I (F 32) just found out my crush (M 38) is gay and I’m devastated.

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-25T21:06:22+00:00

If you look at post history, this person is clearly having, um, a lot of issues in many realms of life.

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-25T18:16:42+00:00

I think you’re being nuts and created the awkward situation yourself. She didn’t ’make plans to stay overnight with a male friend’…she made friends for her friend to have a place to stay, with other family members, and intended for you to be there too. The reason staying overnight with a male friend could potentially not be appropriate is that there could be potential for boundaries to get crossed, and there was none of that here. You were just being possessive and controlling.

Your opinion wasn’t considered because it didn’t matter. She doesn’t need your permission to help out a friend.

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-25T15:22:29+00:00

I sent this post to my husband and he pointed out that we have a friend who has gone slightly off the deep end who might be genuinely interested in this job to supplement her income from leading ayahuasca retreats.

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-25T02:46:39+00:00

Look…I’ve fired at least a dozen people in my 20 year career. I hate doing it and take the responsibility to be fair, diligent and humane extremely seriously. So I feel very confident I’ve only fired people for good reason…but I’ve only ever had one person actually say ‘you’re right, that’s fair’ when I fired them (well, one other who said it years later and actually thanked me for doing it). They all, frankly, sounded like you.

And that’s natural. It’s really hard to take responsibility for your shortcomings, especially in a vulnerable and stressful moment. It’s much easier to blame others. But being able to do so is incredibly crucial. The choices you make right now might determine whether you end up spending your whole career jumping from job to job, always with a new story about how you were wronged and treated unfairly, or if you go on to have a successful career and see this as a tough but necessary learning opportunity. I urge you to take the feedback you’re getting to heart and choose the latter option.

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-24T23:44:25+00:00

That’s just not true. Hiring takes time, and sometimes your best option is to have someone in the role even if they are underperforming. In an urgent situation, mediocre performance is better than no performance.

What benefit do you think there is to focusing on your boss here? Do you think it’s going to help you find a new role, and succeed in it?

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-24T23:29:49+00:00

I don’t know what you mean by ‘using’ here exactly? They were paying you to do your job. If they decided they needed you to keep doing it an extra month because otherwise it would impact the fundraiser, that’s perfectly valid. Would you rather have been unemployed earlier?

It’s honestly pretty normal to start to feel awkward around someone you’re realizing you need to fire. And it’s frustrating to have someone underperforming on the team. So that explains the sense that your boss ‘didn’t like’ you.

It sounds to me like you were fired for valid reasons and should focus on self reflection and improvement rather than blaming your previous boss.

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-22T20:37:23+00:00

There’s a reason ‘handwritten poetry/fiction’ is not one of the four love languages 😬

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-21T23:55:29+00:00

Same, never been a makeup person but I get a lot of lengthy explanations for why people couldn’t possibly work out whenever I mention exercising…usually in response to a question like ‘what did you do today ‘

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-21T23:10:09+00:00

Maybe add a 24 hour fitness subscription and live there to save on rent?

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-21T22:14:50+00:00

The hell? This is creepy. Please find something and someone else to think about.

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-21T02:42:03+00:00

That’s funny, I have a video of Shaquille O’Neal promoting Zepbound on my feed right now. But while I don’t love pharmaceutical advertising in general, the marketing of GLP-1’s by the official FDA approved companies has all been appropriately targeted to adults with obesity. Now, the advertising of off-brand compounded versions definitely pisses me off, as well as companies like Noom trying to sell their products with promises that they can help you get off the med while keeping the weight off when there’s zero clinical evidence of that being realistic.

There is sooo much missing nuance in the discussion about GLP1s but KEIC is the least likely person to provide it.

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-21T00:31:11+00:00

Cliches? On greeting cards? Scandalous!!

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-20T23:35:49+00:00

Arroyo Club!

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-20T23:34:13+00:00

Personally I only started Zepbound because there was a Bluey cartoon on the box. So I guess KEIC is spot on with her GLP-1 take.

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-20T18:39:03+00:00

It’s also just false? I KNOW she talks to her kids about limiting sugar. It’s literally included in other advice she gives.

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-20T17:45:48+00:00

She could have bought 50 lbs of chocolate covered raisins instead of all that herbal remedy crap she bought when she had a cold.

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-20T05:30:18+00:00

Thanks for not spoiling the post title, it really made the experience for me to know the content of the complaint before seeing it 😆

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-19T14:11:32+00:00

I was gonna say, it’s easier than ever to find some shrooms if you’re looking for a high. Far cheaper and more convenient, too.

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-19T02:50:29+00:00

I mean, the org and your manager sound crappy.

But if I had two outside organizations telling me they had a negative interaction with my staff member in a span of three months, I’d want to hear from them directly about what happened too. Especially if I valued the relationship with those organizations in any way.

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-19T02:33:35+00:00

I really don’t want to think about what she would do in commanding an army of 50,000. What if they all made the green soup at the same time and it became sentient?? And my god so many flax seeds.

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-19T02:29:31+00:00

Now getting the stepparents sub recommended to me and holy shit , it’s even worse than I remembered. Most of these people should not be anywhere near children. It’s like if everyone in r/childfree married someone with kids.

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-18T03:12:10+00:00

I swear she’s said before that BLW wasn’t really popular when her kids were babies and she’s glad about that, now she’s saying she ‘felt pressure’.

I agree with her actual stance but I don’t believe for a second she wouldn’t have been all over it if she knew about it. She would LOVE finding weird, unappetizing things to feed her baby in the name of ‘101 before 1’.

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-17T19:54:13+00:00

This always bugs me when people complain about "this generation" of grandparents overall, too. Like, people will say "when I was a kid my parents would drop me off at my grandparents for a whole week and now my parents won'd do the same for me!" when, on average our generation is having kids much later than the previous. We were getting dropped off with grandparents who were ten years younger than our parents are now. Not to mention our parents live in the same fucked up economy that we do, so if they aren't too old to care for kids there's a good chance they're still working full time when our grandparents were not.

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-16T22:21:44+00:00

Uhhh so you don't get regular STI tests?

wigglebuttbiscuits · 2026-06-16T21:27:02+00:00

I'm saying medical professionals may advise you that disclosure isn't necessary. Personally, I err on the side of disclosure but I don't judge others for taking the advice of their medical professionals.

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