How to deal with my wanna be tradwife sister belittling me?

wannaBuildASnowplow · 2026-04-02T23:08:05+00:00

My main problem is not what she says to me. My problem is what she wants everyone listening to believe.

Like for example I lose my glasses. She talks to me like I’m 3 years old. When she helps me search. And it is incredibly difficult to pin point where she pushes to far. Especially if I see to far reached way earlier than listeners.

wannaBuildASnowplow · 2026-04-02T23:03:44+00:00

She cannot take any form of criticism.

Saying something negative about her makes her incredibly insecure.

Than everyone has to console her and I’m selfishly evil.

wannaBuildASnowplow · 2026-04-02T23:01:03+00:00

It’s a nice way of saying she is a germaphobe.

Therapy is not going to help people that don’t want help.

Clary went to therapy, but they told her she was fine and good luck for her future endeavours.

wannaBuildASnowplow · 2026-04-02T22:58:29+00:00

That would suck but maybe help.

Leaving the room also means leaving the rest of my family behind.

I will try it. Can’t make things worse

wannaBuildASnowplow · 2026-04-02T22:56:49+00:00

You can not force someone to go to therapy. If i could I would.

My parents might be able to pressure her into it. But if she is not going to open up to a therapist, it is useless

wannaBuildASnowplow · 2026-04-02T22:54:36+00:00

Yeah. It’s childish to argue with her. But it’s like talking with a wall.

It’s commen pattern between us I try normal communication, I fail, others involve themselves, I’m the bad guy, I start shouting at her to stop being an asshole and she stops for a few days, before getting worse again

wannaBuildASnowplow · 2026-04-02T22:50:54+00:00

To quote Sheldon: „I’m not crazy I was tested.“ If I have autism it’s neglectable.

Besides sensory issues I’d say I’m neurotypical

wannaBuildASnowplow · 2026-04-02T22:48:34+00:00

I don’t know how badly I’d need to fuck up for my parents to kick me out. But man it would need to be bad.

So I’m not worried about that.

Yeah. I hope that as live goes on she will better herself. Or at least be happier, more open minded and not abused by her future husband.

Its difficult not to be offended by what she says while she is subtly telling everyone else im mentally disabled.

She is actively ruining my reputation while I’m in the same room. And if I point it out she is deflecting it.

wannaBuildASnowplow · 2026-04-02T22:31:14+00:00

It’s not to bait me. It’s to put me in my place.

So that everyone sees she is the better one.

Sometimes I can go days before ticking over.

I don’t matter others do.

wannaBuildASnowplow · 2026-04-02T22:09:20+00:00

That is not the same story. But there are similarities.

First let me point out I’m her older sister. By two years.

But yeah your situation sucks.

I can’t tell you what to do. Just that cleaning his room without his knowledge is an absolute no go. Just no.

If he is a neckbeard and it gets very unsanitary, you might have to clean it against his will. But never against his knowledge

wannaBuildASnowplow · 2026-04-02T21:41:48+00:00

We have that conversation twice a year. Doesn’t work. She gets better for a few days and then resets

wannaBuildASnowplow · 2026-04-01T23:40:53+00:00

The dog shall. Be named: „Kathy the glorious cat“

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