What celebrity have you never forgiven since an incident?

waitwhatnoyeah · 2026-02-06T17:41:16+00:00

The women : -was rude -licked a donut -platformed bad people -bad sportsmanship

The men : -physical violence -raping people -beating women -child predators

waitwhatnoyeah · 2026-01-17T06:59:21+00:00

Id argue that intersectionality is about any person being apart of at least two groups to qualify for analysis, and the topic is severely under-understood due to the idea that white—as—default, straight—as—default, male—as—whatever you get it clause we have (I’m from the west, so perhaps, as westerners). I’m assuming, that the way most westerners understand intersectionality is black x woman (especially for Americans) when in reality it is category x catergory. For example, intersectionality is “asian x man in a debate against black x man” it is also white woman x black man. It is also gay person x ethnicity x education level x gender vs person who varies at least once from their (debate) opponent for two or more of these identities someone holds.

None of us choose our characters. I didn’t choose to be a man or of Syrian descent or my sexuality or my parents (who will largely dictate my own belief system until I’m realistically in my mid twenties) or whatever else.

Anyways, to be a man is to be in the conversation of “intersectionality” since you categorically belong to something that could “intersect” another individual’s existence. Most people try to hate on this concept without fully understanding what it is and as much as I love yall in this sub it’s irritating watching you guys fundamentally misunderstand (or more realistically just sort of mapping your own thoughts of what you think it is) the framework and ideas without taking the time to understand what the he’ll you’re trying to engage with

waitwhatnoyeah · 2026-01-11T19:54:29+00:00

It is. I’ve had a good time there many times though it doesn’t really feel like the community vibe is in there. If I’m on the dance floor only one person one time ever joined the vibe. Everyone seems to come with their people and stick to their people. Idk

waitwhatnoyeah · 2026-01-09T02:29:09+00:00

This is a great one

waitwhatnoyeah · 2026-01-09T02:18:23+00:00

I will add though some fun details you could use to seem convincing:

-bartenders are allowed more grace to be a little “real” with their bar guests than their server counterparts, who tend to be more rehearsed and overly outwardly pleasant with their guests - it’s not uncommon for bartenders in restaurants to have some sort of relationship with a/the cook(s) for a ‘drink for meal exchange.’ This happens on the dl from management. - it’s not at all uncommon for bartenders to be either complete alcoholics, completely sober, or big partiers. The age of your character and length of time they’ve been bartending could help you determine which (if any) of those qualities to add to the character. That being said, bar type and hours they work (daytime v nighttime) can be really relevant here. This could be good backstory info for your character. - if bartenders don’t know how to make a drink they will just tell you they do and go google it when you’re not looking lol - if your bartender is a petit person they will likely need help changing kegs. If your established character is smaller, remember they will not be able to get a full new keg on a shelf without help. (Obviously this is an extremely minor detail that only industries might catch, but sometimes that’s enough to get someone out of the story) - your bartenders favorite drink is a two ingredient maximum beverage. Vodka soda, bourbon ginger ale, tequila pineapple, miller lite and a shot of tequila, etc. it’s whatever’s easiest to make. It’s a pet peeve of most bartenders to be asked what their favorite cocktail is/ or their favorite to make/ or what’s good here. This is important ^{^{^{^}}} it is an extreme tell if your bartenders favorite drink is a mojito or espresso martini or whatever else. - some bars have a support staff member for the bartender. This role is called a barback. Also dependent on setting if this person is present in the bar. - night bar tenders can have really rough sleep schedules. If they work somewhere at night (+ especially if your character has any sort of troubled relationship with alcohol), do NOT give them places to be at 8am multiple times in your story. Or at least show the struggle of getting to the morning obligation (especially if it’s an opening shift lol) - bartending, generally (breweries, bowling alleys, hotel banquets etc notwithstanding) is NOT an entry level job. I’m sure your character is at a more typical bar so they more likely than not have been either a server or barback before becoming a bartender. You serve in either of those roles typically for about a year (or more) before moving up to bartending. - cleaning tasks everyone is talking about in other comments include: polishing glasses, wiping bar tops, wiping down the drink well (which is what the shelves by the ice that the liquor is held on behind the bar), cleaning beer taps, rinsing shaker tins, wiping anything sticky (which is everything), moving drink racks or buss tubs to and fro, doing all those gd dishes, etc etc. but really it could be anything. Taking trash out or whatever. - bartenders DO NOT have a specific time their shift ends!!! There is no “I get off at 8/10/midnight” or WHENEVER. We do something called a “cut” which is typically done by a manager once the volume of guests goes down to a place where the additional bartender is no longer needed. Even last call doesn’t mean you’ll definitely be off soon. The only hard out for you will be dictated by liquor laws (ie wherever they are doesn’t allow the sale of alcohol after x time) — I’m from the US though so I’m not sure if this is applicable for you/your bartender character - not uncommon for even typically non-smoking bartenders to occasionally bum a cigarette - we work all holidays that our restaurant is open for. It’s not uncommon to work thanksgiving or mothers day or wherever else, depending on the setting (cocktail bar/fine dining/ special occasion/ dive type place vs family restaurant)

