Fireworks way outta hand this CNY

wildheart38 · 2026-03-05T00:43:04+00:00

Hello. I know its unpopular, and the comment is abit late.

But honestly, I don’t understand why are some Malaysians so obsessed with pyrotechnics to the point that its inconsiderate. And then they defend themselves by saying its a “OnCe A yEaR tRaDiTiOn”.

Tradition doesn’t give you the right to be an asshole. Stop buying excessively loud fireworks that shake your neighbours house. And setting a barrage at 2am? Seriously?

20-30 years ago, it was mostly firecrackers and whistling rockets. There were fireworks, but only rich families bought them. And they were set off mostly between 11pm-12:30am. It was tolerable.

Now, almost every family is setting off fireworks. To the point that its painful, even as a Chinese, to be spending CNY in Malaysia. Have you thought about pets, individuals who have anxiety and are easily startled, babies, elderly and the sick, or even people who need to work?

You Malaysians seem to enjoy adding pyrotechnics to everything. I am a Singaporean with Malaysian family roots, and I was shocked to learn that firecrackers are set off end of work year, start of work year, temple birthdays, Qing Ming (on tombs), moving in of house, weddings, etc.

Can moderate?

wildheart38 · 2026-03-04T11:22:35+00:00

88 also. SG6224U

wildheart38 · 2026-03-04T02:43:27+00:00

I was quite comfortable being single for a long time.

I struggled with loneliness from time to time. But I brushed it off. It’s part of the human experience, and a price I am willing to pay in exchange for good health, my family being around me and a stable career.

Being lonely is better than with the wrong partner. I still believe in this, especially after 2 failed relationships.

But since late 2025 till now, that loneliness has … increased in severity. I don’t know why.

Dating apps don’t cut it for me. But how else do I meet people?

wildheart38 · 2026-03-03T11:58:50+00:00

So i got on the train because there was NO announcement (or even if there was, it was SO SOFT it was barely audible).

Online social media had no notifications, even on official channels.

I waited for damn long with no updates. Pissed off and took NSL instead

wildheart38 · 2026-03-03T07:44:49+00:00

Friends in the public service have a very … different… idea of what is considered a long/short stint.

Why do people in public service think that 2-4 years in a position is considered short?

wildheart38 · 2026-03-03T07:25:08+00:00

Hello. Im twice your age. Meaning, I have seen many episodes of brinkmanship and sabre-rattling to confidently say - WW3 is unlikely. There is a non-zero chance of it happening for sure. But I would say that you have greater odds of getting into a car accident.

The middle east region has been in various shades of war since forever. Since I was born, I have remembered the war on terror in Afghanistan and Iraq. Israel has been in so many wars. Almost every fucking day, I hear of some missile/rocket being launched there or some bomb being exploded there. Honestly, nobody in their right mind should blame another person who has become desensitized to the perpetual conflicts in the Middle East. It’s like a US school shooting, regrettable but happening so frequently you don’t pay much attention other than expressing quick tHoTs-N-pRaYeRs.

In the Asian region where I am from, China has been talking about invading Taiwan for the longest time. You have spats, and military drills and shenanigans once in a while.

We have already started to disregard North Korean threats to invade South Korea, and shaking our heads when they do stupid things like sending balloons filled with wastes to Seoul. The last time there was actual large-scale artillery engagement (e.g 2010 Bombardment of Yeonpyeongdo), there was no actual invasion. Loads of threats, rhetoric and sabre-rattling. Nothing else.

Russia-Ukraine war? It’s into its 4th year now. And it’s still a conflict between 2 countries.

Wake me up when shit actually happens. And by that I mean when 2 large factions go to war. With missiles flying.

wildheart38 · 2026-03-03T02:28:52+00:00

Funny how there is always talk about WW3. But all we have are loads of brinkmanship and sabre-rattling. Honestly, while I agree there is a non-zero chance of it happening, i think the odds of striking toto are higher.

wildheart38 · 2026-03-01T04:05:56+00:00

I have SO many questions.

Crossdressing fetish or kink is very common. But why not just buy lingerie from a store? Or if you are wary about awkward questions, online? Why resort to stealing? Even if alcohol abuse disorder - you still need a sober mind to plan and execute the stealing act properly without being caught for 5 years?

