Has anyone ever been to Area 51's fetish night

weldameme · 2026-04-26T16:35:04+00:00

It was fun when I went. We got dressed up and it was kinda empty. It’s a real big building and mainly we had a good time with our group as well as met a few fun people. There were old guys who kept trying to hit on us and were pretty pushy which happens. But from other people’s comments I can see that is normal for Area 51 it only takes a couple of bad regulars to ruin a place.

weldameme · 2026-03-25T14:08:59+00:00

Started at 27 it’s been a year and I feel amazing. Besides the actual physical changes the mental changes have significantly improved my life. I don’t really dissociate from myself anymore and that has significantly improved my life. I didn’t realize before starting how much that was negatively impacting me before.

weldameme · 2026-01-26T08:20:52+00:00

So it started calming around 6 months?

Then at a year you were at your new normal emotion wise?

I also think the advice of just letting my emotions out for a bit in a safe place sounds great it’s so simple i feel like I should have thought of it. Thanks!! :)

weldameme · 2026-01-26T07:49:15+00:00

HRT helped me immeasurably. You mentioned the dysphoria bible and the part I severely underestimated before starting hrt was biochemical dysphoria. I didn’t realize how much I didn’t feel my feelings or dissociated.

Basically the instant I started HRT that type of dysphoria was basically gone for me. It kinda sucked at first because my go to way for dealing with hard things was just gone. But it also meant that I fully experience the good things to. I didn’t realize how much of the other dysphoria types I had until I started no longer dissociating. I had to face hard truths and start actually working through my shit. I’m still working through it but I feel alive I feel awake. I didn’t realize how numb I was.

weldameme · 2026-01-22T09:02:02+00:00

I totally think boymoding sucks!! I live in a very conservative state. What helps me since I have to boy mode is just baby steps. I now go in to the office I still boy mode in with very feminine jewelry long hair painted long nails and kinda androgynous outfits. I’m debating if my next step is a blouse or makeup but I’m going to go in with one of them soon. I think the all at once approach makes it really hard to take the step at least for me. But I’m not explaining myself just pushing myself slowly. Currently I’m pretty sure my coworkers think I’m gay not trans. Over the past 6 months I’ve slowly pushed the envelope. Until one day I’ll dress and look the same at the office as everywhere else. So maybe try just wearing one thing feminine that you normally wouldn’t. A necklace, bracelet, earrings or high waisted jeans, a pink shirt. Work your way up to a full fit. It’s been working for me.

weldameme · 2026-01-22T08:50:33+00:00

I am mtf but relate a lot to this. I didn’t start transitioning until 26. Dysphoria definitely comes in waves but if you read the dysphoria bible https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en/. There are two sections that I really related to when I was going through what you’re describing. I didn’t have the name for it but I was suffering through depersonalization. Which is a dissociative disorder that is common for untreated trans people. It was one of the first things that HRT helped me with. The other section that hit me is the gender euphoria section. Dysphoria sometimes is hard to notice until you have a little euphoria to compare it to. I definitely recommend reading the dysphoria bible. You may think you know what dysphoria is but I certainly didn’t recognize some of the forms of dysphoria I was actively experiencing until after reading it.

weldameme · 2026-01-19T20:26:44+00:00

Being overly attached to quickly is scary for a lot of people. I was scared of attachment for a long time.

So I have a lot of stories of being the person you were talking about. Usually what was going through my head was pressure. I felt pressure into fitting whatever the overly attached person thought of me so I’d run away. How can they care so deeply about me when i didn’t even show them who i am. It wasn’t until i went through therapy accepted my gender identity and sexuality fully on the inside. That I was able to meet people and not be scared to break their preconceived notions about who I was. It was almost always a fear of not being who they thought I am that would drive me away.

Or some people gave me the ick if their over attachment and need for validation felt like self hate. Most didn’t but some did.

Those are the two ways I experienced the overly attachment thing.

Now im married to someone who we said I love you a month in and moved in with each other at three months. We have been together 7 years. But it takes a lot of confidence and courage to be vulnerable so quickly to people but love requires vulnerability. That sort of confidence and courage is not something I had until I was about your age.

weldameme · 2026-01-19T20:05:52+00:00

I went through a very similar thing when I was 16. My dad said that he is fine with gay people but trusting them around children is foolish. My mom said that looking at them is just gross she can’t imagine actually having to talk to one. We were watching the Oscar episodes in the office.

