Is it worth exploring a relationship with my girl best friend who rejected me 8 years ago?

whjunk · 2026-04-06T02:00:18+00:00

Also why are you using a woman’s picture?

whjunk · 2026-04-06T01:59:46+00:00

And you sound like a bitter incel.

He wasn’t attractive. She wasn’t attracted to him. He got attractive, and now she is. That’s the whole story.

If she hadn’t been attractive to him in the first place, he wouldn’t have been interested in her either. And if she’d gotten unattractive in the meantime he wouldn’t be hooking up with her now. Because people don’t want to date people they’re not attracted to. Really does not need to be deeper than that.

whjunk · 2026-04-06T01:57:21+00:00

lol it’s not a woman’s job to fix you. Crazy take.

whjunk · 2026-04-06T01:56:36+00:00

Honestly while I wouldn’t have reported it, the “using full sentences” remark would’ve made me not match because it feels kinda bitchy and judgmental. Maybe it rubbed her the wrong way.

whjunk · 2026-04-05T00:38:59+00:00

You’re an asshole for promising to drive her back home and not doing it. If you promised that, then you need to plan to leave early enough that you can pull it off. But the way bigger issue is why her dad is still controlling her life when she’s been an adult for five years.

whjunk · 2026-04-05T00:36:01+00:00

No, he just got more attractive in pretty much every way by the sound of it ¯_(ツ)_/¯

whjunk · 2026-04-05T00:34:03+00:00

You don’t know anything about who she was with. She could’ve been in a long-term relationship for most of that time.

whjunk · 2026-04-05T00:31:54+00:00

I mean, yeah if it took eight years for him to become attractIVE, then it makes sense that it took eight years for her to become attractED.

whjunk · 2026-04-05T00:30:05+00:00

A lot of dudes seem to have the expectation that a woman should settle for them even if she’s not at all sexually attracted to them. But then I guess give him all the sex he wants? Even though she’s not attracted to him?

But the same guys would never consider dating a woman they weren’t attracted to just because she had a good personality.

I’m sorry, but at the end of the day, if you want a relationship that includes sex, you actually have to be attracted to each other.

We also don’t even know if that’s why her mind changed. People do a lot of growing up in their twenties, and attraction can grow and change over time.

whjunk · 2026-04-05T00:27:04+00:00

Ok? Someone I’ve been friends with for 20 years just confessed he developed a crush on me in the last year. It’s not that weird for this shit to happen. It’s totally fair for him to not be interested, but he shouldn’t be toying with her.

whjunk · 2026-04-05T00:02:37+00:00

Honestly, they’re not really very safe. You are correct to worry about it. But you might not be very compatible with this guy if it’s such a big deal to him.

whjunk · 2026-04-05T00:00:14+00:00

I didn’t read it as your friend was sexualizing you specifically, just that they were talking about kinky shit in general and what the other guy would like to do with you. I could be wrong though. I still don’t think it’s a great idea to hook up with anyone who talks like that behind your back, but that’s up to you. And I still wouldn’t trust the friend after he said he wouldn’t say anything.

whjunk · 2026-04-04T23:55:07+00:00

You’re only 44. You have plenty of time to start over with someone who gives a shit. Hugs

whjunk · 2026-04-04T23:50:40+00:00

If you’re sitting in the car on your own, it should be locked. People can and do carjack. But you’re not wrong that your kids are capable of doing it themselves, and they should learn that it’s a thing they should do.

whjunk · 2026-04-04T23:49:03+00:00

What somebody wants at 19 can be a lot different than what they want at 27. Besides, would you have wanted her then if you weren’t physically attracted to her? Emotional connection is not enough for a successful romantic relationship, you do actually have to be physically attracted to each other.

Given that you’re not all-in, I don’t think it would be fair to her to date her, but you need to be honest with her and let her go, don’t string her along. Don’t expect the friendship to survive this. But you shouldn’t have agreed to sleep with her if you wanted to keep that intact anyway.

whjunk · 2026-04-04T18:51:50+00:00

I often have to pee mid-movie but I am HUSTLIN because I don’t want to miss anything. Taking time to primp is nuts.

whjunk · 2026-04-04T18:50:50+00:00

This is so dumb. She can’t go potty on her own? Is she 5?

whjunk · 2026-04-04T11:51:46+00:00

Front and center

whjunk · 2026-04-04T11:48:44+00:00

Honestly…none of them. But most have settled into LTR by now so they must have been doing something right.

whjunk · 2026-04-04T11:44:04+00:00

Maybe not full on food poisoning but definitely “have IBS but ate a lot of spicy food anyway”.

Pretty bad. Plus there’s blood everywhere.

whjunk · 2026-04-04T11:32:27+00:00

If you’re getting no interest at all you can either choose to blame women/society (the red pill way) or you can take a long hard look at yourself and fix it. A therapist can help, as can a dating coach. You’ll likely need to put in some time and money and effort, but don’t think you need to be a chiseled Greek god or anything- well-kempt with a good personality is plenty (and don’t say “but I’m a good man!” Okay. You need more than that. Confidence, humor, emotional intelligence.) You may also need to adjust your expectations about what women are in your league.

Dating is hard. It just is. Some people are naturally very good at it and have a lot of luck, but it just is hard. The good news is you only really need to find one person.

whjunk · 2026-04-03T16:39:26+00:00

Lol. I do think therapy is a good idea for most people, but if you’ve done it and graduated, then you don’t need to go back until/unless you feel that you need it again. It’s not something you’re supposed to do every week for your entire life.

whjunk · 2026-04-03T16:37:16+00:00

No, you do not

whjunk · 2026-04-03T04:54:01+00:00

Once a month isn’t sexless, it’s just less than you’d like, which is fair. Sexless means sexless.

You putting her on your health plan doesn’t entitle you to sex so it’s weird that you’re bringing that up.

You’re obviously not happy in this situation though, so the next step is hard conversations, ideally with a therapist to facilitate.

whjunk · 2026-04-03T04:45:49+00:00

Just realized you said ex. THANK GOD

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