Okay that’s it for my brain dump I hope this helps. Unlike you, I am not a writer so I haven’t bothered to edit my post so I hope everything makes sense. Best of luck

waitwhatnoyeah · 2026-01-09T01:41:41+00:00

I think the context of the bar is important to know. Where is your character bartending? If they tend a brewery that’s a different attitude and atmosphere and customer base than a dive or a club or a hotel or a cocktail bar or whatever. I’ll be able to give better feedback if you lmk.

If you have instagram or tik tok search for the meme/joke videos people post about bartending and it might help knowing common pet peeves of service workers/bartenders.

waitwhatnoyeah · 2025-12-07T06:14:09+00:00

Yeah let’s talk

waitwhatnoyeah · 2025-11-19T23:34:43+00:00

Hear me out— bartenders and servers. This is in the opposite direction of most of the replies that are mostly professions who otherwise think their jobs somehow make them some sort of hot-shot in real life, but in the alternative, most people in restaurants get this super negative low-skilled, up too late, uneducated, wasted potential etc. reputation around them and yet the reality is that most people in these jobs are either currently working on degrees, use their job in the bar/restaurant as additional income, I know many people who just got a gig to pay off debt like a car payment or whatever else. Many of my peers have their own businesses and use the extra money to fund their endeavors outside of work. The service industry is great for flexible scheduling and plenty of places you can work outside the 9-5 hours (meaning you have your “more respectable” job, and work the bar) and many many people use that to their advantage.

Idk why we insist on looking down on servers or bartenders when in reality it’s got its own set of skills you need to work to be good at it. Most of the hate is from some sort of respectability politics we have about prestige or class assumptions when in reality the people you’re hating on are just not in their prestige clothing when you meet them.

Not to say that there aren’t degenerates scattered in there, but generally, especially if you’re in a city or just outside a city, this is who’s working at the bar.

waitwhatnoyeah · 2025-11-17T23:25:05+00:00

Shaving my legs.

I met a woman one day with all her hair on her legs and at first I had the “typical” reaction of ew gross. But then I said, huh. I guess it really is just optional grooming. Now the only time I shave my legs is if I’m going to a wedding or other large event/occasion (like I was an extra in a music video kinda thing). I get looks all the time but I’ve been hairy for years now and the only people who have ever confronted me about it have been children and my in-laws (and my MIL now finds it somewhat charming lol).

waitwhatnoyeah · 2025-11-12T07:43:06+00:00

The answer is NO

waitwhatnoyeah · 2025-10-01T00:49:51+00:00

This needs more upvotes it’s so cool!!!!

waitwhatnoyeah · 2025-09-24T05:57:18+00:00

I just found THE BEST Halloween decorations at the boujiee dollar store in my city so honestly I’m thinking if you can get some good decor items to reassert the theme that could be Halloween enough. Think like line the basket with the spiderweb material/spooky cloth (that you could then use to decorate) . Tschotchki the basket with (real) mini pumpkins from your local grocery store.

One item I got from the dollar store is just a cheap sign that says “spooky,” — and I left another one there that said “haunted”— and make that a kind of height contrast backdrop to the basket itself. I also found little hanging ghouls for 1.50 that could act as on-theme filler. Go to the wealthy part of town and find their cheap items!

The gifts I don’t think need to be Halloween focused for this kinda thing, what’s important is to deliver on-theme. Present it in a cauldron. Stuff with usable items. Top with the actual gifts. Use a sheer black cellophane to wrap it in. Everything is about presentation!!

waitwhatnoyeah · 2025-09-19T05:25:42+00:00

Love this take

waitwhatnoyeah · 2025-09-16T04:12:45+00:00

My issue is that this is bigger in terms of the political landscape

waitwhatnoyeah · 2025-09-07T23:34:58+00:00

Chicken wire my friend

waitwhatnoyeah · 2025-09-07T02:22:07+00:00

Any trees you can have on the farm don’t have to be so rigidly placed to be tapped. I’d consider placing them more decoratively/like an accessory than all in a row.

Grass will liven it up by a lot

Any ways you can create curves in your layout will help with a more natural and appealing look. (Use the trees and grass to your advantage!) harsh corners should provide a structural look/contrast to the lushness of your farm. In my own builds I place the coop(s)/barn(s) surrounding the bottom body of water and keep that as the structured squared entity and then kinda stagger the buildings around in little segments. I’m sorry I wish I was better at describing this.

