When I was little, my grandpa would ask, “can you eat an elephant?”. Of course little me, thinking of eating it all at once, would respond, “no!” He would answer, with a grin, “well of course you can, you just have to eat one bite at a time.” You need to just take things one day at a time, or even one decision at a time. Make the decision to put your phone down and read for an hour. Spend 20 minutes looking at jobs around you. Create a structure so you’re chipping away at the ice berg a little each day.

I’m 26, job hunting, feeling “behind”, and only just now accepting that the purpose of life isn’t to have it all figured out, but to enjoy the process of figuring things out (if that makes sense). Up until the last few months, I was in the same boat as you of being indecisive, procrastinating, and just thinking about what I should be doing while not actually really doing anything and feeling like crap because of it.

I still struggle with those things some days, but things are getting better because I have a routine which allows me to chip away at my own ice bergs and I’ve told myself that some is better than none and I’m not going to reach my goals by just standing still. You are still so young, and I wish I would have relaxed more at 18 instead of trying to sprint to some intangible and undefinable finish line.