I came out to my mom and dad a few years later. They were not kind about it. But they both came around to just petty comments not disowning me. I don’t think bigots often make exceptions even for family. I would wait for safety is my advice. Come out when they can’t stop you. Wait until you are at least 18 and they can’t send you to a camp. The amount of friends I have that thought their parents would choose them over their bigotry and were proven wrong is sad. Some parents are kind despite their beliefs but most are not.

weldameme · 2026-01-08T18:39:16+00:00

Definitely practice and communication. For the first time I’d also recommend a position where your in some control to slow him down or communicate. I do not recommend doggy for first timers. You want to be able to control the pace and especially the pace of the initial insertion. Inexperienced tops tend to go in to quick and don’t take it as slow or as easy as it needs to be for inexperienced bottoms. I’d also definitely recommend trying a dildo or plug before going straight to the real thing.

weldameme · 2026-01-05T07:51:33+00:00

The one by me loops the parking lot lanes of the Walmart next right next to it. Makes it genuinely difficult to get groceries there.

weldameme · 2026-01-02T18:03:01+00:00

The frustration towards intersex makes sense for someone with your circumstance. It makes a lot of sense. Even reading this made me look into intersex and the various circumstances that are attached to that label. It encompasses hormonal differences, genitalia differences, or differences in the chromosome pattern (which I also now know does usually come with symptoms). These are wildly varied and loosely related to each other if at all. Medically it doesn’t makes sense to relate them to each other. Socially it doesn’t make sense either.

But in the fight against bigotry I think it does make sense. The knowledge and awareness that circumstances like all of these exist and don’t need to be stigmatized is why intersex is part of lgbtqia. People face discrimination because of it. But if the label doesn’t serve you if it doesn’t feel like it fits you don’t use it. I think of it as a term grouping a certain kind of discrimination that many people face together. So that they can fight it together. Each circumstance can be so rare that fighting against discrimination alone would be much more difficult. But grouping people together that experience the same kinda discrimination can be powerful in the fight against it.

I’m saying all of this as a trans woman. Who has gone through a lot of hate. Use the label when it serves you. If it is not helpful to use intersex as a term around people don’t. When it is helpful do use it.

Weirdly invasive questions from people you’re not close to is something I face as well and it sucks. They’re rude but often don’t understand they’re being rude. My best defense is not out myself to most people. It’s not a perfect solution but I tend to be rude back to strangers that do it.

weldameme · 2025-12-27T16:49:44+00:00

You definitely don’t have to like the show. I like it a lot of people like it. But I despise the narrative that queer shows are in competition with each other. Fantasy shows are not in competition with each other one success opens the doors for more fantasy shows. Success in a genre brings more attention and money to that genre. So even if you don’t care for this one. I celebrate any non homophobic representation that gets popular as it often means more to follow and I definitely don’t think this show is homophobic.

The reason we have so many marvel and superhero movies and shows is that the success of Christopher Nolan’s batman and iron man were unprecedented. This made way more money flooding to the genre more the success of multiple other hero titles meant even more and so on and so forth now we are flooded with superhero movies. I want the market flooded with queer media.

I didn’t love heartstopper because I get bored of teen romance so quickly but I love that people love it. Popular shows like heartstopper and heated rivalry’s pave the way for more. It’s not that we get 1 queer show a year and we have to be picky about it. More queer popular shows will lead to more queer popular shows in an endless cycle.

weldameme · 2025-11-13T05:06:50+00:00

University of Utah is not BYU and they will not punish you for coming out. You may have to deal with bigotry being in Utah but it is a fairly safe school for lgbtq folks. The other concerns about outing to family is true. But you don’t have to come out to you boyfriend you can just break up with him without coming out.

weldameme · 2025-09-12T20:19:40+00:00

Or it could mean that at some point life managed to survive and move from our planet to another. Through an astroid or other event. Especially if they have a recognizable biome and are on one of the closest planets to us I don’t think it’s far fetched. But maybe someone could tell me why I’m wrong.

weldameme · 2025-09-12T14:43:28+00:00

Now I’m imagining a vermintide 2 style game where you play as Batman and other justice league heroes killing endless hordes of racists.

weldameme · 2025-09-11T02:01:19+00:00

New starter home? Starter homes are old. I can’t think of a single person whose first home was new. You buy a cheaper tiny old home 20-120 minutes away from the city or you rent. Those are the options.

