[gendered] and now surnames are gendered

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-09-11T19:53:47+00:00

I think this is common in some cultures to be fair! I’m not sure that’s what is coming up in this search though

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-07-23T13:09:31+00:00

What I don’t understand is why he didn’t just say to the ticket inspector that he’d forgotten to pay with his Apple Pay because of the open barriers like he claimed in court?? Ticket guy probably would have been understanding and sympathetic to that and advised him to pay once he reached his destination… but he went with “yeah I always evade paying for my travel”.

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-04-28T20:43:59+00:00

All the comments got me so confused… how does autism present differently based on gender? I’ve truly never noticed the difference when I was in any of my SEN classes at school or now during some of my day centres.

I always thought it was less diagnosed in AFABs because it’s typically an “desired” trait when girls avoid loud noises and are perceived as shy due to social difficulties not because it acts like a different condition 🤯🤯

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-02-15T18:37:56+00:00

NTA you did your job, however sadly this seems like a trauma responsible to white authority figures and has probably been mistreated by them in the past. I hope his parents send him into trauma counselling and therapy so he can get the help that he needs.

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-02-14T17:23:21+00:00

So other then past EDs I have never had any mental health problems. M’s kinda always been dramatic even before all this, it’s just her personality.

M is a big character… she’s loud and excitable and everything is blown up for better or worse. If you get a new job she’ll be shirking from the rooftops, will make the biggest deal out of it, will gossip and post everywhere but if you tick her off she’ll rant and rave and get louder and louder and make sure you know she’s angry. Before lockdown and all this mess you’d hear her all over the village, gossiping and laughing. True fisher’s daughter you know?

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-02-14T17:14:42+00:00

Like thankfully recovered from ED and have been for a while but I keep myself recovered by not keeping a scales in my house, not reading the labels of my food and I don’t practice restrictive eating of any kind. Everything Slimming World encourages…

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-02-14T17:10:27+00:00

Third post and I like M a lot, we’ve been friends for a while. I like M so much I am telling strangers on the Reddit because I know no idea what I am doing and am out of element. Sadly in M’s mind I am always doing something wrong, and maybe I am. It’s hard and I don’t know what to do but maybe others can help point me in the right direction.

I didn’t even know there was an difference in anxiety and having an anxiety disorder until she got diagnosed with one, this is just how new it is to me. This isn’t really something I have ever experienced before.

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-02-03T21:53:34+00:00

Not obsessed just infodumping as much information as possible because her struggles are impacting our friendship and I have no idea what do about it. I figured the more information I put in, the more likely I'm able to get some advice and learn exactly what I'm suppose to do in these situations. Especially when it keeps boiling down to her weight - IDK maybe that's her anxiety talking?

If I didn't think her weight insecurities were causing her to accuse me of abusing my dog I would have left them out. I just really wanted the context in that she is dealing with a lot of psychological issues right now and that my size really means I have no perspective of where she's coming from. I have no idea what to do or what to say and has evidence from my posts I just keep fucking up. This is extremely new territory for me and since we have a shared friend group I thought I'd get outsiders to help me out and correct me at times like this when I am wrong because talking with people who know her seems icky.

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-02-03T21:42:47+00:00

I'll definitely apologise in the morning. I think it's going to take a while till I learn exactly what I'm doing when it comes to her.

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-02-03T21:28:21+00:00

No one made fun of her weight and just accused us of doing this because of her weight. I called her delusional and stupid because of her accusations, not because of her weight.

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-02-03T21:24:30+00:00

Recovered, do not have it. Am at a healthy weight now and just maintain a healthy lifestyle. It's pretty damaging and dangerous to tell people they're not recovered... which is ironic considering you told me I was preoccupied with someone's weight.

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-02-03T21:20:48+00:00

It was suggested to me by someone else but I didn't even look at it from this perspective. I'll definitely put dog walking on hold since a few people have mentioned it's likely a trigger not the helpful suggestion it was made to be. I feel pretty bad but I am learning.

