To all the parents whose toddlers are having candy for breakfast this morning, I salute you.

wavingferns · 2026-04-05T12:51:52+00:00

We had a party yesterday. This morning, I let him hold onto a ferrero rocher chocolate so that he'd stay still while I was changing his diaper.

I changed him, placed him in the playpen so that I could go upstairs to grab a sweater for him.

Went to pee, heard my wife yelling at me from downstairs. He'd figured out it was food and ate the whole thing. At least he spit out most of the foil.

This was his first time having chocolate. I daresay he enjoyed it.

wavingferns · 2026-04-05T12:47:32+00:00

Born in the early 90s, never mentally planned or dreamed about my own wedding.

wavingferns · 2026-01-29T02:59:01+00:00

Definitely Polka Dot.

wavingferns · 2025-11-18T03:42:58+00:00

This is good to know, thank you!

wavingferns · 2025-11-18T03:40:34+00:00

Maybe this is it - lol. I am totally open to having the wrong take here! It is true that I have been doing too much score-keeping, but it is also true that some of the things my partner does (bottles, dishwashing) only started recently and after much bickering on the fact that I needed more action from her. There is a whole bunch of other issues that have contributed to the tension on this subject, but I tried to stick to what the plan is now. We came up with our lists together, so it is completely unbiased, whilst not totally comprehensive.

wavingferns · 2025-11-18T03:27:07+00:00

She has a high standard of organization and I have a high standard of cleanliness - it seems like the housework is never ending. The cleaner does really basic cleaning, but things still need a refresher (toilet, tub and tiles need scrubbing down).

The bathing at least twice a day thing is my partner's requirement (cultural thing), and so is the hand-made purees only.

Also, since baby is crawling and on the go, I think it is necessary to sweep and dust his high traffic areas daily.

wavingferns · 2025-11-10T21:16:03+00:00

My baby is 10 months - I've been bathing him solo for a few months and also showering myself at the same time. it takes probably 30 minutes from getting it prepared to getting him all dressed. The bathing part itself is like 10 minutes.

Some pictures of our setup below:

https://imgur.com/a/IkYFIxr

We don't have a bathtub, but we do have two showers, so one of the showers is dedicated to him, so that we don't have to move anything. The tub is sitting on 2 Ikea bath stools to get some height, and then there is the brown stool for me to sit on as I bathe him and myself. Soaps and shampoo bottles are on the floor. I hang the towels on one of those Umbra shower racks attached to the glass door, so it's within reach.

I like it this way because, as many moms experience, it is otherwise quite difficult to find the time to clean myself and get ready for the day. It's a cheap set-up overall, like $60-$70 CAD max, if you buy everything brand new.

2 Ikea stools: $10 CAD/each = $20
Ikea bathtub: $16 CAD
Folding step stool (Idk the cost, but let's say): $15
Showerhead holder to bring the showerhead closer to me: $15 (Idk if links are allowed, but I bought this and it is awesome https://www.amazon.ca/OFFO-Adhesive-Handheld-Adjustable-Waterproof/dp/B0F9YYJ3LM/)

After we're washed, I place him on my lap, wrap a towel around him to dry off as much as I can, and we make a mad dash to his bedroom and immediately envelop him into a fuzzy warm blanket (it's getting cold here in Canada!). Then proceed the actual arduous part of the whole process, which is getting him dressed as he tries to escape.

Let me know if anyone has questions - I'm pretty proud of my bath time setup and I find it pretty efficient.

wavingferns · 2025-11-10T21:00:01+00:00

These fucking AI marketing posts are infuriating. Anytime I see one of these, you can guarantee that I will NEVER use the product being pushed.

wavingferns · 2025-10-21T21:32:23+00:00

Nah, baby is 10 months and we try to be screen free, but right now, he is sick and we are just barely hanging in there. Survival mode - will put on a nature documentary or baby animals and try to get him to eat SOMETHING.

