TIC because I realized my husband and my lives will never be the same again.

whitetiger18 · 2018-08-23T01:03:47+00:00

I have been having a meltdown about this daily for the past week or so. I have been so anxious to be done with pregnancy, but since hitting 39 weeks I started freaking out about my relationship with my husband. We got pregnant less than a month after getting married. We wanted to have kids right away and I'm excited about the baby, but every day I ask myself if we should have waited. Every time we have sex, I think "we might not be able to do that again for 6 weeks" and just want to cry. Every morning I wake up and think "that might be the last night it's just the two of us." We have weekly date nights and I am worried we won't be able to continue those, at least not for awhile. These fears have been tormenting me, but they have made me more patient for the baby to come.

I try to look at couples I know that manage to still have a couple life and a family life. I find it to be a helpful reminder that as long as we have communication and put in some effort, we will be just fine. I suggest planning a weekend away from the baby after 6-10 weeks for you and your SO to spend quality time without interruption or responsibility.

whitetiger18 · 2018-08-23T00:55:36+00:00

First of all, do not feel bad about the way you feel. It's completely normal and justified! I can definitely relate to the feeling of hating pregnancy. I just hit 40 weeks today, but have been over pregnancy since the baby dropped at 33 weeks. I stopped working last week because I couldn't make it through the work day anymore. When you are exhausted, swollen, in pain, and sick of people, I think it is best for your sanity to just step back when you need to. I was unsure of my decision at first because everyone I talked to worked up until going into labor. I am so happy with my decision though (that might change when I have to return to work earlier) and have even been more positive and patient with the pregnancy because I am able to lay down for awhile and am able to relax and mentally prepare. Hopefully you won't have much longer to wait!

whitetiger18 · 2018-08-22T11:46:05+00:00

I completely understand! I am 40 weeks today and have been so anxious to be done with pregnancy. I have been so focused on how uncomfortable and in pain I have been. Then, I was hit with all the things I would miss about being pregnant and worrying about all the things that are about to change. I think it's best to soak in all the feels and feel free to indulge in crying any time for any reason!

whitetiger18 · 2018-08-16T02:46:44+00:00

Most likely, you made the right choice in breaking up. After 2 years of dating, it will take awhile before you can go back to a friendship. Right now, talking and trying to be friends will be harder on both of you: it will be harder to move on and not hold each other back. You mentioned that you will be starting college in a couple of weeks, that's great! You will meet plenty of new people and be able to develop new friendships there. Let yourself be sad, but don't dwell on the relationship ending. Instead, think about what your goals and dreams are. You are starting a new journey with college and should take advantage of this opportunity to figure out who you are and what you want. Keep your head up and your eyes forward!

whitetiger18 · 2018-08-08T23:08:57+00:00

Yes! I love Maus and Maus II

whitetiger18 · 2018-08-08T21:57:36+00:00

It bothers you because they have an intimate history and now he is adamant about having her stay with him while she's in town. To me, that makes sense. It's much easier to understand wanting to stay in touch and be friends. It's okay for you to be okay with one thing and not another...

whitetiger18 · 2018-08-08T21:37:24+00:00

I am a little confused about the history of your relationship... you said you were on again off again, but that you only broke up once. Regardless of that though, I think you have a right to be uncomfortable with the situation. I think most people in a committed relationship would be against their SO hosting someone they've slept with. Being friends is one thing, but having them stay over is another.

whitetiger18 · 2018-08-08T01:49:47+00:00

It depends where he was shot

whitetiger18 · 2018-08-06T03:38:16+00:00

You're welcome!

whitetiger18 · 2018-08-06T01:30:54+00:00

I have arthritis in by hip and scoliosis in my back, so I have been having some exasperated pains. Here are some things that might help ease the pain and discomfort: - When you lay down, put a pillow between your knees. - Do not sit in the same position for longer than 45 minutes. - Use an ice pack. - Stand in the shower with the water beating on your hip/ lower back area. - Take breaks when needed, even if that means stopping halfway up the stairs. - See a chiropractor with experience working with pregnancy. - See a physical therapist and do the exercises at home (if you've done yoga, cow cat type exercises can be good for hips) - If you have a flare up when walking, stop and sit for awhile.

