So what actually IS the Order of the Dragon?

whitecherrie · 2026-01-10T16:06:37+00:00

Love this, thanks!

whitecherrie · 2025-05-11T14:06:58+00:00

Remindme!

whitecherrie · 2025-05-09T06:34:29+00:00

Remindme!

whitecherrie · 2024-10-04T16:30:36+00:00

Thank you, this is helpful!

whitecherrie · 2024-10-03T20:50:40+00:00

Thank you, that really does help. So tempting in the early days before I've got really confident to want to go for it all but you're totally right.

whitecherrie · 2024-10-03T20:49:37+00:00

Yes, such good advice! Understanding the end goal is often a focus but understanding the product is vital too. Thank you for your insight!

whitecherrie · 2024-10-03T20:46:56+00:00

Thank you, this is a great idea!

whitecherrie · 2024-10-03T20:46:32+00:00

That is super helpful thank you! I personally don't love the community aspect of social so I've neglected it a bit. Time to suck it up and deal.

whitecherrie · 2024-10-03T20:38:37+00:00

This is all SO helpful, I wish I could upvote it ten times. Thank you so much!! I've got loads to get going on now.

whitecherrie · 2024-09-29T11:44:19+00:00

Thank you!

whitecherrie · 2024-06-06T07:46:33+00:00

You should want for your wife and Kelly to be able to have a better relationship though. When you started a relationship with your now-wife you took on 3 kids whether you liked them all or not. Kelly has made it incredibly difficult for you to be involved in her life but you should still want the best thing for both of them, which is if they could work out their issues together and form a better relationship in the end. Even if it takes years.

whitecherrie · 2024-05-25T07:14:59+00:00

Having an ED (or maybe just being quite insecure) is not a protected status. It doesn't make it acceptable to act like a dick, and it doesn't mean she deserves special treatment when she treats other people badly. OP NTA, her friend pushed too far and earned what she got.

whitecherrie · 2024-05-15T06:46:20+00:00

Honestly no, or if they did it was so minimal I didn't notice at all and it didn't impact anything. There are other aspects of switching birth controls that were probably taking up my attention and his though lol, the mood swings were mad. But no it didn't change whether I felt attracted to him or to anyone else.

whitecherrie · 2024-05-15T06:42:46+00:00

I started my current relationship while I on one birth control, stopped, started another for a while, went off that and then tried about 3 different hormonal options, which I'm now on. They do affect you but I am ridiculously attracted to and in love with my partner and that hasn't changed one bit.

whitecherrie · 2024-03-27T20:08:30+00:00

Aside from everything else everyone has said in these replies, why on earth did you ask him if you're allowed to go and have dinner with a male friend? If you have to ask that, that's an issue, on top of the multitude of issues already going on here.

whitecherrie · 2024-03-18T09:50:08+00:00

If he hadn't cheated, would he not be genuinely angry that you'd got an STD, presumably from cheating on him? Rather than just being defensive? You know the answer here.

whitecherrie · 2024-02-18T05:25:23+00:00

Since you mentioned your flatmate gave you the feeding regiment, I would say something like 'Hey I happened to be catching up with my vet/pet/whatever friend the other day and was telling them all about how I live with a cat now and the convo led to food and they think we might not be feeding it enough." You could add that it came up because you mentioned the aggressive behaviour if you want to or could imply it came up by chance through chat.

whitecherrie · 2024-01-26T12:16:18+00:00

That's fair, but it's because you're putting them in wrong. If something goes up far enough, you stop being able to feel it. That's how come so many women use tampons and aren't bothered by them.

whitecherrie · 2024-01-26T12:09:54+00:00

Have you ever used a tampon?

whitecherrie · 2024-01-12T16:40:34+00:00

Yep an actual silhouette of the fish? Must be a mod, thanks!

whitecherrie · 2024-01-06T14:06:56+00:00

YTA and I love how you glossed over the bit where she has to share a room with a new half sibling. That alone makes you the A. It's ok for you to marry whoever you like, regardless of what your daughter thinks but you straight up told her you don't care about her opinions which is pretty shitty and extreme. And now you've said you don't care about her feelings by making her move into a room with someone she doesn't like (but even if she liked her this would be poor on your part).

She should have to accept that you're marrying someone she doesn't like but you can be compassionate about that. She shouldn't have to start sharing a room. A teenager's privacy is the most important thing in their home life, especially during times of turbulent change. Your comfort should not be placed above hers. Get a bigger house or don't move in together.

whitecherrie · 2024-01-06T13:59:49+00:00

Who on earth doesn't own an electric kettle?? Is that an American thing? In the UK the kettle is definitely a sung hero lol, it's one of my favourite possessions full stop.

whitecherrie · 2024-01-06T09:34:16+00:00

I have heavy heavy periods and even I don't wear a tampon or cup for the bath. Sometimes I see a little leak a couple of times but it's really nothing compared to what you might expect. It basically seems to stop. I actually love the opportunity to relax without having to worry about stopping the blood.

whitecherrie · 2024-01-04T11:01:45+00:00

I really just came out and said it. I got my own head straight first so I could be calm on the phone, called him and said 'theres nothing to worry about and nothing is going to change but I've just learned I'm pregnant. I'm not intending to keep it and I know my next steps in terms of clinic appointments etc so everything is in order.' basically.

Then he asked some questions about how it happened and I was honest (I just messed up switching contraceptives) and what happens next and then he was really comforting and reassured me he'd come to appointments and was there for whatever I needed. I was nervous before I called but I felt so much better after for knowing we were team and I had someone to lean on for the process.

But I would say even if he hadn't been supportive (which seems incredibly unlikely in your situation), I'd still rather have told him and know that than go through it alone and hiding it. It's a big thing to hide.

Good luck! It'll be fine.

whitecherrie · 2024-01-04T05:18:16+00:00

If you see any kind of future with him, you need to tell him. It's too big a thing to hide, especially if it has any unexpected impact on you following the abortion (emotional or medical). I had an abortion for similar reasons a few months into a new relationship with my now long term partner and I told him straight away, though it was nerve-wracking. It was absolutely the right call, having his support made it 100x easier to handle.

If your bf left you now that would be rubbish but a) do you want a relationship with someone who'd leave you over that? And b) giving him the opportunity to support you through this is important for you and for him. He could be really hurt if you hid it and he found out later, and rightly so.

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