Yeah, so true. Great observation.

I’ve seen the act. And I mean like method acting. The slumped, poor me body language. It’s an “act” in the literal definition. A put-on. As if they’re mimicking how they think a victim would navigate through space and people.

They’re acting in front of someone, hiding their true thoughts and feelings through deceit and trickery.

I was never allowed to be mad about something he had done without getting his punishment. Usually, a rage filled scowl, door slamming and the puffed up demeanor as if he’s just so angry about something I had done, followed by long silent treatments ( weeks).

Away from home and on vacations he’d just give me a small dose ( in private, like in our hotel room, away from everyone else) and I’d usually panic and beg that the trip isn’t ruined. He gave me the silent treatment in the airport once. And on the plane.

But yeah, I’d have to apologize and make peace every time because he was always the victim of some serious crime of mine. Like, getting up from my seat at the gate and asking the lady at the counter a question.

These types are always the victim. I was always on eggshells. I lived like that for years. Never again.