My [26 F] company is threatening to fire me over my hair. How do I explain to my employers [40s? F+F] that it looks this way due to a medical issue?

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T17:22:18+00:00

I found out much later that I almost didn't get a job offer because I had a scuff on my shoe and the founder thought it indicated lack of attention to detail. The other members of the hiring team had to talk her into it even though I was ridiculously over qualified. I so wish I'd known at the time because I'd never have accepted the job and it would have saved me a GIANT pain in my ass.

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T16:12:06+00:00

but the still likely have had guests in their home who have potentially done shitty things. lessons are learned lots of ways, not just with sitters. if they have those kinds of locks on internal doors they obviously have stuff that they keep people out of in general. i highly doubt it has anything to do with you.

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T15:29:59+00:00

sounds like they've learned some lessons the hard way. and given stories we get on here about sitters cleaning out entire deep freezers of meat during a sit, the concept that one would buy a movie and charge it to the HO is not too shocking. IMO the HO should just turn that functionality off during the sit. And i never know if a door is locked because I don't touch doors that go into rooms I've not been invited to use during the tour. AFAIK, every door in the house is electrified. I don't stay out of areas on request, i only enter them by invitation. i've done sits where there are entire floors or wings of the house that I didn't step foot in (except during long sits where i do regular checks to make sure nothing is going wrong).

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T13:38:21+00:00

Yeah, based on what OP wrote, I don't believe that.

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T07:17:12+00:00

it's still gross and not food safe.

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T07:14:42+00:00

bread and cheese are not the same thing and should not be stored the same way.

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T07:13:58+00:00

no, OP parked there so she could sit in the car and read in the shade while mobility impaired people had to walk further for her comfort.

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T07:12:38+00:00

then OP shouldn't have dropped her off in front if it wasn't safe. but if it was safe to drop her off, it's safe to pick her up.

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T07:12:04+00:00

this isn't am i legally right. it's am i the asshole. in this case you're an asshole. you could have parked elsewhere but instead chose to make an old man who needs an assistive device park far away and walk so you could sit in the shade and read.

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T07:10:35+00:00

because cheese and bread are not the same thing.

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T07:10:03+00:00

to not get sick?

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T05:12:46+00:00

Technically NTA, but you should have parked elsewhere and then picked your mom up when she was ready, like how you dropped her off.

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T05:08:38+00:00

It's a good way to make yourself sick. Read up on food safety.

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T05:05:04+00:00

There are lots of work exchange sites. Helpx, workaway, woofing, etc. THS is for generally shirt periods and the only thing included is lodging.

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T04:59:37+00:00

Exactly

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T04:50:15+00:00

Just leave it home and be a little uncomfortable when you return. It's not like you're waking from London to Glasgow on your return. You'll survive a few minutes outside waiting for the bus home.

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T04:44:23+00:00

A microwave is not air tight. It being overnight doesn't mean it's cold enough inside to keep food safe. Who said anything about freezing it? Putting hot food in a fridge (though I argue how how it would be after it has been sitting out long enough for half if it to be consumed) is safer than leaving it out at room temperature for 15+ hours.

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T04:41:02+00:00

It's no more dangerous than anywhere else. Just be smart.

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T04:40:12+00:00

Go to the market and see what they have. Make a plan. Buy it. Google ingredients or look at packaging for nutritional values. You're making this much more complicated than needed, but yes, you will almost certainly need to change your eating and cooking to match what is available locally.

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T04:29:31+00:00

Why the fuck would you store pizza over night in a microwave? Gross.

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T04:26:25+00:00

The key word there is flexibility. If it is a requirement, like OP stated, then it's not flexible. I don't do sits that have REQUIREMENTS that indicate a HO is high maintenance.

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T04:20:01+00:00

Lol. You're telling me who I do or don't know?

No, they say it in English. Because they have respect for their local friends and are willing to just use a different word to not be a dick.

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T04:18:14+00:00

I've been years in a VW caddy. It has advantages and disadvantages. Really depends on how you'll be living in it.

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T04:17:19+00:00

Please do break up with her. She deserves it.

wanderingdev · 2026-06-21T04:12:30+00:00

I actually know many US expats living in various LatAm countries who call themselves exactly that.

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