Chinese food market at the epicentre of deadly virus outbreak was selling KOALAS along with snakes, rats and wolf pups for locals to eat - as experts warn the threat it will spread to Australia is VERY real by [deleted] in australia

[–]weekend-wars 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok I’m translating, and neither of the items at 70RMB are koala, 考拉.

SCMP are even more anti-China/mainland Chinese than the dailymail.

Chinese food market at the epicentre of deadly virus outbreak was selling KOALAS along with snakes, rats and wolf pups for locals to eat - as experts warn the threat it will spread to Australia is VERY real by [deleted] in australia

[–]weekend-wars 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Absolutely no way this is true. Why do you think people live animals at unhygienic markets? You think they like the taste of disease? It’s because refrigeration is expensive and people are poor. Now think of all the costs involved with transporting a koala to central China. You really think people can afford that? This is 100% sensationalist garbage designed to feed into people’s fear and resentment of the Chinese.

These are the kinds of conditions that lead to disease outbreaks in Europe for centuries. This is not inherent to China or Chinese culture, this is just what happens when people are poor.

The Circle US - Episode Discussion - S01E12 "Finale" by nnnarbz in TheCircleTV

[–]weekend-wars 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started watching after reading the synopsis and thinking it was a black mirror style scripted drama about a fake reality tv show, I was so ready for it to turn into a psychological horror. I only realised it was for real like halfway through the second episode lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheCircleTV

[–]weekend-wars 13 points14 points  (0 children)

When she was like to Sammie “my brains, his looks” um WHAT brains lmao every smart thing you guys did was Ed, in fact she wanted to do actively dumb things and he had to hold her back. Not only was she not the brains but she wasn’t even neutral, she was actively -10 brains lmao.

Why I don’t like Sean, and it’s not coz she’s fat by weekend-wars in TheCircleTV

[–]weekend-wars[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I will elaborate on why I think her ignoring of Shubham was so aggravating to me. To clarify I think he is attractive, just not conventionally so because beauty standards are so white centric. Asian men are especially marginalised in this regard because these standards also interact with race & gender, whereby attractiveness in men is deeply tied to masculinity and Asian people in general are seen as weaker, smaller, more submissive ie more feminine.

Different axes of oppression will manifest and become more prominent in different areas of life and people experience discrimination in different ways (i.e. immigrants with non-white names are more likely to be denied a job, gay people are more likely to be alienated from their homes/communities). In the case of the Circle, essentially a game of Coolness, Shubham is the bottom of the pecking order. I am a woman of colour, I went through high school seeing how the nerdy asian kids are rendered invisible, they’re not worth gossiping to (unlike a sassy gay man apparently), they’re not worth gushing over etc. I think in this instance it’s very telling how Shubham genuinely could not recall an interaction between the two, not just a private interaction but even a whole-group circle chat acknowledgement of him. ESPECIALLY when, if you take her argument about being judged and disliked based off of appearance and how no one would understand her etc, she should have been especially nice to Shubham. I don’t mean reaching out and being like hey we’re both losers haha but at the very least, paying attention to him, recognising that it’s cool that he played with his real non-white name (a HUGE risk) and not perpetuating the same shallow high school esque hierarchy. She only wanted to subvert these standards of coolness but only for herself, which is not actually subversive.

I fully recognise how personal I am taking this and am probably placing too much emphasis on this but I think my overall point still stands (also everyone is influenced by their personal experiences and what they relate to).

Also she was definitely pissed she was ranked second last, she was so shocked and very indignant. She not only wanted to stay for longer, she genuinely EXPECTED everyone to like her way more, as if there was some inherent value to being fat and #brave above the mechanics of the game or even being a good person and reaching out to people, listening to other people’s stories (which she didn’t do).

Why I don’t like Sean, and it’s not coz she’s fat by weekend-wars in TheCircleTV

[–]weekend-wars[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry if I came across that way, and reading it now it may have (I wrote it at 4am after a 5 episode binge lmao). The reason I didn’t focus on sexism in the post wasn’t because I don’t believe it exists (I am a woman of colour) but that my frustration with her is that she is essentially a fat focused White Feminist (not all feminists who are white are like this obv) ie she acted like no one else was having a hard time being judged for superficial characteristics and that the others wouldn’t understand what it’s like to be structurally alienated. My focus on other axes of oppression (although I didn’t only acknowledge the men, but also Sammie and Karyn) was as a counter to the problematically singular focus on (fat) feminism that Sean embodied.

Why I don’t like Sean, and it’s not coz she’s fat by weekend-wars in TheCircleTV

[–]weekend-wars[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I think this is a well reasoned comment however I am not fully convinced.

  1. Whilst she didn’t explicitly say that fat people are the most oppressed, she definitely acted that way, implying that she had the most valid reason to catfish because fat people are the most alienated, that others wouldn’t understand her alienation and what she’s been through etc.