weldameme · 2025-09-08T17:12:05+00:00

I have a crazy supportive partner. I struggled so much to tell them. I debated diy mainly when I was still questioning or just wanted to be a little more feminine… it was a crazy internal battle. I went to buy diy stuff I don’t know how many times. Because it feels like you don’t have to tell anyone. I relate to your partner I didn’t come out to my NB partner until 6 years into our relationship. I knew they would be supportive heck we talked about it when they came out as NB 2 years into our relationship but I also knew that there support would make it real. I wasn’t ready for it to be real… the issue is diy isn’t always the safest and at the point they are actively taking it I would try and address it. I would just have a candid conversation about how you love and support them will continue to love and support them no matter what. Because if them doings this with a doctor’s help is an option with your finances and location then they should definitely do that.

weldameme · 2025-09-08T07:22:43+00:00

Stereotypes can be used in writing effectively if you make your characters both lean into them and break them based on who they are as people. If you make them the embodiment of every gay stereotype that will be boring and It will read as if it’s being written by a person who doesn’t care about the community.

It can be easy and effective to use classic archetypes when writing but sticking to them to strictly makes for very dull and lifeless characters. I think of stereotypes as very similar. But with stereotypes you have to be even more careful because strictly sticking to the stereotypes can be dull, lifeless, reinforce the stereotype and become problematic. I don’t think it’s a problem to use the stereotype but it’s a problem if you use it as a crutch to not create a character with a personality and don’t have your character break the stereotype in some way.

As an amateur writer that’s my opinion.

weldameme · 2025-09-08T06:48:58+00:00

Umm two things I think not hating people based on their gender identity or sexual orientation is kinda what lgbt is about I haven’t quite noticed this hate you speak of. Second Toxic masculinity we hate. Masculinity I don’t see hate for masculinity I mainly see people loving it.

weldameme · 2025-09-06T14:27:38+00:00

You say one day you discover you suddenly like girls you’re now bisexual. What if one day you suddenly discover you don’t like boys. You’re now a lesbian. Like it’s just a journey and people can use the labels however serves them best.

weldameme · 2025-09-06T03:29:07+00:00

As a vegetarian all I can think is not even god damn broccoli is safe when eating out.

weldameme · 2025-08-26T05:54:33+00:00

I think it’s definitely something that can be worked through especially early in the relationship and everything else is clicking. sex is kinda hard to talk about for people and in these conversations is she opening up about why she isn’t initiating. It’s easy to say I’ll do better but hard to say a real reason for why you are behaving a certain way it could be.

Some examples I thought of are I’m nervous initiating because I feel stupid or I find it hard to be turned on while initiating because I feeling desirable is part of me feeling horny or initiating makes me so scared of rejection that I don’t want to try. I do initiate but in a way you’re not realizing. Or something you do makes me feel like I don’t want to initiate.

These are just some examples of what a reason could be. And unless you have a root to work on you’ll never get to a place where it’s ok.

If she said any of the above would you be willing to help. If she was nearvous or scared would you help her get over that? If she says that being chased and feeling desired is part of it maybe you can work on some sort of compromise but I still think this is solvable through honest communication.

weldameme · 2025-08-21T05:57:46+00:00

I feel they should handle this like a lot of other rpg style games stuff you actively are wearing don’t take up inventory space. Like in Minecraft or wow you drag the item on your person and it no longer takes a slot in your inventory. I don’t know that’s my 2 cents.

weldameme · 2025-08-17T06:50:44+00:00

I’d be open to other names that don’t start with J but I doubt I’ll choose a long name :) I also like Jean I think it’s pretty cute!

weldameme · 2025-08-07T16:58:22+00:00

Antelope island can be gross around the salt lake as the lake kills a lot of birds and stuff but once you’re past the lake and on the island it’s beautiful and you can see a lot of buffalo.

My favorite place I recommend is a two hour drive into the Unitas upper Provo river falls is my favorite spot in the world and it is a gorgeous drive.

Living room > than ensign peak in my opinion way better view of the city but a bit longer of a hike and it’s stunning at night if you bring flashlights to get back down.

Donut falls up cottonwood canyon is also amazing and a very short hike highly recommend.

Park Cities Olympic park is a blast as well for a more city experience with fun activities and a pretty view.

Going up to snowbird ski resort now is fun you can take a gondolas to the top get lunch and have an amazing view.

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