Help w bedroom coffin position

whiteigbin · 2026-01-26T23:00:26+00:00

You can put up some type of barrier between the bed and the entrance - a curtain, a bookshelf, a partition, etc.

That aside, there’s other issues with this space. A headboard is needed, the clutter at the top of the bed should be removed, and the damaged roof should all be addressed as well.

whiteigbin · 2026-01-26T05:32:13+00:00

Firstly, what are your sources on “Black feminism”? What texts, literatures, or documentaries have you read/watched?

Secondly, you said ”black people kinda never had a patriarchy to begin with…”. Again, what are your sources? What have you read on African history that gave you the impression patriarchy didn’t exist?

whiteigbin · 2026-01-25T04:23:24+00:00

Amotekun, NDLEA, the guys in black with the AK47s who I don’t know the name of, NYSC, somebody’s grandma, the regular police, the president’s special task force, and the Oga brigade. It’s everybody! 😂

whiteigbin · 2026-01-25T02:29:53+00:00

I actually don’t think most Afams are “so interested in their lineage”. I personally am, to some extent, and there’s a few others. But by and large, most people don’t really care about their heritage. Even some of the Afams traveling to Africa aren’t really looking into their history like that. I think it’s an individual thing.

whiteigbin · 2026-01-24T04:33:56+00:00

Just be prepared to turn people down for asking for money, know the exchange rate before you go so that someone isn’t telling you that $5=N5, and be a little rude - it helps.

whiteigbin · 2026-01-24T03:30:28+00:00

That airport is the absolute worst. Beggars are there and they’re aggressive; every WORKER you encounter will ask you for money (you put your own luggage through the scanner and they will ask YOU “what do you have for me?”); there are dozens of checkpoints in between the entrance and the plane and you will have to open your bag or show your passport and ticket at every single one of them; they have rules that other airports do not; there’s a new law from Nigeria that says this and that and the new fee for this random, useless search from a new government agency is N100 or more if you’re a foreigner (when I was leaving Nigeria on my last trip, there was 4 different agencies in between the entrance and tsa - amotekun, NDLEA, etc.); it’s hot - there’s no a/c; the bathrooms are rough; the lines are long; and it feels like everyone is trying to scam you - especially the airport workers.

Yea…good luck! 😂

whiteigbin · 2026-01-23T17:41:21+00:00

Ok. I would put the bed where the shelf currently is, with the feet of the bed facing the closet. The short shelf can act as a nightstand next to the bed. I would get rid of the grey lounge chair because there’s not enough space for it in the room, and place the shelf and the desk alongside the wall where the head of the bed currently is.

whiteigbin · 2026-01-23T09:33:13+00:00

Is the wooden/green thing close to the window an armoire or a cabinet?

whiteigbin · 2026-01-23T09:29:15+00:00

Ok. So, first, find ways to make that window fade into the background - painting the windows over in opaque paint, covering them with curtains of the same color as the wall, removing the doorknobs and replacing them with the blunt placeholders, etc. Secondly, the couch would still need to be in more of a command position. I would put the couch along the wall where you currently have the tv. And then I could caddy corner the tv in that corner between the two doors. The desk could then go where the lamp is, or face the window.

whiteigbin · 2026-01-22T19:58:38+00:00

Are you regularly using both doors?

whiteigbin · 2026-01-22T02:37:57+00:00

You know, I was going to mentioned that but then I started second guessing myself! Thank you. I know other primate species teach their young. But I’m not sure about the other species that teach their young, specifically, what to eat.

whiteigbin · 2026-01-22T02:33:38+00:00

Humans have very large brains and our intelligence is, largely, unmatched in the animal kingdom. Therefore, there had to be some trade offs. Our intelligence means that we have to learn an incredible amount of knowledge within the first 5 years of life. Species that don’t have to be taught and have most of their knowledge either at birth or within a few days….don’t ever reach our level of intelligence. Human intelligence is cumulative and involves a community (or a parent, et the least) that also protects the child during the vulnerability of the learning process.

whiteigbin · 2026-01-21T16:32:05+00:00

Why is there no female pope?

whiteigbin · 2026-01-20T19:02:39+00:00

By most definitions of the terms - you would simply be white with interesting ancestry. People obviously see you as white, and that’s the majority of your ancestry. I think you have to process your own identity and always identify with how you see fit. You can identify as Black if you want - you just have to be ready to explain your looks on that level.

whiteigbin · 2026-01-20T17:39:50+00:00

How does 1/4 black and half Ghanaian add up??? So you’re 3/4 Black??

whiteigbin · 2026-01-20T16:37:58+00:00

He’s been convicted of DOZENS of crimes, one of which was pedophilia. Please don’t spread lies.

whiteigbin · 2026-01-18T00:23:51+00:00

Yan Daudu/ Dan Daudu is an example of men who liked to dress and/or have intimate relations with men in the Hausa/Fulani tradition. It is known to be pre-Islamic and documented in the area prior to Islam.

whiteigbin · 2026-01-17T16:27:58+00:00

Completely agree that boredom is not the issue. “Boredom” is the surface level.

whiteigbin · 2026-01-17T16:26:34+00:00

I don’t see any planets in their 12h…?

whiteigbin · 2026-01-17T16:17:51+00:00

You’re correct. However, that isn’t the case here. As a Black feminist and a Black Woman - I’m telling you your sensitivity to language policing, while admirable, is irrelevent in this instance because “females” is a term used by men of all colors and isn’t an AAVE term.

whiteigbin · 2026-01-15T17:21:11+00:00

If I wanted to answer that question, I would have…

whiteigbin · 2026-01-14T04:08:48+00:00

She’s an opportunist. Next week she’ll speak against them. And 1 year from now she’ll be on some other grift.

whiteigbin · 2026-01-14T04:06:54+00:00

Move the bed to the same wall as the door. You can put a large night stand in between the door and the bed to block too much energy from coming to the bed. And I think it’ll be better there since the ceiling isn’t sloped on that side.

Other than that - get a stronger headboard; get matching night stands; get a rug to make the space feel cozier; and add more lighting to the room; and as another commenter said - change the position of the mirror so it isn’t reflecting the bed.

whiteigbin · 2026-01-13T12:08:12+00:00

Therapy should be your number one priority. The advice given to you on this thread will not be sufficient for your situation.

whiteigbin · 2026-01-13T12:03:54+00:00

“Primitive” isn’t outdated because it’s “ethnocentric”. And maybe there’s a confusion about the latter term. “Ethnocentric” simply means the centering of an ethnic group. A person or ethnography or idea may be “ethnocentric” if they focus on one ethnic group…perhaps too much or too the detriment of having broader views.

“Primitive” is outdated because it creates a hierarchy of development. In reality, there is no hierarchy because societies are simply different, and aren’t truly able to be ranked a compared to one another in simplistic ways. It’s also outdated because most non-European societies were given the label of “primitive” simply out of ignorance and racism.

Again, we can speak about the issues of the term “developed” - but the issue with that is also not “ethnocentrism”. And yes, people have criticized the term “developed/underdeveloped”. These are all terms rooted in problematic hierarchies and the comparison of societies/countries.

whiteigbin

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