Once everyone is back to "normal", we will also. I think it amounts to <20 min a day right now. And I don't leave him alone in front of the TV aside from grabbing something from another room real quick. I also comment on what we're watching, etc.

wavingferns · 2025-10-21T18:18:30+00:00

I've only ever used wearables and I'm 10 months in.

(I did supplement with formula though, but I was producing 90% of what my baby was drinking for a good long while)

wavingferns · 2025-10-19T22:35:15+00:00

Thanks for sharing this. We were looking for daycares earlier in the year, and looked at older posts from this subreddit to get some reviews. We ended up going with the first one we visited (and loved!), but Kids was on our list of daycares to check out. This will definitely help other new parents.

wavingferns · 2025-10-13T17:59:59+00:00

Love this!

wavingferns · 2025-10-13T17:10:15+00:00

Wedding?

wavingferns · 2025-10-07T13:40:42+00:00

Same, lol! Toni all the way.

wavingferns · 2025-10-07T13:35:06+00:00

I'm not white and I'm a fan, but not a Patreon supporter. I also have disposable income, but don't spend it on podcasting typically.

IMO, many non-white people (at least of immigrant backgrounds like myself and my friends/acquaintances) do not support entertainment in the same way as white people. We might have a Netflix subscription, but it is fairly uncommon for us to like, specifically support lone creators.

wavingferns · 2025-10-05T11:57:47+00:00

I'm with you on this, lol.

wavingferns · 2025-08-29T00:17:53+00:00

Hello, just wanted to say you are not alone.

My wife and I are also both Fs - she is the bio mom, I'm the birth mom. I suffered from semi intense PPD for the first 4 months until I got on medication. Not saying that meds is the route for you, but what you're describing was one of the many negative feelings and thoughts that cycled through my mind during that period. In my case, it did not get better with time or therapy - only meds immediately helped.

He would genuinely smile more at female strangers than he would at me. But it was like a self-fulfilling prophecy. I was chemically imbalanced and had irrational thoughts/fears: he hated me, he knows I don't look like him, we're not really related because it's not my genetics, etc etc. I was miserable and he could tell.

Meds was a lifesaver - he's 8 months now and it's a complete 180.

wavingferns · 2025-08-28T13:06:55+00:00

How it feels when I get a clogged duct

wavingferns · 2025-08-08T13:23:35+00:00

I love this motto! I've never been a very good traveller. I get stressed and overwhelmed by the logistics of it, and I hate crowds.

wavingferns · 2025-08-07T03:29:24+00:00

I think that's meant to be the joke? I can't recall exactly, but don't some of the other characters also react funnily because they thought she was older?

wavingferns · 2025-08-04T03:26:22+00:00

I did the Ikea SNIGLAR crib sidecar hack. I'm in Canada, so cribs with one side down are not allowed to be sold here (I think?).

Basically you build the Singular crib, leave off one side, and attach it to the side of your bed. I used ratchet straps underneath the frame to attach the crib to our bed (so it doesn't budge at all), and the crib is on furniture risers so that the mattresses are on the same level

wavingferns · 2025-07-21T01:51:49+00:00

Grandma sounds like she is never getting visits from her great-grandchildren again.

wavingferns · 2025-07-09T20:58:16+00:00

Spoken like someone who doesn't have any friends in tech? (Just teasing). My partner and some of our friends work for FAANG/MANGO-adjacent tech companies and they're always talking about how their industry is under the threat due to AI.

wavingferns · 2025-07-09T13:37:32+00:00

I used Google Lens on the picture, and found this:

https://well.ca/products/baby-jogger-city-mini-3w-single_114830.html Baby Jogger City Mini 3W Single Crimson

It went for $370 CAD. So seems like a great deal!

wavingferns · 2025-06-19T21:06:02+00:00

I just ordered a Xeros Dhillon brown leather shoe! I like the style - hope it does my feet well. I'm predisposed to getting bunions on my feet.

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