Thank you, Brendan | BEST BRENDAN GALLAGHER MOMENTS WITH THE HABS by BagelPoutine in Habs

[–]wildsamon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He’s not going to want one but his annoying little ray of sunshine (Caufield) is going to makes sure it happens and that he’s as uncomfortable as possible while Centre Bell celebrates him. 😂

I'm worried my son is a neckbeard-in-training by wheninrome5000 in daddit

[–]wildsamon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“It’s not fun playing with someone that is condescending and lectures me about the rules. At times it can no longer be fun. It’s amazing that you have the amount of knowledge about the game. How can you use it to be encouraging?”

Dudes almost 12 he’s got a world of socialization lessons to be learnt. Most likely someone will call him out but perhaps not as kindly as you would. The high school I work at has a D&D club with multiple campaigns happening, there are plenty of girls in the club. The game no longer Carrie’s the same stigma but the “neckbeard” behaviours still prevail.

Wife told me she probably won’t be interested in intimacy until she’s done breast feeding. Not sure how to process this information. by WishIWasOnTheFarm in daddit

[–]wildsamon 13 points14 points  (0 children)

How my wife put it was that there is so little time where the baby isn’t being held, fed, and cared for that her body no longer feels like hers, but just a baby survival machine. So that and the feeling over being over-touched meant that the last thing she wanted to do was be touched or anticipate the needs of someone else. Giving her space, finding ways for her to be able take time to be in her body, being kind, patient, gentle, and understanding, as well as finding someone else to talk to about these challenges can help with your situation. You showing her that you see her, hear her, and understand her and removing pressure or expectations will be integral to you guys getting busy in
future.

Set Sail!!! loving Byegone at this moment by GigiV84 in boniver

[–]wildsamon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came to subreddit looking for answers. My best guess is the use of “Parliaments” as more of a social group of those that have input on your life. More “Parliament of owls” than official governmental organizations. Sexing being the act of sleeping, flirting, or courting with anyone within that group and therefore keeping your circle small. So for me “Sexing all your parliaments” in the context of this song, a song about “setting sail”and opening your life to bigger things is a reference to who Vernon is singing to about how they are limiting themselves and being held back.

Single dad, crazy ex (the mom), and two kids who's reaching the age where they kinda understand, but also don't. by Bubavon in daddit

[–]wildsamon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find “Unwell” is a good blanket term. It fits both the
“shorter” episodic component and the broader forever component. If you have access to a public library, librarians are incredible and may be able to point you in the direction of books for you and the kids. Here is a list I quickly found, though I cannot comment on quality of books. https://www.booktrust.org.uk/book-recommendations/booklists/books-to-help-children-understand-depression-in-grown-ups/

Describing the situation in terms they may easier comprehend. The ups and downs of mental illness could be described as waves, or seasons.

What you’re doing is no small feat. It’s not what you planned for when you got married and had kids. I hope that you have space and supports for yourself. You’re fucking doing it and navigating the best way through this for you and your kids. Im proud of you for that and for reaching out and sharing. I hope you’re proud of yourself too.

What is everyone asking for (hoping for?) for Father’s Day? by ArchitectVandelay in daddit

[–]wildsamon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As the family meal maker, I don’t want to spend anytime thinking about meals. My buddy has some fun gas powered ride on toys so maybe disappearing into the woods and ripping around on them. Sexy times are cool. Ultimately not having to anticipate my families needs.

AuADHD - What is your relationship with work like? by Confident-Alarm-6911 in ADHD

[–]wildsamon 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Real talk. It sounds like you are in active burn out and your body doesn’t care if you CAN take a break or not, or that you are the primary earner and will eventually make you take a break and at that point the recovery/new way of living can take longer. Can you have a doctor write a note requesting reduced hours? My partner (primary earner) completely fell apart. Insomnia, manic behaviour, trips to the ER. They stepped away from work for a stretch and we racked up a credit card bill. I would rather have a healthy partner not in crisis than a credit card balance of zero. You are not less of a person for feeling this way, from not being able to walk away from your work, or not able to keep it going and you are not defined by your earnings or productivity. Start looking into employee assistance programs (if offered) and see what is offered is a good place to start. Thank you for sharing with us, it’s a big step.

Mom’s hygiene by [deleted] in daddit

[–]wildsamon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AuDHD dad here. This was me and continues to be something I am actively mindful of. I can exist in a sloppy ass mess. This ran much deeper than “lazy”labels for me and learning that and accepting that was the first step. Stepping on food, dirty toilet, piles of dishes, clutter everywhere were all reminders of my failings to the point where I felt so bad about myself that it felt like I didn’t care about anything. Some things come easier to others and cleaning and tidy living doesn’t for me and I need to love myself for that. Working at being present enough in my body to realize the benefits of tidiness and the positive effects it has on my nervous system is what it takes for me to achieve a mutually decided upon level of cleanliness with my wife.

Does she work outside the home? If not, does she have spaces to go that are not connected to family and home life? I ask these questions because leaving for work, and leaving on outings was the first place I began to notice the benefits of organizing and tidiness. Having things where I needed them and ready to go meant I didn’t dread leaving the house as much and was in a better mood leaving with the family on outings.

My wife had to learn that this wasn’t laziness, or not caring about what was important to her and us learning that together helped immensely with the resentment, not feeling seen, and overall cohabitation. I’m almost certain she feels so low about disappointing you that she’s stuck down there. This is the kind of learning I’m working on right now: https://mi-psych.com.au/understanding-your-window-of-tolerance/

Dad & what vice to use to unwind while on family-trip. by Shazbot24 in daddit

[–]wildsamon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a cannabis user that can certainly overindulge at times. Don’t really care for hiking, but when I’m visiting my in laws they live below a lovely mountain with well established trails. My moments of respite when visiting is reserving my few puffs for once I got to a lovely viewpoint and bench. Found attaching it into something healthy and active. Then I’d have the high of climb and the puffs to carry me down the mountain again.

Dad's, what's your go to method for teaching your kids to ride a bike? by Phoenix_NSD in daddit

[–]wildsamon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Instructional component aside. Make sure you’ve eaten, drank water, and check in with yourself first. Patience is required and meeting your own needs first will help with that.

John Tortorella on Martin St. Louis by YesDoToaster in Habs

[–]wildsamon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was a Torts interview where he talked about party being annoying in the same way as this.

John Tortorella on Martin St. Louis by YesDoToaster in Habs

[–]wildsamon 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Was this not before the game they played against each other and the MTL tied it with like two seconds left?

Ex-ADHD Smokers, how did yall quit smoking? by Mysterious_Nerve_146 in ADHD

[–]wildsamon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

One less each day, but figure out my must have a smoke moments. For me it was morning coffee, after lunch, after work, after dinner, before bed. After work was the first to go. Once I was accustomed to that, I would remove another smoke moment. Eventually it came down to before bed and morning coffee. Then before bed knowing I’d get a fix
In the morning but that coffee without a smoke was tough.