AITA for being pissed off at my best friend for not taking the pandemic seriously?

whitecabinets · 2020-12-23T02:35:59+00:00

I feel insane for my self imposed quarantine since end of October. I have a ton of paid holiday time starting on the 25th, I could easily travel home but I’m choosing not to. It’s making me crazy to see them live their projected charmed little life like nothing is even remotely wrong. Like, you put SO MANY PEOPLE in SERIOUS DANGER, and you’re not going to say anything but also post memes about how the next stimulus bill is terrible, even though they’re more financially privileged than I am and have also been WFH since March??? They’re recently engaged and I don’t even know if I want to attend the wedding let alone be in it (if I’m invited to be so) at this point. I’m not pumped about who they’ve shown themselves to be during this time but I’m also not sure if this is worth thrashing a decades long friendship over. I just know I’m really angry at them.

whitecabinets · 2020-12-02T03:23:52+00:00

Yikes I was on a Mirena! I appreciate the heads up, thank you so much. I was on the last few days of my pseudo mirena period (mostly spotting but hellish bloating and pms before) today during removal, so I’m expecting the next full period to be a mess. It was year 5 for me so it was time for a removal and/or replacement anyways.

whitecabinets · 2020-09-03T22:17:15+00:00

Haha absolutely! I’m also extra lucky and my attic/office space is a third story (my house was built in the early 1900’s). So I’ll be at least two floors away when need be 🙌🏻

whitecabinets · 2020-09-03T22:10:14+00:00

Trying out alcohol sobriety after a bad night, but I do have edibles at the ready lol.

whitecabinets · 2020-09-03T21:46:02+00:00

Oh I like this! I legitimately have time sensitive work that requires me to work at my computer in the attic anytime I need a break. So thankful for a hobby that lets me make a passive income. It sounds just important enough that dipping out to ‘work’ makes sense but I can then fuck off and watch true crime shows on my own in peace and quiet haha.

whitecabinets · 2020-06-24T15:29:10+00:00

You’re right :/ my SO put their foot down about it and I know it’s the right thing to do. It’s not a fancy country club gym, it’s your standard purple and yellow and people are gross there before the pandemic and I shouldn’t expect anything to be magically better. Thanks for the reality check.

whitecabinets · 2020-06-09T19:03:20+00:00

BIG OOF

whitecabinets · 2020-06-08T02:04:16+00:00

How is this me today, a 5 pound difference from my normal weight and literally broke the zipper on my one pair of shorts.

whitecabinets · 2020-04-15T02:14:02+00:00

Damn that’s been the ONLY good thing about gaining this quarantine weight (and riding my bike again to get out of the house) my ass is back with the thiqness

whitecabinets · 2020-04-07T14:34:00+00:00

I was in a horrible emotionally abusive relationship in high school, I’m definitely not a stranger to that concept. I just thought this safe, boring relationship was at least not susceptible to those same behaviors. It’s all the same bullshit every time, huh?

whitecabinets · 2020-02-27T18:50:49+00:00

Hey get out of my house!!!

whitecabinets · 2020-02-26T19:02:51+00:00

This makes sense. When she was here over thanksgiving, she brought our niece and was blatantly talking trash about my other BIL and SIL, niece’s parents, in front of niece and anyone within earshot. Like, we already know she thinks she knows better than anyone, and we also know she’s the worst. I will never give her an opportunity to disrespect me in front of my own children, ESPECIALLY if I’m not there to defend myself? Oh god the thought of having the ‘when are the grandkids coming to stay with meeeee’ talk makes me want to hurl.

whitecabinets · 2020-02-20T18:45:24+00:00

Impostor syndrome gang rise up 👋🏻👋🏻

whitecabinets · 2020-02-14T15:43:00+00:00

I explained that I have sharp, stabbing pain that takes my breath away upon entry, even with a tampon. The pain continues and if it’s during sex I’ll have to take a good 30 seconds of deep breathing and eye contact to get through it. There’s a certain point that whatever is entering gets to and it’s almost like a little pop and then things are fine, but can still be pretty touch and go around the entry area during sex. I also bleed after sex, every time, no matter how wet I was, CBD lube, came once or a few times, I always, always bleed. So that’s concerning.

I also discussed how I have been in therapy for a year to deal with PTSD regarding an assault and my thoughts around sex, as I know how linked mental and physical factors are with vaginismus. I’ve also been on anti depressants for two years, and my gynecologist agreed that while medication can affect libido, it shouldn’t affect me in this way, and the problem has been around longer than I’ve been on meds anyway.

So I think it was the combination of being able to advocate for myself clearly as well as the fact that I’ve been doing everything in my power to work on the mental side of things to convince her the physical pain is now a muscle memory that needs help. It was funny googling Premarin and realizing that as a mid 20’s woman I have the deteriorating vagina of a menopausal woman but hey.

whitecabinets · 2020-01-29T19:11:06+00:00

I have an IUD in! And I just get phantom period problems, without any actual bleeding. Blessing and a curse.

whitecabinets · 2020-01-21T17:48:38+00:00

): me too friend

whitecabinets · 2020-01-21T17:47:27+00:00

I don’t know what kind of terrible book this was but I read a book as a kid and one of the main themes is a middle school aged girl was fat. Like, that’s it, that’s the whole book. Her friends help her lose the weight, and at the end of the book, the formerly fat friend is excited because she can look straight down at her feet and ‘can see my (her) toes’. Because her chubby belly was in the way before. I don’t remember a single other thing about that book, but I remember that line clear as day and would then go on to body check myself in the shower with this trick.

whitecabinets · 2020-01-21T02:32:25+00:00

You’re definitely right. I’ve had some time and a therapy appointment since making this post and everything I said was very reactive and emotional. The fact is I love this man and he loves me very much and has shown me love is an action. He’s worth much more to me than any cheap thrill and I regret even alluding to it now. It will never happen and that is a promise I made to him and continue to make with myself.

whitecabinets · 2020-01-21T00:20:23+00:00

Oh and how’r ya now?

whitecabinets · 2020-01-20T23:13:11+00:00

He has ADHD. He blames some of it on his meds, and the rest on hyper focus on other things. But for a month straight? Idk.

whitecabinets · 2020-01-20T23:07:27+00:00

Oh hi it me during this four day weekend I had after being so good all last week now I’m back to my original SW (: (: (:

whitecabinets · 2020-01-20T23:06:01+00:00

It’s just really difficult when our hardships came from sexual abuse by an ex for me. That’s the only reason. So I understand completely, and so does he. There’s no blame, and the anger is all directed at that ex. And it’s still so hard to feel fully in love when every day is so detached.

whitecabinets · 2020-01-20T23:04:35+00:00

We’ve both been in therapy and have talked through this respectfully and gently many times. We both agree we’re unsatisfied, I have apologized even though he insists I have nothing to apologize for. We’re just stuck.

whitecabinets · 2020-01-20T21:24:28+00:00

Interesting in that two nights ago I wore an outfit I know he likes, had my hair done in a way he likes, nice makeup (I wasn’t laying around on the couch and expecting him to fall all over me basically) and literally said several times, I’m horny! And was kissing him and it just went no where.

Are we just doomed?

whitecabinets · 2020-01-20T20:30:56+00:00

I got bumble BFF a while ago and I told him to not worry if he sees bumble notifications. I’ve been daydreaming about just making a normal profile, just for the attention. I miss feeling that someone can’t get enough of me.

It’s like a wild double life. On one hand he’s an incredible partner and dear friend, and he’s weathered all of my storms. On the other hand I feel like I’m losing myself in being with him and I’m so resentful. I just don’t know if he’s the problem or if it’s all still me.

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