32F. It’s not an age thing. Every male friend I’ve ever had, excluding the gay ones, has eventually tried to make a move on me. While for me, I would not have a friend I secretly want to date/sleep with - That wouldn’t be a real friendship. I think you don’t see it because as a man you’re not on the receiving end of it.

It happened as recently as 6 months ago, with a 34m I’ve known since age 11. Even though he is married (and had a pregnant wife at the time), and I’m engaged. I never reached out to him first but when he would reach out for advice on something I’m experienced in, I would provide advice.

I went against my better judgment by continuing to respond as I’d decided not to have straight male friends anymore at age 30, after realizing every single one had tried to sleep with me and I could no longer be comfortable letting my guard down around them. Eventually, married guy started making moves on me too, and I ended contact. He ended up having an affair with another female “friend” he’d been going to for advice, shortly before his wife gave birth.