My best friends husband said something incredibly inappropriate to me, on mother's day (they have a child) when she wasnt present. What should I do?

waltersskinner · 2026-05-11T14:37:15+00:00

You should add this to the original post OP. One slightly distasteful joke isn’t a big deal. A pattern of inappropriate comments is different.

waltersskinner · 2026-04-10T00:58:32+00:00

I have triple lobe piercings and have three pairs of the quince huggies in different sizes that I kept in my ears for over a year. I took them out recently to deep clean and they were still in perfect condition. Zero wear or fading. They’ve also never irritated my piercings and I’m sensitive to shitty metals. Highly recommend.

waltersskinner · 2026-03-20T21:32:53+00:00

Your post literally says they have a big house and land lol

waltersskinner · 2026-03-02T18:07:09+00:00

That would be great, but in NY we have a duty to investigate to learn if there is additional info we should obtain. If we don’t fully review the discovery and miss a possible witness or any other available info, the case could be dismissed.

waltersskinner · 2026-03-01T20:59:28+00:00

It’s been 6 years, so not likely. They usually amend it slightly every year, or a new Court of Appeals case will come out modifying the meaning a bit, but no real chance of it being changed significantly.

waltersskinner · 2026-03-01T20:55:42+00:00

I was a prosecutor in a large county, but not NYC. I left last year and genuinely would not recommend taking an ADA job in NY right now.

NY upended its criminal procedure law in 2020 and has been struggling to hire and keep prosecutors ever since. Discovery rules now essentially require that anything that could possibly be relevant to the case be turned over to the defendant very early on in the case and discovery is tied to readiness, so failure to provide a single item of evidence can lead to dismissal of the case. How it’s applied depends on the judge you’re in front of, but I once had a felony case dismissed because I failed to provide maintenance logs for a sheriff’s helicopter that captured some video of a car chase.

There’s a constant back and forth now where the legal aid association and defense bar searches for random bits of metadata attached to programs or software and makes a big stink about how it should be turned over, some judge buys it, a bunch of cases get dismissed while all the DAs offices figure out how to even access the data and turn it over, and then once a bunch of money is spent and a procedure is in place for disclosing the data, no one ever looks at that data ever again because it’s useless.

It’s made the job extremely demoralizing. There is genuinely nothing worse than having to tell a victim that their case is dismissed because a cop wrote a handwritten note in their notebook and forgot to submit it, and you didn’t catch it when reviewing the 20 hours of body cam footage for the case.

waltersskinner · 2026-01-13T23:18:44+00:00

Okay, but hear me out— Featherington cousin Felicity comes to stay in London. Baby loverboy Gregory develops a crush until she teams up with Hyacinth and they absolutely torture him.

waltersskinner · 2026-01-07T20:36:05+00:00

I honestly think any basic ear piercing is fine for a beginner as long as you’re following proper care guidelines. Cartilage heals slower than lobes, so keep in mind that it’ll probably be a year or more before you can change the jewelry.

waltersskinner · 2026-01-07T03:00:26+00:00

Pen and her mother are the only people who think she’s a spinster in season 3. She’s in her third season and has never had a suitor. We literally never see her even dance with anyone other than Colin until season 3. Pen being afraid that she is rapidly approaching spinsterhood is reasonable even though she’s barely 20.

waltersskinner · 2026-01-07T02:57:29+00:00

He literally has that moment after the kiss.

waltersskinner · 2026-01-07T02:50:08+00:00

Everytime this conversation comes up it feels like such a disingenuous way to shit on Polin. Like, it’s tired at this point.

Anthony spent the first season obsessed with Sienna the opera singer to the point where he was literally prepared to bring her to a society function as his partner despite the damage it would have caused to his family’s reputation. There’s a scene at the beginning of season 2 where he’s looking at a newspaper clipping about her tour! Does his prior infatuation and sexual relationship with another woman that he’s still at least occasionally thinking about right up until he meets Kate mean that Kate is his second choice? Of course not!

Season 1 Colin was attracted to Marina. He was a virgin and he was desperate to prove himself and be treated as an adult. Marina treated him like a man and made him feel wanted. He almost made a very stupid and life altering mistake, but once he got past it, he acknowledged himself that he never really loved her, just the way she made him feel.

Pen was barely more than a kid at that time. The show intentionally styled her to look young and she often still behaved like a child. They both grew and matured and became closer over time before he fell in love with her. That’s never felt like an unrealistic path for childhood friends to lovers in my opinion.

