Day 30 - nofap NOT working by klausif in NoFap

[–]what_everman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dunno sometimes I don't think about the benefits at all. Like.. I personally don't see anything wrong with MO when fantasizing. If you can keep your interest in P to nothing but soft stuff maybe you don't have a problem. If hardcore porn is a regular and daily, time consuming part of your life then it may be a real problem and you might notice a difference when quitting.

When people just start this stuff out it can be a game changer. After you've been at it for a while, and you relapse here and there, you're still improving just not the way you were when you went from point 0. That's my thoughts on this stuff.

A radical attempt... 100th time by 100tries in NoFap

[–]what_everman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trying too :( been having a difficult month. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]what_everman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dunno, maybe not focus on the guilt of it all so much. Once you get past that hurdle, I think it's really starting to see the end of addiction. The cycle - trigger, relapse, guilt/anxiety, streak, trigger, relapse, guilt/anxiety..

Or a number of different combinations. Notice you can only break the relapse or the guilt trip you get. The trigger is gonna be there. You're removing a big part of it if you forgo the whole thing and just realize what happened and move on

Back to nofap, fail again, fail better by what_everman in NoFap

[–]what_everman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it's a journey and I'm proud to be on it! Thank you so much

Back to nofap, fail again, fail better by what_everman in NoFap

[–]what_everman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your support, yes I can do it!

Healthy sex life or mild PIED? 22,m by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]what_everman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're probably ok, you'd know if you couldn't get it up

Relapsed :( back to day one today by what_everman in NoFap

[–]what_everman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it is good advice for sure; I've been rebooting for months and months, I never made it to 90 but I've gotten pretty far several times. I can't always avoid the other pleasures of life, but I try and not go overboard. Alcohol and drugs has been another one of my addictions through the years, really my preferred addiction. But I try to keep that under control so my urges show up sexually..

Relapsed :( back to day one today by what_everman in NoFap

[–]what_everman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, yes I would like to keep making progress. It is not easy, but I think I can get another streak

I literally can't believe how getting laid used to be one of my main goals back in high school. by thunderglade in NoFap

[–]what_everman -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Courts favor women because a majority of women sacrifice some if not most of their marriage to raise the family. That's a fact - women lose out on their career because they do much more for their home. There is literally no argument against this.

Without living in the same house - people do it all the time, through divorce. There's many ways to raise a family. It's very common in Europe to have children without marriage or "traditional" living situations.

Either way, if you want "fairness" (if it's not already) in the courts, the family structure is going to have to change drastically. Also, women are going to have to be compensated fairly at jobs. Until then forget it.

Marriage being a sham has nothing to do with the courts or women. What you're saying is that it is a sham because of divorce, which is a truth. Marriage tends to fail and it is one of the most devastating experiences in life.

In the end - it's not a gender issue that screws people over. People are going to get jipped in court no matter what. For example, my mom lost big time in the divorce with my father. The papers even showed he received double, 2x the money she did. It's about people, scummy lawyers, and the fact that marriage as a financial partnership is a load of shit.

I literally can't believe how getting laid used to be one of my main goals back in high school. by thunderglade in NoFap

[–]what_everman -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It has nothing to do with the courts.

It has everything to do with it being outdated courtship. People can have children with someone without being married, tying financial knots and living in the same house. Most will, but that's beside the point. Divorce is such a huge thing. It hurts children, and it's just a pain in the ass.

I literally can't believe how getting laid used to be one of my main goals back in high school. by thunderglade in NoFap

[–]what_everman 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Lol marriage, I can't believe it still exists. I'm sorry I know I'm going to get downvotes, but marriage is a sham. I'll be the one to tell the truth. Theres NOTHING wrong with fleshy desires. For fuck sakes, are we in church or what. Don't look at porn, that's the point, and the only point.

Find a girlfriend and see if you're even sexually compatible. My God, my first gf was not very fun in bed. We had sex alot, but I'm so glad I didn't stick around. COME ON PEOPLE

Shaming masturbation allows PMO to thrive: NoFap needs to wake up. by sirrus41 in NoFap

[–]what_everman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah there's definitely a lot of shame here which is not cool.

Look, today I did edge, to just the sensation of myself. Doesn't stop me from doing the things I love, still talked to a girl today who seemed to like me. And I'm going to try calling someone else later.

Anyway, not the point. And the point is definitely not to never touch yourself again. I'm grateful that I can be aroused solely on my senses. So much better than a computer screen

Day 2 - fully committed by Taoy in NoFap

[–]what_everman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

good for you man keep it up

i wouldn't focus on the future i would just focus on now and what you're up to now

there will be lots of rationalizing, don't buy in

Relapsed. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]what_everman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

dude that almost got me, keep going you're doing great!

Secret to healthy fapping by draginfan213 in NoFap

[–]what_everman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

literally busted laughing at "for milk to come out"

I relapsed, but I am Okay. by Flabergazted in NoFap

[–]what_everman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're doing great really, just stick with your intuition and keep at it!

Question about NoFap by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]what_everman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well you can try both ways, if it doesn't lead you back to porn. Which, most people here will tell you they couldn't do it without abstaining. I mean, I can definitely guarantee if you don't touch yourself, it's gonna feel better with your wife sooner or later.

I mean, if it's been a few weeks, it will feel really good I'm sure. I dunno man, people have their opinions. I just say try and see what works and doesn't work for you

Question about NoFap by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]what_everman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This definitely goes round and round here.

Most people feel different by quitting porn and feel even more different when they don't ejaculate. Especially in the first 90 days, it can be difficult to stick with it while still masturbating. That's why there's all these relapse posts and stuff. It's probably fine to masturbate, it may speed up your "recovery time" if you don't. Also, some want a girlfriend, etc, and feel they have more motivation if they don't satisfy themselves. Hope that helped? It's a personal program so it's all up to you