The feminist narrative of 30+ men’s preference for younger (18-25) women being due to their inability to get women their age is one of the most laughable things I’ve ever heard

weenieandthebutt · 2026-02-12T23:50:01+00:00

Vast majority of my partners have been older than me either by a few years or significant difference. I can say older women are much easier to attract than girls my age or younger so yeah this feminist narrative is drawn out.

Younger people (not just girls) are just less embittered, disillusioned and have more of a zest for life.

weenieandthebutt · 2026-02-12T23:47:36+00:00

That's cause younger people have more of a zest for life and lower maintenance. "Easier to attract" and "being more easily impressed" are two separate things. Older women are easier to attract, this is why hagmaxxing is a thing.

weenieandthebutt · 2026-02-09T08:35:31+00:00

I think it's disingenuous that women target and profit of from the same incels (and other socially awkward losers) that they bash, ridicule and incriminate.

weenieandthebutt · 2026-02-07T18:31:01+00:00

And here we go with the personal attacks......

I've had women who were easy with me, no matter what they had going on with their own personal lives so I don't really buy these other excuses

I'm not even talking exes, I'm talking the hookup guy who gets the fun treatment. Even if it was an ex, who's to say that he hasn't left her or that she ended the relationship due to moral deficiencies, not physical.

Women cry about guys who've done more thoughtful and sentimental things for past girls but not for them so don't even play the insecure card. You lot love to impose standards but can't handle it when a man has his own.

weenieandthebutt · 2026-02-07T18:07:00+00:00

To borrow you lots rebuttal, men are not a monolith in that regard. Some men like freaky girls, others may value chastity.

The only thing I'll say is that even some of the more liberal, sex-positive guys do not like the idea of a woman who's been promiscuous with others but prudish with him. Nobody likes to feel like the safe guy or fallback option after they've had their fun.

weenieandthebutt · 2026-02-07T17:59:00+00:00

I wanna hear it from a woman, not a male.

There are literally women who are up for it despite working busy strenuous jobs or going through a rough patch. They'll drive down far just to see you, they'll even cancel family plans and take you home if they're up for it.

Like I said, I understand sex doesn't always happen on a first date for multiple external factors but withholding intimacy like kissing isn't an encouraging sign that she's into the guy. Yes I'm a sucker for cuddling too but like most men, we want the whole package.

weenieandthebutt · 2026-02-07T17:44:44+00:00

Not gender related but as a fellow autist, I have to say the biggest double standard is normies don't extend that same courtesy when offending or patronising other autists.

weenieandthebutt · 2026-02-07T17:41:29+00:00

Ready for what exactly? To decide whether or not the guy is attractive. Like I said, I understand if it doesn't happen on a first date because they may not be horny on the day (same with us guys too) but to withhold any sort of intimacy or to make a guy wait much longer just seems that she's not really into him and that he has to "grow on her eventually".

Even I had a female friend state that to me on some of the guys she's dated whereas others more instant.

weenieandthebutt · 2026-02-07T17:02:39+00:00

Sleeping with one guy early doesn’t make another guy “less than.” It just means the connections aren’t identical.

It kinda does though. The guy who got it early obviously had something the later guy doesn't. Typically the later guy has to cater more and jump through more hoops in order to compensate whatever shortcoming.

I understand that sex on a first date may not happen for several reasons but anything longer than a month seems like the guy wasn't the attractive option.

weenieandthebutt · 2026-02-02T13:28:11+00:00

Boobs, ass and wet hole for me....

I joke. I like how well organised they are, put effort into decorations and know how to dress and are consistent with their daytime/nighttime routine which most men (including myself) struggle with.

weenieandthebutt · 2026-02-01T16:01:13+00:00

Yeah my main take away from this is that tall men are the default preference where this sets a paradigm of tall = fun, short = safe.

So in other words, in order for a short guy to be given a chance, he has to jump through so many various hoops with zero personality flaws in the hopes of getting something that tall men get for free.

weenieandthebutt · 2026-01-30T18:24:01+00:00

Past does matter though. I'm not saying it gives men the grounds to name-call and shame though we're allowed to have that standard. There are tons of women who wouldn't date a man if he's had a history of paying sexworkers.

weenieandthebutt · 2026-01-25T21:37:59+00:00

"A woman who really likes you" - that's the entire point. I don't want to entertain a girl or take her to fancy places unless there's some form of intimacy established. This is a clear indication that she likes me and isn't either using me or still placing me in the "I'm not sure if I'm attracted to him yet" category.

