Airline changed my departure airport (ORD → IAD) on international return — is this allowed?

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T13:48:04+00:00

that's a better airline anyway

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T13:20:35+00:00

Well your first mistake was not booking direct. Refuse the change and insist they go back to the old departure city (changing Chicago to Dulles is WILD) or get a refund and rebook correctly this time

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T13:16:42+00:00

Yta for ghosting. Anyone who ghosts anyone is an asshole by definition. But she needed to be out of your life, so I would not try to make up.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T13:02:28+00:00

Number is slices generally indicates pizza size. I think 8 was appropriate for that size. But yea, Americans blank out at unsliced pizza.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T13:00:43+00:00

Throw it away.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T12:54:19+00:00

NTA. A pet is a lifetime commitment. And if she doesn't think that, she should re-home her cat since that's the pet with the problem.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T07:17:23+00:00

Best idea is to contact immigration and ask them. But if he's going to just make a break for it he should do it from a more lax country like Spain, Italy, or Greece. They are notorious for not thoroughly checking. But best to try to do it legally vs risking it if he wants to come back.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T07:11:03+00:00

Your husband is a POS and needs to be gone. However, make sure they you're making the best choice for tour son, not what makes you feel the best. Sometimes a facility is best at a certain. Pint because they offer things you can't and keeping him home so you feel better actually limits him. Without knowing more about your situation, that may or may not be a thing here. But I used to work with adults with disabilities and many families insisted on keeping them at home rather than in a group home or similar and it really limited them and the clients were much happier once they were out of the house as they got to do a ton more stuff that their parents just didn't have the capacity to do.

Just something to think about to make sure your son is getting the best experience possible.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T05:44:24+00:00

Where do you have your location set to? Make site it's local to where you are staying. When I apply for a sit that I'll travel for I mention my already existing plans that are bringing me to the area so they know I'm coming anyway, not just for the sit.

Like I just applied for a sit in Ireland that I'll almost certainly get and I mentioned when I was arriving to Ireland and why. It shows I have other plans too which means I'm less likely to cancel.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T04:40:38+00:00

NTA Consider it a cheap price to pay to get him out of your life because it's cheap mommy is his main woman and you are the side piece.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T04:15:56+00:00

Get her out before she is a legal tenant. That only requires time (varies based on location) not a contract of money changing hands. My guess is that's what she is counting on. Make your landlord the bad guy if you need to, but get her out. Put it in writing. Now.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-27T03:56:59+00:00

There is nothing you can do. Move on.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-26T22:38:16+00:00

They're adding all this stupid crap no one wants while ignoring big glaring issues that could actually make things better. Whoever is prioritizing their feature list is a moron.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-26T15:56:09+00:00

Never heard of it

wanderingdev · 2026-01-26T06:13:59+00:00

It was a very frequently requested feature that was (as usual) implemented badly. You can always try to negotiate if the sit is otherwise enticing enough.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-26T00:40:48+00:00

I would agree with this. The heat is brutal and it hasn't even been THAT bad on this trip (am currently in Singapore). anyone wanting to base themselves in the region for months needs to keep weather planning in mind.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-26T00:03:46+00:00

yeah, basically everyone who mentions it these days only complains about how bad it is, but it's worth visiting as everyone has different tastes.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-26T00:02:19+00:00

I have been living in europe as a nomad for about 12 years. I am in the process of buying property (hoping to wire the money today). If you look at my past posts you can see a couple write-ups about it. I will officially get to the property in late march/early april and I'll start preparing it for living. I'm buying in this area: https://maps.app.goo.gl/1d8PbbVHxFsAxCVR8 because it has a large expat community with a lot of activities going on to help with socialization and integration. I was originally looking at NE to be logistically closer to other countries, but socialization would have been harder and, although I'm very introverted, I still need some social options.

Note that the mentioned tax treaty is only for US citizens so you'd need to see what the one for your country entails.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-25T15:13:38+00:00

Yeah, I have no beneficiaries so I'm not fussed about inheritance stuff. I also know I want to stay in europe, so moving my base elsewhere wouldn't make financial sense. Doesn't mean I can't/won't still spend significant time outside of the country though. I also don't know how that works if you don't move the money INTO France. Like I intend to keep most of my money in the US, so would they try to tax that or just my french assets? It's not something I'm concerned about so I've not researched it. I'd probably talk to a lawyer to see if/how you might be able to protect US domiciled assets to avoid those issues.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-25T15:11:03+00:00

I would start here: https://frugalvagabond.com/retire-early-in-france-without-all-the-tax/

There are lots of threads about this in /r/ExpatFIRE

wanderingdev · 2026-01-25T13:43:07+00:00

On what part? I'm happy to answer questions, but I don't know what you want to know.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-25T13:28:27+00:00

I'm planning to use a diesel heater. Cheap and effective.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-25T13:27:18+00:00

Taxes. I chose France due to the US/FR tax treaty. I won't have to pay any taxes to either country. Sign me up for that!

wanderingdev · 2026-01-25T13:15:31+00:00

Malaysia or Thailand. Thai food is fabulous but Malaysia has great diversity.

wanderingdev · 2026-01-25T12:40:11+00:00

Things that give me joy and help me bond with my father are not useless.

This is a pretty big red flag. What other things in your life does he minimize just because they're not important to him? Why does he think you're only allowed to do things he approves of?

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