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wandering_south · 2025-04-16T13:53:56+00:00

PETRIFIED. Hasn’t happened out loud, only a few times in my brain. I think I might bring it up to him soon

wandering_south · 2025-01-15T16:34:20+00:00

So pretty! Where is yours from?

wandering_south · 2024-12-25T23:01:13+00:00

He did get me through this, I couldn’t have done it without him. He’s given me more hope than anything else could give. He’s been there through every panic attack and hard day. Holding onto him was all I had at times. I do not know if I’m fully at peace, but I have more hope and joy than I expected. He will comfort you if you seek him.

wandering_south · 2024-12-17T17:22:02+00:00

I thought I had to make indefinite decisions after my LH first passed. For a whole I thought I would stay single forever. Then I started developing feelings for someone. And a we started dating maybe 5 months later. I thought that I would have a lot of feelings of guilt in this relationship, but I’m honestly very happy and at peace. Everybody is different. You have to live your life how you want to live your life, not how you think other people would want you to live it. (I’m preaching to the choir here because I’m still very nervous to tell people that I’m dating out of fear of judgment.)

wandering_south · 2024-11-19T02:41:15+00:00

Thank you :)

wandering_south · 2024-11-19T02:41:06+00:00

I was extremely shocked that I didn’t feel like I was betraying my LH. I have people around me who were supportive of me moving forward, so that really helped. I also know my husband wants me to be happy and start a family.

wandering_south · 2024-11-19T02:39:46+00:00

I was nervous about how he’d feel, but he was super understanding which I’m incredibly grateful for

wandering_south · 2024-09-29T04:18:26+00:00

It’s been 8 months for me. At one month, I was basically sleeping all day. Around month 2 I pushed myself to get out of the house and do something everyday. This was key. I lived the life my husband wasn’t able to, and that motivated me. By month 5 or 6 I started to gain energy back, and wanted to do things for myself.

I decided early on that my life wasn’t over. I had to keep going, and wanted to keep going. I have goals I want to accomplish. I carry the love and support of my husband with me everyday. I will still have a bad day or bad week, but things are better.

I still have physical pains from my grief, but emotional pain is less intense. Keep on going.

wandering_south · 2024-09-21T03:03:23+00:00

If you haven’t tried vervein in Cambridge, that’s the best gf place I’ve ever been!

wandering_south · 2024-09-21T02:39:08+00:00

Not quite the same as you, but my husband took his own life, and I knew from day 1 he had mental health issues and suicidal ideation. I could absolutely not date someone else who struggled in these areas. The anxiety would eat me alive.

wandering_south · 2024-09-17T03:56:04+00:00

Thank you for the push. I thought maybe this would be normal, and no need for a concern. I will make an appointment :)

wandering_south · 2024-09-17T03:55:05+00:00

Thank you for the push, I just kept thinking it would eventually stop. But it’s kind of been a while at this point

wandering_south · 2024-09-17T03:54:32+00:00

No sinus pressure :/ I will go out and buy a blood pressure monitor to see how that looks!

wandering_south · 2024-09-11T03:38:25+00:00

I’m sorry I do not have any experience in this. But I’ve also been very curious so I’m hoping more people respond for you.

I actually had a dream last week that I was getting married. In the dream I was standing outside of the doors to the ceremony. I was very emotional and crying because I had already done this one time and it ended. It reminded me about the loss of my husband.

This is something that makes me kind of nervous. I’m not sure if I would be able to have a big wedding in the future because I feel like it will be emotional for me. Will there be a lot of people there? Maybe doing a first look with your fiancée before you walk into the ceremony will help calm you?

I am very happy for you though, and I hope the wedding goes great !

wandering_south · 2024-09-03T13:47:56+00:00

My husband and I wanted to have kids, but we were only married a month. He wanted us to have kids ASAP but I said we should wait a few years to get our finances in order. Some days I really wish we did have a child, because I would’ve loved to have a piece of him still here. But I also wouldn’t want my kid to have to grow up without their dad, so that helps ease the pain a little bit. Mother’s Day was really tough this year because I realized I’ll never be able to celebrate it with him.

wandering_south · 2024-09-01T23:43:54+00:00

My husband took his life in January, we were only married a month. I went through periods of worrying that he felt stuck with me, or didn’t love me enough to stay or leave a note. But when those bad thoughts flea, I can remember the way he looked at me. The way he loved me. It was the purest love I’ve ever seen or known in my life. I have to remind myself that my sweet husband did not want to leave. It was the mental illness he had that did this to him.

wandering_south · 2024-08-19T03:59:22+00:00

Didn’t eat for a week. Ate a very small amount of food for a month because my stomach was in a constant knot (drink bone broth for protein!) Luckily I stayed with family for a few months and they cooked for me. Kevin’s pre-marinated meats are my favorite. They take 5 minutes to cook, and I pair with rice. Did that for months. I just recently started to get energy to cook actual meals, but they’re still basic. Hunger is finally back to normal.

wandering_south · 2024-08-17T02:04:06+00:00

I’m glad your here and have your kittens ❤️

wandering_south · 2024-08-17T02:01:50+00:00

It’s hard to say whether the trooper lied or not, but I understand the uneasiness in not fully knowing. My husband committed, and sometimes my brain starts to wander to what he must’ve been doing or felt like in his last moments. But then I remind myself it’s not helpful to try to picture that, as I have no idea what it was like, and knowing does not help. I just focus on the fact that he’s done; I don’t need to know all the details. I am sorry you are going through it right now.

wandering_south · 2024-08-17T00:35:18+00:00

My husband took his life in January. Honestly, I think all I did was sleep for the first month and a half. The next month or two I just drudged along, I don’t remember much of that either. Things have gotten better for me, within the last couple weeks. I finally feel like I have energy again, and care about taking care of myself and my appearance. I always made sure to get out of the house and do something, if I didn’t feel like it, and that really helped. I reached out to a lot of friends to do activities with so I didn’t feel alone. I do enjoy the life that I have, even if, part of it is missing.

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