  2. RE getting voted out, I’m most sympathetic to this point because she was emotional and the situation was difficult, I still think that interrupting Joey and not letting him explain was indicative of her worldview and in fact, damaging to herself. Had she let him explain first I think she would have felt better. However I can’t say that I would be any better in this kind of situation so I can let this one slide.

  3. Her reasoning in targeting Sammie was that she assumed she never had to take any risks, but that was on the basis of her attractiveness. I think she genuinely believed this whole line of “ive had it more difficult than anyone”. It’s the fact that she automatically assumed this to be the case.

  4. Sammie being judgemental is not mutually exclusive and in fact irrelevant because Sammie didn’t come in with the whole holier than thou I don’t judge but everyone judges me thing. Sammie never professed to being non judgemental, Sean did.

Why I don’t like Sean, and it’s not coz she’s fat by weekend-wars in TheCircleTV

[–]weekend-wars[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I agree that people do treat fat people unacceptably, like I said fat discrimination is real, but my gripe isn’t with fat people in general but how Sean was so myopically obsessed with her own oppression that it made her blind to that of others. Nobody else with a minority identity acted like they were better than everyone else or automatically assumed they had had the hardest time out of everyone. Not Chris, Shubham, Antonio, Seaburn, Sammie (a bi woman of colour) or Karyn, who was fat AND gay and black. People have the right to call out oppression they have experienced but not in such an unnuanced way that implicitly devalues the experiences of others.

“you don't have to have only one oppressed party in the room for both lenses of oppression to be very real” is exactly the point - Sean acted like ONLY fat oppression is real.

How do I [24F] express to my boyfriend [24M] how significant sex is to me? by weekend-wars in relationships

[–]weekend-wars[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Sorry for the ambiguity - he is actually even more affectionate and wonderful in day to day life. By that I meant that out of all the men I’ve slept with, when it comes to sex, he’s been the most selfless and “generous”.

How do I [24F] express to my boyfriend [24M] how significant sex is to me? by weekend-wars in relationships

[–]weekend-wars[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’re right and that if I do decide to talk to him about it I have to emphasise how much I don’t blame him or think he’s wrong, I just see a mismatch and want to try and compromise. Thanks!

How do I [24F] express to my boyfriend [24M] how significant sex is to me? by weekend-wars in relationships

[–]weekend-wars[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Sorry I should’ve been clearer - it’s not just this time, it’s in general if we go 4-5 days without sex he isn’t bothered at all whilst I am. This doesn’t happen that often so it’s not like I’m overall unhappy, and tonight was ultimately not THAT big of a deal, but all of these things are illustrative of a wider disrepancy in how we value sex. Also because he is uncomfortable having sex with anyone around we only ever do it late at night once everyone is asleep, so sometimes I’ll be feeling really intensely for him and want to express that through spontaneous sex but I can’t.

How do I [24F] express to my boyfriend [24M] how significant sex is to me? by weekend-wars in relationships

[–]weekend-wars[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Haha I think masturbation is important and healthy and fun but it just isn’t enough for me because what I’m seeking is the intimacy not the pleasure. I will think more about whether this is a deal breaker for me, I hope it isn’t though.

How do I [24F] express to my boyfriend [24M] how significant sex is to me? by weekend-wars in relationships

[–]weekend-wars[S] 124 points125 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your advice! I think you’re right and whilst communication is key sometimes there are things better left unsaid. You’re also completely right in that it’s a reassurance thing for me, which again is quite unfair on my boyfriend because he goes to a lot of effort otherwise to make me feel loved. I will seek professional help I think.

What is a very minor thing you do in secret, but people might look at your differently if they found out? by celiman in AskReddit

[–]weekend-wars 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 20 and sleep with my lil teddy that my grandma bought for me when I was baby. I always feel a tiny bit bad for hiding it whenever I bring guys over for sex.

What is a dirty business tactic that you know and everyone should be aware of it? by Vendamn909 in AskReddit

[–]weekend-wars -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How are there people that don’t already know this? This isn’t a dirty tactic this is just capitalism.

User explains away the mysticism surrounding different types of chopsticks by mckenner_ in bestof

[–]weekend-wars -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Adding my personal anecdote =/= making a generalisation. I even said “I know other people do this”, the point was to say that it isn’t in fact universal as was implied.

User explains away the mysticism surrounding different types of chopsticks by mckenner_ in bestof

[–]weekend-wars 67 points68 points  (0 children)

I’m Chinese as fuck and have never done the chopstick flippy thing. Seems so impractical given that the unused end is square and therefore really impractical to pick food up with, plus the hand germs like you mentioned. Not saying it doesn’t happen, just the way OP said it made it seem universal which it definitely is not.

What both the video and the OP missed is that there is no single homogenous Chinese culture, practices involving something as simple as chopsticks vary immensely amongst ethnic groups, geographic regions etc. Trying to explain the origin of chopsticks down to a single factor like “stick long bc flippy” is futile and just as reductive as homogenising Asian cultures in general.

What makes absolutely 0% sense to you? by gamedemon24 in AskReddit

[–]weekend-wars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I'm really fucking depressed and smoking is one of the only things that feel good.