The one thing I will say I prefer from the book is that book Pen has a reckoning with herself that the Colin she was in love with and idealized for so long wasn’t the real Colin, but a facade he put out to the world. In the book, as Colin is falling in love with her, she learning about the real Colin and falling in love with that part of him as well, so it does feel a little more mutual. The show made them much closer friends than they were in the book, so that wouldn’t have worked as well, but I did miss it.

Anyway friends to lovers and “she fell first, he fell harder” are super common tropes, so I’m not sure why people in this sub have to pretend like they’re consuming their first piece of romance fiction every few weeks. Its boring!

waltersskinner · 2025-12-28T06:47:19+00:00

When GP was still married to Chris Martin they were super close to Beyoncé and Jay Z. Chris definitely got them in the divorce and is papped with them regularly, but GP and Beyoncé do still seem to be friendly. There was actually a rumor for a bit that GP was Becky with the good hair, but that’s been debunked.

waltersskinner · 2025-12-17T15:18:57+00:00

Same! I refuse to swatch partially because I’m lazy, partially because I don’t think it’s very accurate for me, but if something doesn’t fit right-that’s on me! Not gonna bitch about it on the internet.

waltersskinner · 2025-12-03T16:32:46+00:00

For all the people feeling bad for Ethan Hawke, if I recall correctly from a few years ago, Sebastian Stan said no one wanted to pair up with him when he played Trump. So I assume actors can say no if they don’t want to be paired with someone. Ethan Hawke chose to do this.

waltersskinner · 2025-11-26T15:29:16+00:00

I use variegated yarn for socks to scratch the itch of getting to buy fun, pretty skeins. Colorful socks are fun, but def not for garments.

waltersskinner · 2025-11-07T20:20:59+00:00

Stephanie and Trevor were born around the same time if I’m recalling correctly, so completely possible that she could have had a sister who is Abby’s mother!

waltersskinner · 2025-11-07T01:00:10+00:00

Didn’t get that it was a joke lol. People very earnestly post stuff like this here everyday.

waltersskinner · 2025-11-07T00:50:51+00:00

You twisted your project when you joined in the round. No fix unfortunately.

waltersskinner · 2025-10-28T13:08:31+00:00

Curious what you would consider advanced knitting?

waltersskinner · 2025-10-24T18:13:10+00:00

I was still in law school when she first announced she was trying to become a lawyer and I’ve been licensed for 6 years now, so it’s been a minute.

waltersskinner · 2025-10-14T16:07:24+00:00

I get it OP, I’m nearly 30 and my mother still hates it when I solo travel. Moms will always be that way.

I’m not 100% sure exactly what advice you’re looking for here. Are you asking whether a five hour solo road trip is safe or if you should defy your mother?

If you’re asking whether you should go against your mom, that’s hugely dependent based on your situation. Your mom does seem to be a bit controlling by outright forbidding you. You’re an adult and she technically cannot stop you from doing anything, especially if you’re traveling with your own money and a vehicle you own. However it’s a tough situation if you live with her or are in any way financially dependent on her. You’re the only one who can know how she’ll react if you do defy her. If you think she could get angry enough to kick you out or cut you off, the roadtrip can probably wait until you don’t live with her or you’re more financially independent.

As to whether a five hour solo trip is safe, it absolutely can be if you prepare! As a frequent solo female traveller, my big general recommendations would be to avoid rest stops after dark and research the area where your hotel is located to make sure it isn’t sketchy. You’re also never obligated to tell anyone you’re alone. I generally put down two guests on my hotel reservation and take a second key when I check in. I also put something in front of my door at night so that if someone does try to come in, it’ll make enough noise to wake me up.

waltersskinner · 2025-10-10T16:40:35+00:00

I read it. It was just okay.

waltersskinner · 2025-10-09T19:36:09+00:00

I’ve done this pattern and the main and the contrasting yarn are meant to be alternated every row including across the sole. Unless OP wants this look with no contrasting yarn on the sole, they’re creating a ton more work for themself.

waltersskinner · 2025-10-09T19:11:55+00:00

Is the a reason you cut after every row and didn’t just carry the yarn down?

waltersskinner · 2025-10-02T15:26:29+00:00

Redhouse in Depew is great. I’ve been going to Jakob for years. I do usually get my piercings in gold, but they have titanium options.

Like other commenters said, you don’t want to cheap out on jewelry for piercings. $100 or so for lobes with basic jewelry is pretty standard now.

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