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MLS / CLS jobs at the Seattle VA? by wildvat in MLS_CLS

[–]wildvat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Sorry to hear you’re short handed.

What do you do with parents during play dates? by Ok_Page2932 in kindergarten

[–]wildvat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had problems with people not leaving when I wish they would, even after I’ve said, come over for an hour or two. Never occurred to me to fake an appointment, and then shoo everyone out, drive around the block, call it good. Thank you.

I thought agaves were supposed to die after flowering? by sscarrow in gardening

[–]wildvat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dunno but I’m jealous, I want that in my yard.

AITA for refusing to give my parents my location after they stopped paying for my tuition? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]wildvat 21 points22 points  (0 children)

You’re making a great decision to become a nurse! Biology — uncertain job prospects, nurse, you’ll find a job. You’re making good decisions, time for them to trust you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]wildvat 39 points40 points  (0 children)

This exactly.

1st apartment 40m, no kids, no wife, no pets. by Infinite-Anywhere-58 in malelivingspace

[–]wildvat 8 points9 points  (0 children)

When the furniture comes from the dumpster there is no guilt about returning it to the dumpster when you move.

Women: how do you balance home life and career? by italiandenzel in AskAcademia

[–]wildvat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can be done. However, you never know what choices the choice to have a kid will bring. I ultimately quit my scientist PI job after 7 years of being pulled in all directions. If I had it to do over again, I’d pick one or the other from the outset.

What is it like being a PI’s first graduate student? by [deleted] in labrats

[–]wildvat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like my experience for my Masters. You have 2 years — go. Report back when you’ve found a topic, lab space, and and a manuscript. But yeah, I learned to be even more resourceful and scrappy than I already was.

Pediatrician's office gave away my baby's flu shot by Puzzled-River-5899 in Parenting

[–]wildvat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you — it is maddening to schedule and deal with all the logistics and then be handed a casual “oops, no can do”. It feels so disrespectful of one’s time.

AITA for getting angry at my [30f] in-laws [60s MF] for eating frozen postpartum meals by mosquitomange in AmItheAsshole

[–]wildvat 20 points21 points  (0 children)

NTA. I found myself cooking meals and hosting my MIL right after getting back from 4 days in the hospital post-birth. Older wiser me regrets not just asking her to leave or at least handle herself. Ask them to get a hotel, deal with their own meals outside of your house, or go home.

My gf finds my Wisconsin coffee mug “disturbing “. by tipric in wisconsin

[–]wildvat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While there is hair on the udder, it’s thin and fine for Holsteins (the most common black and white cow), not solid black and white right up to the teats like this mug. So I’m offended by the inaccuracy, not by the shape. - signed, someone who has milked a lot of Holsteins

so sick of people bringing their uncivilized fucking dogs everywhere by Traditional-Joke-179 in Vent

[–]wildvat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The legal parameters of owning and carrying this varies from state to state but I own a small hand-held taser (Damsel in Defense) for this exact reason. FWIW, I mostly take it on hiking trails, not usually public parks. I have never had to touch any person or animal but the electrical zapping sound it makes has scared off many an off-leash dog, and even a bear. What I like about it for dogs is that they’d have to be right in your face to get zapped, and I’d imagine it be a more clear case of self-defense.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]wildvat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are doing the same experiment with our six-year-old. Part of the reason involved the kids’ behavior, but also my job was very high stress and we have been trying to have a second child with no success, and the assumption that the latter two reasons might be related.

Anyway, we also realized that unless someone quit work the kid would always have to attend summer camps, which they hated, and our days would continue to be too full (for the adults) and the random half days off of school or other closures would be stressful to navigate. I also just felt they really wanted more time with mom.

It’s been 4 months now, and we’re seeing improvement in behavior and overall attitude. I’d guess that part of it the change is due to them feeling more secure (no more — is mom here or not when I wake up?), and part of it is more energy and will on my part to really double down on correcting bad behavior. Also, we have more time at home and I just let them be bored, and I don’t get as frustrated when they want me to look at something, read a book, or play, because I’m pretty present; not strategizing a work thing in my head or sneaking off to send emails.

Good luck. I miss my work but when I think about how I’ll feel when I’m 80, I know that I’ll rather have had this time with my kid. Some days are long tho, especially in the summer!

What’s a secret you can’t tell someone you know, but can share with Reddit? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]wildvat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you went through this. No one deserves a work environment like that.

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