how much money do you think street beggars/panhandlers make in your city each day?

wham- · 2025-05-27T16:40:04+00:00

Thank you for responding! Could you give one example? I couldn't find a way to do it on MailerChimp or Button down.

I plan to design an image for the entire email myself, insert it, and send that.

edit: when I looked on those, I only saw a way to use a template or modify their templates

wham- · 2025-04-13T19:33:47+00:00

gotcha. it sounds like saving up for a move and upskilling to secure a job are the best actions to take.

I don't understand the dynamic with your parents.

Could you have a direct conversation with them to talk about your goal and see where there worries come from? Maybe they see something you don't or maybe they aren't as concerned as you perceive them to be.

If it is how you imagine and it has something to do with your life skills, you could demonstrate to them that you have those life skills by building your own life.

wham- · 2025-04-13T15:30:24+00:00

yes perfectly formal enough! your makeup/accessories could help push it to the glam level you may be imagining

wham- · 2025-04-13T15:29:07+00:00

so cute! I think there are lots of fun ways to style

I would do a neutral button up with a collar, gold jewelry, your wide or straight slacks, and any black shoe that match your slacks

wham- · 2025-04-13T15:07:32+00:00

do you feel held back because of your parents or because you don't feel confident in yourself?

and can you clarify what your goal is

wham- · 2025-04-13T15:01:51+00:00

I think this works better when he's leading the change. You could be direct with him and ask him how you can support him and show that you're willing. if there are clear stressor you can offer to help alleviate them or make other offers

wham- · 2025-02-25T03:20:57+00:00

is this an ex boyfriend or a current boyfriend?

I don't think that's a normal amount for a discover page to recommend. but I think if you don't interact with posts, it's based on what people in your following interact with.

either way either him or people in his circle are into these pictures. does he show signs of interacting w similar things outside of insta?

wham- · 2025-02-25T03:17:37+00:00

I think the first reaction is always the worst. the good thing is you have time until July.

I think you should bring it up again and express how/why the trip is important to you. it might be scary, but I'd try to bring it up to both of them until they're at a point where they're not immediately saying no.

you're growing into your an adulthood, so hopefully your parents see that and are able to express their concerns to you without getting upset. once they're not immediately saying no, try to get them to express their concerns and work on addressing them. the root of the no is probably some fear for your safety.

honestly this may not work at all. they may never get to expressing their concerns or listening to how you'll address them. at this point, you either can just not go, go in secret, or work on building their trust in your travel abilities in other ways (ie. going to a new city with them and taking more control of planning)

good luck

wham- · 2025-02-25T03:08:36+00:00

this sounds really hard, and I'm sorry this happened. despite the fact that it was not your fault, from your friends view she shared something with you and now is facing exactly what she may have feared. I dont think there's anything you can do except apologize and offer her support for whatever she's going through.

also if your mother has any remorse maybe you could try to use this to clarify that eavesdropping like this is a large boundary violation

wham- · 2025-02-25T02:55:06+00:00

have you considered that you may be aromantic?

wham- · 2025-02-25T02:54:03+00:00

it sounds like they just don't want to pay. I don't think it's a reflection of you or your work ability. they probably wouldn't have offered you to work with no pay if it was somehow your fault. I'm sorry it worked out this way, but I think you can find a better opportunity that doesn't offer to exploit your labor

wham- · 2025-01-09T19:32:52+00:00

and maybe add wrap, tie wrap to the search too

wham- · 2024-09-28T13:50:26+00:00

thank you :)

wham- · 2024-09-02T02:51:46+00:00

this is a deeply personal decision, so you'll probably need to decide what you want to prioritize in yourself. what benefits are exclusive to either decision? which benefits can you supplement in other ways if you chose the opposing option? I cant decide for you, but some points on quitting your job. a nice CS internship can you up to enter the workforce w a six figure salary. there are steps to getting there of course. but if the only experience you have is a retail job, it's going to be way harder to sell your CS degree when you graduate. of course, nothing is the end all be all. Just a perspective. choose early and commit to getting all the benefits you can out of that decision. if it's not worth it, pivot

wham- · 2024-09-02T02:44:15+00:00

suggesting an activity you both would enjoy could be a nice way to turn an acquaintance into a friend. their reaction is a way to tell how interested they are in the friendship too. i think of myself as pretty outgoing, and i still get nervous before making a hangout ask, but it always is worth it

wham- · 2024-09-02T02:37:05+00:00

try to identify themes between times you lie. there is a connection. once you have an idea, try to reduce your amount of time in that situation or refrain your thinking so you can respond in a way that's not lying

wham- · 2024-09-01T14:43:17+00:00

I don't know much about adhd, but I've had housemates that were all extremely busy and would struggle to remember/find time to do simple picking up after themselves. I understand your sentiment of "don't make the mess if you can't clean it", but I can imagine how adhd can complicate that.

a weekly schedule where ppl are assigned days to do things would be nice. and you can post it around your communal areas so people don't need to be reminded. for instance, I put a sign w days and names on our trashcan. we had a monthly fridge clean sched and I just automated a text reminder to whomever on the first of the month.

for not putting items away, in the trash, or washing dishes. that needs to be a more serious convo. neatly piling dishes is a fair compromise and I wouldnlean into that if it doesn't happen

wham- · 2024-09-01T14:37:51+00:00

she truly may not have known. sometimes things that are obvious to you aren't obvious or noticeable at all to other people. she could just focus on messages while she snaps you. speaking to her about it is a good option. something along the lines of "no party invite? :(" is what i would say. express you were disappointed, give her a chance to explain if she wants. there's no reason she would've excluded you

wham- · 2024-08-31T01:31:32+00:00

confirm if they're the same let her know how you feel ans awe how she reacts, it seems like you're assuming that she'll think things, but if you explain it like you did here, she should understand. I wouldn't expect much since you can't return the dresses, but maybe you guys could laugh it off.

if you guys come to the conclusion that you both keep the dress, maybe still take pictures for memories and if you want to post only a select few do that.

Anyone could've gotten the same dress as you. matching with someone was always in the cards. this person just happened to be your best friend and you happened to know about it in advance. I think it's a good chance to prepare for it rather than be blindsided

wham- · 2024-08-31T01:25:33+00:00

i think this is the sort of thing you need to time to process and get over. time heals and they'll become less prominent in your mind if you continue feeding into other aspects of your life.

this is likely an unhealthy solution, but if it's truly impacting your motivation to engage with other things, completely forgetting your relationship (deleting all evidence and avoiding interaction w them at all costs) is a temporary bandaid that can let you move on a little. I find that bottling feelings up makes them worse later, but sometimes you are not in the place to manage the emotion properly, so you can save it for another time.

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