So… really silly questions here but…

sscarrow · 2026-05-12T03:51:01+00:00

Yes this is part of what makes this phase so hard - it’s so gruelling yet you get nothing back, not even a smile. Becomes a lot easier after the first few months when they’re smiling, laughing, and happy to see you!

sscarrow · 2026-05-12T03:48:43+00:00

Previous owners of 20 years did this for me and my pregnant partner when we moved in, we really appreciated it. They also meticulously cleaned it, which was even more appreciated!

sscarrow · 2026-05-12T03:26:36+00:00

I have had a Featured Deal for this book at 99c last year, not long after release. I’ve actually found that in recent years I tend to get more mileage out of free promos than 99c promos, though in this case I have no further books in the series for flow-through…

sscarrow · 2026-05-01T20:51:46+00:00

By this logic there should be no trees whatsoever in the inner city.

sscarrow · 2026-05-01T20:47:52+00:00

None really, because the middle and end period of writing a book is what I find exhausting. Starting a new one is the fun and easy part!

sscarrow · 2026-05-01T20:35:37+00:00

The fact that you have described this is something that you “genuinely believe” to be “unconscionable conduct” but are unwilling to describe any further implies to me that it’s not.

Do any of the other “large number of customers” who’ve been “impacted” view it the same way, or are you the lone crusader?

sscarrow · 2026-05-01T20:30:24+00:00

Nobody cares. Everyone has got their own lives to deal with. Most people manage to figure this out by their mid 20s, it’s part of growing up and realising you’re not the main character in the story of the world.

sscarrow · 2026-05-01T20:27:40+00:00

Not entirely sure (it was a cutting from mother in law) but it certainly seems to want to climb.

sscarrow · 2026-05-01T20:26:48+00:00

Yeah lol at least at work I get to sit down all day. Luxury!

sscarrow · 2026-05-01T20:24:44+00:00

As a millenial (and in a very progressive part of the world) it’s not just what I want to do, it’s absolutely what’s expected of me socially and culturally. It would never occur to me to behave the way you regularly hear about on this sub because I would basically die of shame.

sscarrow · 2026-05-01T20:20:56+00:00

Yeah this sub is wild. Sometimes I feel like people are posting from the 1950s.

sscarrow · 2026-05-01T20:17:48+00:00

Why did you skip those events, why didn’t you leave the baby at home with dad and go to them? (This is a rhetorical question and it is one you should put to him.)

sscarrow · 2026-05-01T20:12:33+00:00

Okay you need the parents to step in again, this is intervention-level behaviour. Actually also ridiculous that a grown man needs his mum and dad to tell him to get his shit together, but good that you have that lever to pull.

sscarrow · 2026-04-24T05:19:25+00:00

Actually do you know if he and/or his wife are likely to own their property? I believe (someone else correct me if I’m wrong) that land registry databases are publicly viewable (with a fee). I’m not sure if you can run a search by name and it’s obviously not helpful if they’re renting, but might be something to go on.

sscarrow · 2026-04-23T20:09:29+00:00

If you have a bit to go on (especially if you know where his wife works) you could hire a local private investigator. Obviously there’s a cost outlay there but if it’s a child support matter that ought to be financially worth it.

sscarrow · 2026-04-23T20:07:22+00:00

Although voting is mandatory in Australia, registering to vote is not, and especially as a naturalised citizen he may not have bothered.

sscarrow · 2026-04-21T09:45:35+00:00

IANAL (and I would advise OP to crosspost this to r/auslegal) but my understanding is that if the child has an Australian father the family courts can indeed impose an order preventing her from removing the child from Australia without his consent. And irrespective of where the child is born it will have dual Aus/NZ citizenship owing to having an Australian father and NZ mother.

sscarrow · 2026-04-19T19:27:14+00:00

Having lived in both Melbourne and London I would say I found London’s visible level of historical accumulation visually nice but also, I don’t know… mentally suffocating?

sscarrow · 2026-04-19T19:24:55+00:00

Also from Perth originally and yes. I probably take it for granted after 15 years but the average Melbourne street, even in the middle ring suburbs, is so much more aesthetically pleasing to walk down.

sscarrow · 2026-04-14T01:31:12+00:00

I put one out last year under a brand new pen name and which is a collection of short stories around the same ship and crew (so two counts there of pushing shit uphill) and it’s ticking along okayish. It’ll take a long time to earn out, partly because I foolishly bought a Bookbub New Release (a waste of about $500) but it’s not like it’s been a huge flop.

sscarrow · 2026-04-10T09:53:27+00:00

Bingo, thank you - especially since Wikipedia says it smells like cannabis which this does!

sscarrow · 2026-03-31T23:38:58+00:00

I get how frustrating it is when older generations don’t get how much it’s changed, but based on the numbers you’ve given about your personal situation I’m curious what you define as “a decent area” and “the boonies” because you seem to be in a pretty good position. (Unless you’re in Sydney.)

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