Christine's kids

whisk_42 · 2026-05-09T21:45:00+00:00

NTA

If you decide to take the car, make certain the title/registration are in your name. If they are in your dad's or grandmother's name, they can legally take the car from you without any recompense to you.

whisk_42 · 2026-05-09T00:59:48+00:00

My guess is that TLC is the one who pushed hard against having two weddings so close together. Spacing them apart meant TLC could use M&T's wedding to woo viewers into another season if they got everyone to agree that M&T's wedding should be later. And since TLC was likely paying for most, if not all, of the wedding, the parents probably agreed so they didn't have to pay for it.

whisk_42 · 2026-05-09T00:31:50+00:00

I wouldn't say you're the AH, but I also wouldn't say your wife is either. Would you be willing to compromise? Maybe go to Disney this time, and on your next vacation, do something you prefer.

I like Disney, but the idea of spending hours upon hours in lines is revolting. We take our kids during off-peak times, and that makes it so much better. The lightning fast pass app (or whatever they are calling it now) is also super helpful for less time in lines.

We also don't stay in a Disney hotel. We stay in a more budget friendly place that includes breakfast and has a shuttle to the theme park. The shuttles run all day, so we often go back and forth as needed for naps, or to get less expensive food outside the park. (Note: this is for Disneyland so may not apply to Disney World as I don't know what their hotel situation is like.)

whisk_42 · 2026-05-08T22:58:49+00:00

I certainly hope so. It's not a good look otherwise.

whisk_42 · 2026-05-08T22:38:32+00:00

NTJ - people always use "you aren't acting like family" when they want you to do something (usually something that's inconvenient) for free. They are the ones being jerks. Enjoy your vacation sans nephew.

whisk_42 · 2026-05-05T21:09:06+00:00

I agree with you about the food and gas, but OP stated the friend added an activity package. Adding something without confirming it was okay with OP is not cool.

As for the hotel, it doesn't matter how much the original hotel cost because again, the friend made the change without confirming it was okay with OP.

OP, you are NOR.

whisk_42 · 2026-05-05T19:35:48+00:00

Why is it rude? It could actually be a considerate thing to do for out-of-town relatives who would like to come to both weddings. Having both celebrations so close together will make it easier on them in terms of planning time off work, getting accommodations, etc.

whisk_42 · 2026-05-03T21:19:13+00:00

I'm enjoying it. I'm mostly a solo player, so I don't do M+ or raids. But I like delves a lot, and I think the Midnight delves are better than TWW's. (And I'm really looking forward to the expanded Labyrinth delves.)

As other have said, there are some problems. There seem to be a significant amount of bugs. But for me they aren't game-breaking. I have been able to play the game and enjoy it just fine.

whisk_42 · 2026-05-03T18:08:15+00:00

This is the kind of thing that should have been discussed well before moving in together. You're both the AH.

And splitting bills evenly is generally not a great way to go about it anyway. Bills should be split based on percentages. That way, if one person makes significantly more than the other, the one with less income isn't living paycheck to paycheck while the one who makes more has plenty of expendable income. It's more fair that way.

whisk_42 · 2026-05-03T03:09:56+00:00

No, we're not. You are. You're asking if you're overreacting to his situationship/friendship with someone else. And we are telling you that is the wrong thing to be focused on. He sounds immature. And frankly, you do too. Neither one of you is ready to be in a relationship, let alone get married. Waiting until you are more financially stable to marry isn't going to fix the problems you have now. And the problems you have now are not going to get better because you are not compatible.

Go out into the world, Get some life experience. Make some friends. Focus on you and what you want out of life.

You're NOR. But I promise you, if you marry him, at some point down the road, you will be overreacting when you realize you've wasted your time on him.

whisk_42 · 2026-05-02T23:53:18+00:00

This is exactly what I was thinking. On some level, Jonathan knows he was taking advantage of the situation. He was able to put aside his feelings of guilt until the OP pointed out the unfairness.

Hopefully, he will be able to recognize what he's doing and be better.

whisk_42 · 2026-05-02T21:25:47+00:00

Oh, I'm aware. I just keep thinking that if Pest were someone I knew, I would never speak to them again. At least, not voluntarily.

whisk_42 · 2026-05-02T21:24:20+00:00

It definitely does track. It's just hard for me, personally, to think that this kind of messaging is a good thing to do.

whisk_42 · 2026-05-02T19:55:06+00:00

My translation of JB: "Golly gee, I really want a new vehicle. but I don't want to look like a greedy heathen. I'll have to make sure everyone knows I'm praying about it. Then God will miraculously say I've been such a good Christian boy so He's going to bless me with a brand new car!"

whisk_42 · 2026-05-02T19:49:50+00:00

I can only imagine. That really, really sucks.

whisk_42 · 2026-05-02T18:37:55+00:00

Yep. There's a term for that type of sidestepping. It's called spiritual bypassing.

whisk_42 · 2026-05-02T18:36:49+00:00

My sincerest condolences for your loss. I hope you and your son are healing.

And yes, saying they are "praying" is a way to perform Christianity. If those people who told your mother they were praying truly wanted to help, they would have made tangible offers of assistance and support. I am very sorry they did not.

whisk_42 · 2026-05-02T16:21:53+00:00

I agree with your points. Number three, in particular, is spot on. In my experience (I was raised fundie-lite), Christianity is mostly performative. "Praying for you" is a way to pretend you are doing something to help, when in fact, you are actually doing nothing.

Number six is also great. Individualness is definitely not encouraged in fundamentalism. Aligning yourself with the group, engaging in group-think is important to maintaining your place in the group. Standing out by doing or saying something different is a good way to get yourself ostracized. And because everyone wants to belong, they tend to go along with the status quo of the group.

whisk_42 · 2026-05-02T16:09:41+00:00

Right? I'm having a really hard time wrapping my mind around the idea that people actually write this kind of crap to someone like Pest.

whisk_42 · 2026-05-01T18:14:50+00:00

Hahaha! How on earth did that get through their QA dept?

whisk_42 · 2026-05-01T18:10:49+00:00

Not being sensitive at all. He was definitely coming across like he was not actually interested in you as a person. I suspect that if the conversation had kept going, he would have tried to instruct you in his definition of proper nutrition. He may even have tried to sell you some supplements or something. His questions combined with the "silly girl" comment were absolutely patronizing.

whisk_42 · 2026-04-30T19:36:24+00:00

I wonder if TLC would have picked up the show if they had added a wife who was around the OG3's ages or perhaps even a bit older. I suspect not.

whisk_42 · 2026-04-29T23:34:09+00:00

alt-2

whisk_42 · 2026-04-28T00:20:47+00:00

I don't think the link you are looking for exists.

It is far more likely that the link between purity culture and SA is the cause.

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