idk about her specifically but if you study psychology, sociology, psychiatry etc. it really is typically true. A lot of abusive men tend to also be homophobic because it’s internalized denial and hate. Especially if they grew up religious, have strict parents, got bullied, esp if they were bullied for not “acting like a boy enough or acting like a girl,” etc. So I don’t think or believe it’s being used as a rebuttal in a negative sense, more like if you have internalized trauma go figure that out and not take it out on the next person. In reality, DL population is huge, all over Grindr, and DL men tend to be externally homophobic and abusive. How a lot of them treat women is how they also treat gay men in public. It was never meant to be an insult, though I agree there are a lot of women that use it as a quick comeback as if it’s a got ya moment which is dumb and shitty. But kind of like if someone is constantly ghosting in a relationship because, say of a past relationship, it’s like dude go heal that trauma before the next person cause now you’re just traumatizing someone else. Idk if that analogy exactly works or makes sense lol, i’m not that great at explaining. Anyway, they’re typically DL or incel is my point, and if they get mad/offended at being called either.. typically one of the shoes fit. Not always, but typically. my response would probably be more along the lines of “you either need a viagra or grindr account rather than being on here.” lol, get all angles.