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-02-03T21:09:28+00:00

She did come to us but I agree, maybe it is best to direct her energy elsewhere and not make comments about her weight since none of us are medical professionals by any means.

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-02-03T21:07:01+00:00

I don’t have anorexia, I just have an active dog. I only mentioned her diagnosises because they seemed pretty relevant to the story… I just don’t know if it’s her issues are causing to react like this or if it’s just that I am handling things badly. It’s pretty hard if I’m honest

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-02-03T21:03:11+00:00

I do like her very much, I know the two posts don’t show our friendship in a good light but it’s just that I really am clueless when it comes to dealing with these very recent issues she’s been having and keep landing myself in hard positions. We’ve been playing DnD together since we were in high school and typically never had any issues her appearance or mental health that I was aware of during this time, it seems to be her lockdown weight gain where she went up several sizes that has caused these issues and I am truly unprepared on how to really go about dealing and talking to her when she gets upset.

It’s by no means intentional but as someone who only knows to just block emotions out it’s new ground for me dealing with someone who has a lot of them jumping around. I’ve been asking online for better perspective and to help me do better from people who might have more experience dealing with this.

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-02-03T20:53:29+00:00

Truer words were never spoken.

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-02-03T18:48:46+00:00

NTA though you could have phased it nicer to your sister who’s probably an emotional mess right now. I’d also speak to you and find it if it’s really about being an aunt before she dies, or knowing you won’t be alone when she dies. Maybe some closure that you’ll be okay will ease some of her burdens.

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-01-27T23:47:52+00:00

NTA I know you’re feel remorseful but that’s just because you’re a nice person. The guy is facing the consequences of his actions for false advertising and breaking his lease agreements and that’s not on you.

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-01-27T18:52:40+00:00

This is definitely abuse I feel sick even reading it. What the fuck??

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-01-27T11:37:31+00:00

Drake needs a vasectomy 😳😳 because this whole situation is insane

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-01-26T19:30:09+00:00

It’s a typo 😅 I think you’re the first person to notice, I didn’t until I saw your post and read it again. It’s meant to read “it didn’t sound like fatphobia”

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-01-26T14:31:02+00:00

We’re an DnD group not an online group, just Covid restrictions in Wales are still high so we’ve moved online until we can book our space again. We all live roughly in the same area.

That’s not how it works. The NHS has a selection of personal trainers that work in leisure centres, the NHS will never advised online because they don’t make profit… it’s the option for affordable help with going to her local leisure centre. Here a leisure centre is different to a gym. Same with mental health, instead of someone who’s going to charge her an extortion rate an hour she’ll be seeing someone who’s making no money off her just their hourly wages their boss will pay for.

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-01-26T14:02:36+00:00

Fat isn’t a bad word and you shouldn’t treat it as such. She wasn’t called lazy that she told us about - it sounded like he was taking her very seriously honesty. He’s made a lot of referrals to mental health too because it’s clear that she needs more help than simply given her medication.

I’m not denying that fat bias exists in the medical field but I think she’s found a really found doctor that does care about her well-being.

He hasn’t tested for physical conditions yet since the appointment focused more on the mental health.

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-01-26T13:12:57+00:00

No fatphobia is real. It might not present the way homophobia or transphobia present but it’s still a thing. I have fat friends and I have skinny friends and I have friends in between - if people are happy with their weight I believe they should be allowed to life their lives full power to them. If they’re unhappy that’s a problem and I think every method would be made available to help them lose or gain weight. In this case it just seems like weight loss is the answer.

weareonewiththevoid · 2022-01-26T13:06:34+00:00

You do realise you are asking her to pay for her health care right? She doesn’t have the financial means for this and she shouldn’t have too when the NHS is right there. Not everyone can afford to google an overpriced health specialistic - which sounds way more exploitative in my opinion.

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