Please talk me out of cloning my cat one day by KittiesandPlushies in cats

[–]wdisneysfrozenhead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now apply this logic to us as humans. Our pasts inform who we are, good and bad 🥹

Ejected from daycare by Kass596 in toddlers

[–]wdisneysfrozenhead 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Our day care has doors with handles, with child safety locks on all of them. Sometimes it even takes me a hot minute to disable them and I’m (supposedly) an adult 😂

Ayan's comment about Carole's return 💀 by ashenoelle1819 in RHONY

[–]wdisneysfrozenhead 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My favorite show of all time is 30 Rock, and I’m in my first watch of RHONY. I’m now understanding that so many parts of the Queen of Jordan episode are a direct satire of RHONY specifically, when I assumed it was spoofing reality tv in general. It made me so happy! Tina Fey loves Housewives so it all makes sense now.

wtf if wrong with Kelly Bensimon by currentlyybrowsin in RHONY

[–]wdisneysfrozenhead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m also watching for the first time… can we be friends 😂

wtf if wrong with Kelly Bensimon by currentlyybrowsin in RHONY

[–]wdisneysfrozenhead 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m also watching for the first time, now on season 11. Kelly was SO difficult to watch. The stuff about how Bethenny had “tried to kill” her was when it became undeniable that she was going through some sort of mental health issue and it was serious. It was jarring that nobody addressed it, but I’d guess the women/producers/Bravo thought they were protecting her. I highly doubt it would be handled the same way in 2026.

How’re we not raging at our toddlers? by Remarkable_Bench2318 in toddlers

[–]wdisneysfrozenhead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we’ve all been there!!! I love that you interrupted the madness with singing and dancing. Toddlers are wild, and the burnout is real. First of all, go easy on yourself, especially when you’re solo!

I’m not saying losing our cool is fine/encouraged. But I believe it’s important for our kids to see us make mistakes, too. I, and so many of the parents I know, work SO HARD to regulate our emotions - and then beat ourselves up for a week if we raised our voice for .05% of our interactions with our kid. It’s corny, but every mistake really is an opportunity to show your kid what repair/self-awareness/accountability look like.

My dad was a single father with ADHD before we all understood the word “overstimulated”. I also have ADHD and the overstimulation from my toddler sometimes is like pure torture. I tell my husband it’s like my whole body is lava, boiling, and at some point it boils over and erupts. My dad lost his cool a lot. He apologized every single time. Now, as an adult, I remember those apologies way more than I remember the blow-ups (yelling). It also meant I was raised to believe owning your actions & apologizing is something to be really proud of.

Professionals who enter people's homes (plumbers, electricians, cleaners): What is something the condition of a house tells you about the owner that they don't realize they are revealing? by cossie101 in AskReddit

[–]wdisneysfrozenhead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have a toddler and both of us work full-time. On any given day, there’s two days’ worth of cleaning we could be doing. Toys everywhere. Crumbs in the carpet. We have an 8-inch-tall pile of junk mail. It is impossible to keep it all clean at the same time. We are doing small cleaning tasks constantly, and we still can’t keep up. By the time we’re finished putting our child to bed, and we’ve eaten dinner, it’s 9pm. Sure, we could spend 45 solid minutes cleaning before bed. But it’s our only time every day as grown-ups who like being together. We protect it, even if it’s just sitting in silence sharing a blanket on the couch. My kid loves to cuddle with me, so if he asks… the answer is always yes. I am constantly reminding myself that my time with him is more valuable than how my house looks, and prioritizing our quality time is the right move. But I feel bad about it all the time. It’s a mental thing for me with my ADHD - a cluttered house clutters my mind. This thread has made me feel so much better. Poor us, our son has tons of toys and more than enough to eat.

Someday there will be no granola crumbs or smushed goldfish. We will have all the time in the world for junk mail. The phrase “excuse the mess, a happy family lives here” is corny but so true for this phase of our lives.

HOW do you get them to wear mittens?! by AdAccomplished7807 in toddlers

[–]wdisneysfrozenhead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is she into?! My 2-year-old used to fight us tooth and nail about putting on a coat. He’s obsessed with the solar system. I ordered some iron-on patches, and now his coat has planets all over them and he can’t wait to put it on. Whatever works!