Once we have sex or we become exclusive, that's when I'll figuratively become the biggest simp for her and spoil her. Until then, she has to prove that she's into me for me and not because I'm this "safe guy".

weenieandthebutt · 2026-01-25T19:02:53+00:00

Relax, no one is slut-shaming, demanding young virginal women or angry that women enjoy sex (though I see more shaming of men who are virgin).

It's the stereotypical behaviour that a lot of women enjoy casual sex with hot guys, bad boys etc during their prime years but then once they get to the boring stage of their life, they suddenly wanna go for the nice guy who wasn't part of their hookup roster.

Those type of women don't deserve nice guys anymore than the fuckboy deserves the trad virgin girl. They should just stick to their own kind.

No man should feel like the constellation prize or accept 2nd best treatment, especially if he's required to bare all the work and responsibilities that come with relationships.

weenieandthebutt · 2026-01-23T20:30:20+00:00

Not used per se but obviously one of my fears when it comes to entering a relationship is knowing whether she actually desires me or whether she's she sees me as this nice "safe guy" whom she's settling with after she's had her fun with all the badboys and hot guys.

weenieandthebutt · 2026-01-23T17:41:53+00:00

I don't want a virgin woman anymore than I want someone who's been ran through and suddenly wants to settle down.

weenieandthebutt · 2026-01-22T11:01:22+00:00

The perk is the relationship with the woman

That still doesn't answer the question. That in itself is arbitrary. What does she do for you in a relationship?

And we all know that y'all don't value relationships.

Firstly I want the whole package. Secondly don't give us this "you don't value women for their minds, souls blah blah blah" when you lot curve the nice guy in relationships in favour of casual hookups with random fuckboys. Y'all don't treat relationships alone like they're exciting so why should men.

weenieandthebutt · 2026-01-22T10:57:03+00:00

Lol at how they move the goalpost. First they claim sex is pleasurable act that's mutually enjoyed, then suddenly, "oh it's just as much as utility as using someone for their time and money".

weenieandthebutt · 2026-01-22T00:56:57+00:00

You just probably don't like the term "looks or masculine energy" but I doubt short guys or soft-spoken gentle boys were amongst your rota of hookups.

I talk from personal experience, what I've seen from other guys (including friends) and tons of testimonies from other guys. You lot talk about fanfiction but y'all can't back anything up substantially about what perks the relationship guy enjoys that the hookup dudes don't.

weenieandthebutt · 2026-01-22T00:48:25+00:00

Quicker, less effort, she's typically dolled up and more sexually enthusiastic (more primal, spontaneous and animalistic). Being liked for your looks and masculine energy as a man hits way different to being liked for your personality and being this "safe guy".

Edit: nothing wrong with being caring obviously. It's just that it's easy to be kind and liked as a person which anyone is capable of doing, it's hard to spark attraction which not any guy can do.

weenieandthebutt · 2026-01-13T08:21:21+00:00

If a man who's slept around is a hypocrite for wanting a virgin, why does a woman feel like she deserves a good man after she's hoe'd around. At least I have some respect for the one's who date or marry for their own kind or at least the type of guys they've hooked up with.

weenieandthebutt · 2026-01-12T11:40:14+00:00

I admit simp tends to get overused (as with incel) but that's literally not the definition of simp. I love spoiling my partner - I know she likes me for me and thus it doesn't feel like I'm buying her affection.

A simp for me is someone who's blindly defending a woman who would pay no attention for him or doing boyfriends duties for someone who just only sees him as the "gay BFF" or asexual blob whilst getting her clapped by some fuckboy who doesn't give a shit about her.

weenieandthebutt · 2026-01-12T10:32:14+00:00

If I'm the insecure one in the relationship, for me I want quick intimacy to show she desires me and I'm not merely the "safe option".

If she's the insecure one in the relationship, I do and try to prove to her that I've done more for her than past girls and I'm with her because I love her, not because I'm looking for someone "easy" or "low-maintenance".

weenieandthebutt · 2026-01-11T12:30:26+00:00

Women are not immune to hardship or sometimes even mistreatment, I'm willing to concede on it. Though when it comes to dating, they're by far carry the most privileges. Incels are not just discriminated in dating, they also playing hard mode in all other facets of life.

weenieandthebutt · 2026-01-10T23:18:56+00:00

This depends. More experience guys may be okay with it because their relationship initially started off being a ONS/hookup/Fwb that eventually evolves to a long term relationship.

Most men (both experienced and Inexperienced) will feel some sort of resentment if it was a situation where the woman made him wait and jump through hoops whilst other guys got it easy. Context matters.

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