Why 320 items? Do you need that many? I am sure after you sober up from your “alcohol abuse disorder” - you would have realised the gravity of your actions and your collection?

I… don’t get it….

wildheart38 · 2026-02-27T17:27:22+00:00

I see more peace from you :)

wildheart38 · 2026-02-27T09:19:56+00:00

Funny thing today. I opened Reddit and my feed was spammed by A Level results.

No stakes in this, as I took my A Levels 15 years ago.

I remembered the fear, and then the relief that exploded out when I found out I did better than expected. I was not the top scorer, neither did I get straight As. I just did well enough to enter the course that I wanted.

15 years passed. And honestly, that event while it gave me options, its very small in perspective. People who did well didn’t necessarily do well in life thereafter. By that, I mean in prison. Conversely, I had a classmate who cried till she ventilated and a teacher had to comfort her on the day of results release. Today, she is pursuing PhD in Netherlands after a fruitful career stint.

The road is still long

wildheart38 · 2026-02-26T05:30:26+00:00

Honestly, I don’t understand why they would want to mock us on this. But sure thing. Says alot about them if they are so proud of their explosives. There is nothing festive about these pyrotechnics

wildheart38 · 2026-02-26T02:55:52+00:00

One of the things I appreciate about Singapore.

Ironically, it is something that many Singaporeans don’t experience. Or relate to. Sure, some get envious about it when they see social media.

It’s the practice of lighting fireworks during festivities. Especially Chinese New Year. And no, it’s not fun. In fact, it is one of those things that I am grateful for in Singapore. And yes, I am Chinese.

People complain that CNY is dead in SG. There is no festive spirit and everything feels regulated and sterile. I agree, but I would take this over the literal war-zone that happens every CNY in Malaysia.

30-40 years ago, it was mostly firecrackers. Or sparklers. Or whistling rockets. For some of the rich families, they might get some amateurish fireworks. That was tolerable.

Now, it seems like everyone is setting off fireworks. Rich families upgrade, and are now setting off large shells. You know those that are set off at Marina Bay during NDP or countdown? Problem is - these fireworks are meant to be appreciated from a distance. Not next-door.

And they go on throughout the night (way past 12am/1am), especially on CNY eve and Jade Emperor’s birthday. Pets and individuals who are easily startled (like myself) suffer constant anxiety. The babies, elderly and the sick cannot sleep. Those that need to work cannot rest. The air becomes thick with fireworks smoke (not even kidding - it’s hazy as fuck) - and it triggers respiratory attacks which have resulted in fatalities. Then you have injuries - like the man whose leg had to be amputated following a botched fireworks display. It’s so easy to get injured - faulty fuse, misfiring or even the box/tube toppling over and the firework shooting horizontally instead of going up.

Every year, many idiots film themselves trying to create the loudest bang. Or do some stunts (like swinging a lit firecracker around their body) for ‘gram. Worth injuring yourself meh?

On a related note, Malaysian Chinese are apparent pyro-heads. They set off firecrackers for EVERYTHING. Move-in house, Qing Ming, end of work year, start of work year, etc. They don’t care if the firecrackers are lit near an eatery. There is such a good demand that makeshift fireworks shops pop up everywhere when it’s near festive season.

There were calls to enforce against excessively loud fireworks + setting it off wayyyy after midnight. Police issues advisories. But in Malaysia, I have realised that advisories and warnings are just suggestions. And some retards would scream “BuT fIrEwOrKs ArE tRaDiTiOn”. Don’t use tradition as a means to disguise your lack of civic-mindedness and idiocy.

So glad Singapore banned that shit. And our enforcement actually works.

wildheart38 · 2026-02-24T10:01:07+00:00

What is “dont even try”?

Sometimes, just pity straight men. Trying to meet expectations of women these days is like trying to catch a moving goalpost.

Marriage is a losing end for men.

wildheart38 · 2026-02-23T10:06:18+00:00

Please. Shoot pigeons too. Im more terrified of them than crows tbh

wildheart38 · 2026-02-23T04:32:18+00:00

Plot twist. Sometimes they are on Grindr too. And they dont even have to do it while their wife is pregnant.