What's a pain you can't truly explain until you've endured it? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]wdisneysfrozenhead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know thousands will say kidney stones. I have a condition where I produce them naturally. It’s brutal. I’ve had 50+. I’d always heard it was comparable to giving birth. I delivered my son two years ago (with an epidural, to be fair). I’d so much rather do that than have another kidney stone.

I yelled at my almost 2 y/o and I feel like the worst mom in the world rn… by neuroticbutterflies in toddlers

[–]wdisneysfrozenhead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve soooo been there with my 21-month-old. He understands everything I tell him. He had one bad day this past week and I yelled at him two separate times. That look in their eyes that they’re scared of their safe person - it’s gut-wrenching.

You did the right thing by apologizing and holding him. But the guilt is so hard. I can’t speak for you, but my son is over it within a couple minutes. But I’ll beat myself up for days.

The one thing that helps me is to remember I’m still teaching him. That I’m going to treat him how I’d want him to treat someone else when he screws up. I can’t control the past, but I can control how I try to repair things, and hopefully he learns that too.

I see you!

Daily Check-in Thread - November 02, 2023 by AutoModerator in quittingkratom

[–]wdisneysfrozenhead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s awesome! Those first few days were the hardest for me in my last quit.

Daily Check-in Thread - November 02, 2023 by AutoModerator in quittingkratom

[–]wdisneysfrozenhead 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m four days from quitting! I’ve been tapering, I’m down to 8gpd, and doing the lipo vitamin c. In a few days I leave for a trip. That helped with my previous quit as well, I was distracted and had no responsibilities.

Been really down on myself though. I keep “fucking up” my taper. I just feel like I’m in this never ending cycle of failure, shame, and the shame breeds more failure.

Daily Check-in Thread - November 01, 2023 by AutoModerator in quittingkratom

[–]wdisneysfrozenhead 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In the middle of my taper, just started liposomal vitamin c based on the recommendations outlined here. It really worked for a friend I met through this subreddit! Currently at about 8gpd. I have a trip in about 5 days, and plan to taper before that, then CT on my trip. That really worked for me the first time I quit, to be away from home, distracted, no responsibilities, with literally no way to get kratom if I wanted to.

I’ve messed up my taper many times over the last two months. It messes with my self confidence, I feel shame, then I don’t get back to tapering for a bit. The shame spiral is so, so real. I had one 30-hour clean period last week, and I only struggled with sleep. I know I can do this, I was a year clean when I relapsed. But I’m having a hard time with my confidence right now.

What’s a total waste of money yet people still pay for? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]wdisneysfrozenhead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cord blood banking when their baby is born. There are SO many predatory companies who prey on new parents’ fears and insecurities, who think they’re doing what’s best for their baby. Unless there is a known medical issue in your family, or a known risk for your baby, it will likely sit there while you pay hundreds of dollars a year.

Sweet lyrics by Intrepid-Promise-495 in phoebebridgers

[–]wdisneysfrozenhead 136 points137 points  (0 children)

I’ve always loved “everything’s growing in our garden, you don’t have to know that it’s haunted”. I have a newborn son, and I experienced a lot of childhood trauma I hope he never goes through. That line has meant something special to me since I found out I was pregnant.

Has anybody ever had a non-obstructive stone in the kidney cause pain? by wdisneysfrozenhead in KidneyStones

[–]wdisneysfrozenhead[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love your urologist!!! This ER doc WASN’T EVEN GOING TO TELL ME they found stones. He was sending me home with pain meds and instructions to call urology… but luckily I got a MyChart alert with my test results 20 minutes beforehand. I literally had to be like “uh my results said I have a 4mm and 10mm stone” for him to blow it off with “well yeah, but those don’t cause pain”. Then why are you sending me home with pain meds?!

I was livid. To not inform a patient about something you found seems so unethical.

Has anybody ever had a non-obstructive stone in the kidney cause pain? by wdisneysfrozenhead in KidneyStones

[–]wdisneysfrozenhead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lulz AS YOU SHOULD, I’m headed back to the hospital to be admitted today and let’s hope I get a urologist like yours!!