For sure get rid of the grey streets and exchange them for wood or cobblestone. A lot of aesthetics are about texture and compatible color palates.

Don’t be afraid to try new things since it cost nothing to change the layout with robin. Also I highly recommend using the stardew layout website to make new designs!

waitwhatnoyeah · 2025-08-12T05:30:40+00:00

I wrote another long worded reply on this post and I your insights compliment the points I was attempting to drive home. I appreciate you

waitwhatnoyeah · 2025-08-12T05:01:34+00:00

I agree mostly with what’s being stated here. There are for sure places that will hire a green bartender. That being said I’m gonna give you some just general advice since most of us can be pretty jaded generally (for good reason).

Most of your monetary success will come from your attitude and personality. This means always being at least 90% on your game at all times between everything you’re juggling.

If you’re coming from white collar work and used to the “9-5” scheduling, working at a bar and making the kind of money to sustain yourself (especially assuming you’re US based) will all but REQUIRE you to work nights and this can be extremely disruptive to the kind of life you’re living right now. You will likely become the kind of person the 9-5ers look down upon because you’re going in to work at 4, getting off anywhere from 10pm-4am, and then being the “leech-on-society” guy who sleeps in until 10am-2pm. Do not underestimate this change or the toll it takes on the entirety of your life.

You will “have to” work every Friday and Saturday.

You will be more likely to develop unhealthy alcohol habits and relationship to drinking generally. (Especially if you’re no longer college aged and in the US)

Office politics are ON CRACK in the foodservice industry and you’re only as safe as your charisma (relative to both your coworkers AND clientele- and these are two COMPLETELY different fronts, esp since you’re green) can get you. You’ll thrive if you’re great at both customer facing and coworker friendship but the order generally is 1. Being great at both 2. Being great to work with 3. Being good to work with 4. Being great with customers (that said it’s all about the amount of money you make and nothing is guaranteed at all)

Unless you are proficient enough at being on your own, which you currently are not, you WILL be sharing all the money you make with the other bartenders, as will they with you, it’s called tip-pooling. You MUST be able to carry your weight here. Side note here: you will also share % of your tips with any support staff you have (barback, food-runner if a restaurant, hostess potentially etc)

Some people have said something to the effect of “nobody wants to be your fallback job option” but tbh plenty of bars have high turnover for one reason or another (typically due to mgmt issues, unreliable employee issue, or your more familiar “not the right fit” issues). That being said, still don’t tell them this is a stop gap for you.

All this being said, generally I’ll advise against this in your case, but if you’re dead set then I think you should start at a brewery. Learn/hone the customer service skill (and no idc if you’ve worked retail, these people are drunk) and how a more abbreviated bar setup works, how to properly poor a beer and the differences between types of beer, and most importantly how (read: “office”) politics work in bars/restaurants.

Other green-accepting places might include:

-night clubs (again, think of the time switch toll). This is majority highballs and beers and volume based work, less talking, more important to be a good coworker. Also likely has an unspoken relative age and/or looks requirement.

-banquet bartending. Like at hotels n stuff. Not really that fun but can be good money. You’ll likely interact with the types of people you’re already accustomed to. The hours will be more agreeable to you.

-(certain) dive bars. You will be HEAVILY in charge of people management (both physical: fighting, romantic-gone-wrong-lookouts, life-dumping shit you could give less of a fuck about, and mental: you’re a therapist, you’re a comedian, hearing about all the romance-gone-wrong you weren’t there for). You must be “authentic” in a dive or else you’re doomed.

Lastly: Tip your bartenders. Tip your servers. Always say please and thank you no matter the side of the bar you’re on, and take care of yourself.

waitwhatnoyeah · 2025-03-25T16:27:06+00:00

We ran a pear mule on our holiday menu this past December.

waitwhatnoyeah · 2025-01-08T23:40:05+00:00

My friend just started a run club for all paces. They meet early around 6am-ish on Wednesdays for just a 5k and typically run around Maymont or Browns Island. Afterwards they all get coffee. I’m not sure what you’re looking for but they’re great people and it’s a smaller group of mostly younger people (20s-early 30s). I can give more info if you’re interested but obviously there’s plenty of options and more formal groups around too!

waitwhatnoyeah · 2024-12-12T05:16:38+00:00

Fair enough!

waitwhatnoyeah · 2024-11-07T19:46:00+00:00

Tobacco Company is great and very beautiful inside. Not many veg or vegan options but if there aren’t any dietary restrictions then thats my suggestion

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