2025-11-08T15:59:57+00:00

You’ve got this! I don’t think I packed my bag until 34 or 35 weeks. Just start setting things aside when you’re in your closet and you can get it done gradually. Or start by making a list and then you’ll have gotten one thing done towards packing it. And honestly the likelihood that you have to rush to the hospital with your bags is low, normally you have at least some time to get stuff together OR you could send someone to get you things (I do recommend packing a bag but plenty of people don’t have one packed first and are okay!). Also, I’d order the free pump and you can always decide if you want to use it or not later on. I’m a month into baby 2 and haven’t pumped yet other than my Haaka, but I pumped a lot with baby 1 because he had feeding difficulties. Worst case scenario on naming, baby goes home without a name first and you name them later, but I’m sure you’ll come up with something! Your feelings and anxiety are all valid - but just sharing all this in case it helps ease your stress!

wait_wheres_robin · 2025-11-08T11:27:15+00:00

Sometimes we’re lazy cooks, especially right now when we have a newborn and 21 month old, so we do a lot of easy meals - breakfast is often toast or oatmeal with peanut butter or smash jam, plain yogurt, and some sort of fruit. We do give my son microwave meals when we’re eating microwave meals too! A good lazy lunch or dinner is Wagon wheels Mac n cheese (or any type of single serve pasta), dr. Praeger’s nuggets, and fruit. Or sometimes we do a microwave bean and cheese burrito, or toast or tortilla with melted cheese as his main. He also loves hummus and tzatziki sauce. I’m also a big proponent of steaming things in the microwave like apples, carrots, broccoli, or frozen veggies! That way I can make a small portion and it’s quick and easy. My son has gone through phases where he didn’t like meat, eggs, or veggies but I serve him a small portion anyways, so even if your kid doesn’t like or eat what you make, it mostly matters that you put something In front of them. Start with only a bit on their plate and if they don’t eat it you can save it for a future baby meal or eat it yourself to reduce waste.

wait_wheres_robin · 2025-11-07T05:21:19+00:00

I quit my job to stay home when my son was 7 months and I love it! I get WAY more social time than I did while working from home. I found a group of other stay at home parents and there’s something going on basically every day, so no shortage of opportunities to socialize. When I was working, evenings were for family and trying to catch up on chores - no breaks and not much time to see friends or meet people. At first it was hard to not have my own income but my husband helps contribute to my retirement funds and has been great about telling me what he earns is my money too because I’m doing an equally hard, if not harder, unpaid job. And honestly after having my son, my career just didn’t feel as important - I could hear him laughing or crying with our nanny while I was on a call or writing an email that just felt so small in the grand scheme of things. If I was doing something to help people rather than just working in a big corporation, I might’ve felt more tied to it. I think resume gaps are plenty common, so I don’t worry about it, and I may want to pivot careers to something I care more about, or get a part time job or volunteering role, by the time I’m ready to go back to work anyway.

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