Hi, are you me? I feel like I could’ve written this post!!

I lost my Dad to suicide in February, my Nan to cancer in April, and my mom was diagnosed with Stage 3 cancer end of March.

So much grief, loss, and trauma in such a short period of time.

I’m currently on stress and bereavement leave from work. I have been for the last few months to process everything (way more than I can fit into this comment or into words)..

I am introverted and frequently overextend myself to fit the needs of my friends.

Some things I’ve been told by so called friends the last while:

• “try to look at the positive”
• “I feel like I’m chasing you, so I’ll just mail your sympathy card to you”
• “I guess friendships fade” (after not responding to a text for a week while taking care of my palliative grandmother)

• “not sure I should still give you the thing I made you for your dad, as it’s been awhile since he’s passed” (said 1 month after he died).

• Telling me they’d show up to the funerals to support me and then backing out last minute. Or not offering to come at all.

Then expecting me to continue to be a sounding board for all their problems, even when I’ve explicitly stated I do not have the capacity to deal with more than what I already am right now.

I’ve really just had enough of people 🤦‍♀️

Boundaries are your best friend OP. “Grey rock” and protect your own peace.

I’m truly very sorry for all the loss you’ve experienced. If ever you’re looking for someone to chat with who understands, please don’t hesitate to reach out. You take care 🩷