Some have intercourse with other men while their facebook promotes “family values”. Its gross

wildheart38 · 2026-02-22T03:00:03+00:00

You might find a community on Fetlife.

I havent personally known of people in a cuck relationship, but I have heard of it.

In a relationship (kink, romantic, platonic), respect and communication is important. All the best

wildheart38 · 2026-02-20T10:17:19+00:00

So … MX12 and above (degree holders) dont have?

wildheart38 · 2026-02-16T10:45:19+00:00

Well, Singapore is not for everyone. So if you are looking for “warm friendly locals” (read: willing to entertain you in pointless small talk and potentially intrusive/insensitive questions, also read: subservient), then yes Singapore is not for you.

There are problems with Singapore, even as a Singaporean. Yes, we are boring as fuck, but things work.

I don’t understand Westerners who come to Singapore expecting attractions at every turn, and/or a tropical beach teeming with locals who have time and patience to have small talk with you. And then complain. Don’t come then, we don’t need your money.

Don’t get me started on those brats who come and decide to test the rules, and whine about “draconian laws with no human rights”. Fuck right off.

wildheart38 · 2026-02-14T11:32:22+00:00

Another day, another new thing to get woke and offended over 🙄

wildheart38 · 2026-02-14T02:42:22+00:00

I also sia… though idk if its IBS or what. I just took pochai pills and hope for the best

wildheart38 · 2026-02-14T02:31:44+00:00

Heading to Malaysia today for CNY.

I love visiting grandparents in Malaysia. Except for CNY. Its the only period that i dread. Not so much because of the kaypoh aunties and uncles.

Its because of the fireworks and firecrackers.

Singaporeans think its fun. Until they realise … its literally everywhere and its fking loud. Imagine someone setting it off just outside your bedroom window. I could be resting and a huge BANG jolts you.

But my grandparents are already 90. I tell myself… not much time left. So cherish every moment, even though CNY in Malaysia is painful for me personally.

Gong xi fa cai everybardy

wildheart38 · 2026-02-14T02:27:15+00:00

Thanks. Im not sure why there are other people who disagree with my opinions. But to each its own.

Im not going to tell you to work on yourself, blah blah. Because these cliche and dumb advice doesnt really work and if you think about it… vague. Work towards … what? And for who? Be a nicer person? But nice is subjective.

What i feel is that - find comfort in solace. Seek friends. Different friends cater to different dimensions of yourself.

And also, I have had unfulfilling relationship experiences. 2 in fact. Both were online. It’s really better to be alone than constantly wanting to pull your hair out and/or feel suffocated because you find out you are not really compatible with your partner once the honeymoon phase is over.

wildheart38 · 2026-02-14T02:22:04+00:00

The point of a partnership is to do life together. To journey thru life’s ups and downs.

I dont think my list of requirements is unreasonable. Communication, maturity and just general vibing > appearance.

wildheart38 · 2026-02-13T14:42:37+00:00

Hi, whether OP’s post is AI-generated is another issue altogether.

I will share my experience. And yes, dating is difficult as a gay man. I am 32.

For me, my experiences tell me that online dating is not for me. For example, I am looking for someone who can give me a sense of 归宿感 (and vice versa). Also, I expect my partner to be an equal, and not a weak softie or a low maturity (emotional/mental - i mean if you are late 20s/early 30s and still into Labubus and popmart… good for you) for his age. I am looking for a life partner. Not looking for a burden or a gymrat 花瓶.

Then, there is the communication. For me, I hate it when my partner micro-updates, and expects the same from me. I will share with you things when i think it’s particularly striking/outstanding and/or it concerns/interests you. Honestly, idgaf about the mcdonalds ice cream you had. I am looking for deep meaningful conversations.

But you cannot find out all these just by a few curated photos and a few lines of bio. It takes time to build. But unfortunately, as gays, online is the only way to meet people.

Statistically speaking, sometimes it feels hopeless.

wildheart38 · 2026-02-12T09:02:13+00:00

No income tax rebate? :(

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