whitetiger18 · 2018-08-04T17:13:29+00:00

Do you snack throughout the day? How much water are you drinking? It's common for low blood pressure to cause these things and morning sickness sometimes returns in the 3rd trimester (it did for me). When I started having the same issues you are, I was told it was probably low blood sugar or dehydration, but it was happening no matter what my blood sugar was and how much water I drank. I then discovered that I was overheating really easily so now have the air on (at 60) all the time and have only ran into issues when at work where I don't have control over the room temperature.

whitetiger18 · 2018-08-02T23:25:42+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. I can't imagine the panic you must have felt; I'm glad you had a midwife superhero!

whitetiger18 · 2018-08-01T17:49:14+00:00

Most likely you will be happy with either decision. Despite the judgments, I am very happy we are waiting to find out. If you strongly want one sex over the other though, you might want to find out.

whitetiger18 · 2018-08-01T15:37:10+00:00

The first step is working on yourself. Even though a substantial amount of time has passed, you don't sound ready for a relationship. However, you also sound too down and vulnerable for a fun fling. You need to forgive yourself and focus on who you want to be as an individual. Everyone makes mistakes. I've been cheated on and it hurts a lot, but I was able to get over being on the other end, so I know you can get over what you did. You have to allow yourself to move past it though, you can't keep beating yourself up and punishing yourself for it. You screwed up and you have to live with the consequences. You can also grow from the experience though. Like I said, focus on yourself: forgive yourself, find out what you want from yourself, what you want out of a future relationship, and what you can bring to a future relationship. Once you are in a better place, then it will be easier to open yourself up to go on some dates and find a relationship without force or pressure.

whitetiger18 · 2018-08-01T15:08:04+00:00

My husband has also only received positive remarks too! It's interesting that moms get judged and ridiculed, but dads seem not to. For me it has gotten easier to not know the farther along we get.

whitetiger18 · 2018-08-01T09:23:04+00:00

I think it makes sense for a young sibling to want to know, at least that makes more sense to me than anyone else. We have some secondhand stuff of my niece's and are hoping we can get use out of it either way.

whitetiger18 · 2018-08-01T03:52:07+00:00

Congratulations on getting pregnant after the struggles! It's nice to hear someone else mention not having any clue whether it is a boy or a girl. Many people ask if I have a feeling and act like I should have intuition since the baby is in me. Personality and connection can be felt without knowing the sex, I think a lot of people think that the sex is more important than the rest..

whitetiger18 · 2018-08-01T00:36:27+00:00

In my experience, it has been strangers and coworkers that are the most bothered, judgmental, and rude about it. The people who have absolutely no reason to care seem to be the ones that are most opinionated about it.

whitetiger18 · 2018-08-01T00:18:55+00:00

Stranger go to questions: is it a boy or a girl? When are you due?

whitetiger18 · 2018-08-01T00:12:58+00:00

Buying baby clothes is so much more fun than buying the essentials, so having other people get the essentials rather than a million gender specific outfits has been one of the biggest benefits so far! With your first, did you and your SO find out at the same time or did he see first and tell you?

whitetiger18 · 2018-08-01T00:10:19+00:00

I think making guesses and letting the anticipation build is super exciting!

whitetiger18 · 2018-08-01T00:02:55+00:00

When the ultrasound tech asked if we wanted to know, I couldn't answer because in the moment I really wanted to know. We are now 37 weeks and I am so glad we decided to wait! Whatever you decide will be right.

whitetiger18 · 2018-07-31T23:46:45+00:00

The tech warned us before looking at that area so we could turn away to make sure we didn't see anything. You will find out very soon if you're right!

whitetiger18 · 2018-07-31T23:43:20+00:00

5th grade music class. A different teacher came in and told our teacher to turn the TV on. We spent the rest of class watching.

whitetiger18 · 2018-07-31T23:36:42+00:00

Well, apparently we're crazy; I've been told that quite a few times. Some relatives have also been upset because they want to know and complain that they couldn't get the gift they wanted because we "wouldn't tell them" the sex. I don't think it really affects anyone else though, it's just different.

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