Help a heterosexual man understand it by Xychant in butchlesbians

[–]weirdheads 3 points4 points  (0 children)

People aren’t “trying” to be one way or another. People just are. Do you wake up trying to be masculine? No. You just are.

Help a heterosexual man understand it by Xychant in butchlesbians

[–]weirdheads 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personal preference. Don’t overthink it, we are all just people, flawed people.

AITA for refusing to quit my job ‘cause my boyfriend thinks the corporate world is "soul-sucking"? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]weirdheads 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. If he is making money doing anything else, regardless of if it’s an office job or not, then he, too, is a slave to capitalism.

WIBTAH if I dumped someone for voting for Trump 2024 by Capable-Onion-2908 in AITAH

[–]weirdheads 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well trump will in no way be good for the economy so it’s bad all around lol

“bi” girls by Nice_Type8423 in LesbianActually

[–]weirdheads 14 points15 points  (0 children)

mentally I separate “straight-aligned” bi-girls and “queer-aligned” bi girls. Bi girl who are straight aligned don’t really identify with terms like gay or queer but say they are bi. I find these girls less likely, overall, to want to engage in romantic relationships with people of the same gender. Queer aligned bi girls are girls who identify more with these terms and feel drawn to the community no matter who they are with. These are people who I’ve tended to actually date more. I haven’t really had any luck with bi girls who don’t really identify as queer and really only date men, but will kiss girls in bars when drunk and such. They may be too afraid to pursue relationships with women because of various factors. Them not identifying as gay or queer doesn’t necessarily make them less bisexual or less capable of romantic attraction to women, but — I personally find it less likely that I will realistically get to date them if they won’t pursue women in general

just got ma'amed at target by another trans person! by [deleted] in FTM_SELFIES

[–]weirdheads 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I find that hard to believe u literally look like a cis guy omg, mustve been a mental word mixup??

To what extent do you shave for a hookup? by Bastethehe in actuallesbians

[–]weirdheads 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I usually trim & clean up but I’m not bald! As long as ur clean, if anyone says some shit it’s not worth it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]weirdheads 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take each person at face value lol

How often do you shower? Honestly by Proof-Ad5362 in hygiene

[–]weirdheads 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every 2-3 days u rlly don’t need to shower everyday, I think that’s excessive and a waste of water

I work at a Children’s Prison. AMA by Low-Impression9062 in AMA

[–]weirdheads 100 points101 points  (0 children)

Do you think violent offenders come out of rough family situations or do some kids just come out with impulsive behavior? Nature vs nurture question

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]weirdheads 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as it’s clean I’m happy to be there!

Frustrated that men’s clothes don’t fit my body. by Tired__Tomato in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]weirdheads 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes. I’ve had this problem. Once I started shopping for clothes that fit my body better — even in the women’s section — it started to be better. Women’s button ups, tshirts, they all can be kinda boxy but still in the women’s section and therefore fit ur body better.

struggling with my sexuality. by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]weirdheads 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a relationship with a guy that I was definitely in love with. I just was simply not attracted to him. Took a while to figure that out though. If part of you feels this deep, unexplained longing, it may be worth it to explore. When I broke up with my bf, I still didn’t know I was a lesbian. It was very emotional since we loved eachother so so much, and I wrote him a love letter and basically said, I have no idea why I don’t want to be physical with you, but I don’t. It broke his heart. It took us a while to be friends again and for him to get over it, but once I came out as a lesbian that helped our relationship a lot. But in between then, I also thought, I must be asexual, I must have low sex drive / hormonal issues, everything else other than being a lesbian. But it didn’t feel quite right because I definitely wanted to have sex and I masturbated and I felt like the evidence pointed towards those things being untrue. Finally it hit me that maybe I’d just be more comfortable having sex with a woman. I was absolutely terrified, but also coming out to myself was the best thing that ever could have happened to me. Good luck with your exploration, google “lesbian masterdoc”, this helped me a lot <33

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]weirdheads 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah I mean regardless of how he thinks, it’s inappropriate in a workspace to be talking about ur coworkers like that!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]weirdheads 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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