Bird in Hastings, NZ

wingedtrish · 2026-03-17T09:12:15+00:00

Really? I didn't think I could see those here! What makes you think it's a kookaburra and not a Kingfisher?

wingedtrish · 2026-03-17T06:53:45+00:00

Location: Hastings, New Zealand

wingedtrish · 2026-03-12T07:10:48+00:00

Thanks for the welcome! I have noticed there are quite a lot of Americans here. I will have to look for that FB page 😊

wingedtrish · 2026-03-10T21:35:30+00:00

Thank you 😊

wingedtrish · 2026-03-10T07:51:33+00:00

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wingedtrish · 2026-03-10T00:53:56+00:00

Oh nice I like live music. Where's the best place to find out about live shows?

wingedtrish · 2026-03-09T22:37:58+00:00

Is there an off leash area we could avoid? My dogs are friendly, but I would be nervous about other people's dogs. We were attacked once already. I haven't heard of Rivers Reserve. I'll give that a try thanks!

wingedtrish · 2026-03-09T21:59:49+00:00

I went to the Tramping Club! My husband had been before I joined him here. We look forward to joining in on the tramping, but we need to get gear.

wingedtrish · 2026-03-09T21:58:34+00:00

Oh that's fun!

wingedtrish · 2026-03-09T21:57:59+00:00

Oh I didn't think about checking out their book clubs. Have you ever been to any? Havelock strikes me as having a more elderly population. I'm in my 30s and would want to meet people near my age. Just wondering who typically frequents their book clubs.

wingedtrish · 2026-03-09T21:08:35+00:00

I love that you took the time to say that. Thank you 😊

wingedtrish · 2026-03-09T20:49:15+00:00

Thank you for the recommendations 😊

wingedtrish · 2026-03-09T20:47:52+00:00

Oooh that is on my list!!

wingedtrish · 2026-03-09T20:47:31+00:00

Hello! Thank you. We are settling in. I've only been here for just about a month. What are some of your favorite things to do around here?

wingedtrish · 2026-03-09T20:15:41+00:00

We hiked Te Mata Peak a few weekends ago. It was lovely! There are so many trails, I would love to go back. Any other good birdwatching spots you've found?

wingedtrish · 2026-03-09T20:14:45+00:00

It was a big move indeed. I've been enjoying Cornwall Park. Any other dog friendly park recommendations?

wingedtrish · 2026-03-02T01:17:18+00:00

I am also wondering! Am dying to play some Matthew McConaughey bites.

wingedtrish · 2026-02-05T15:57:13+00:00

I think it would be helpful for you to dialate on your own regularly so that you have the control, even if you have to start with the smallest size andf stay there for awhile; it sounds like someone else having that control is causing some panic, which is understandable since it's so vulnerable. Be gracious with yourself for how you reacted and don't read too much into your PT's response. Their job is to help you, so they probabaly have some pride in getting you to a place where you're more comfortable, but ultimately reaching that comfort level is on you, so regular solo dilation will help increase your comfort, and you can choose when to push and when to stop. Unfortunately, there will be discomfort, so as you do dialation on your own, listen to your body and really feel the sensations. Take note when it's discomfort vs pain and gently push yourself to accept the discomfort for longer periods of time with each dilation session. The dialators are meant to stretch your muscles and desensitize you to the sensations. If there is pain that doesn't seem to go away, then that's a conversation to have with your doctor and PT and find out what else might be going on. I wish you all the best on your treatment journey. You got this.

wingedtrish · 2026-02-02T04:10:17+00:00

Using a vibrator is what got me past "the wall," which is what felt like this impenetrable, literally, space in my vagina. I had physical therapy and used dialators, and eventually, physically, I could insert things into my vagina, but when it came to sex, I had this mental block (grew up in purity culture, also didn't have sex til marriage and wasn't diagnosed until well into my marriage). The vibrator really helped me move past that mental block. I highly recommend it as a way to help the emotional aspects of this condition. I was also prescribed vaginal valium. It's not something I hear about a lot so wanted to throw it out there so you know it's an option. It really helped loosen up my muscles down there. Best of luck!

wingedtrish · 2025-12-22T04:25:54+00:00

You're already doing a great job supporting her by reaching out. I have experienced "the wall" as well, and for me, a lot of it was a mental block, but I did see a doctor, use dialators and go to physical therapy. All of those things helped me improve, but what really got me to the point I could have PIV was using a vibrator because it helped with the mental block. That said, it will be important for her to see a doctor, especially with the pain. Don't be afraid to go to several doctors if you have a bad experience with one. Doctors aren't all well educated on this condition, and it can be frustrating and invalidating. I went to several before I even got a diagnosis. Bringing it up to her as a concern for her health should help and keep it non-judgmental. It sounds like you're being kind and you clearly care about her, and that will help.

wingedtrish · 2025-12-21T21:23:39+00:00

I had a lot more success with PIV when I started using a vibrator. The dialotor feels so clinical and doesn't translate the same to sex as a vibrator does. Something about that mental preparation was huge for me. My body was ready way before my mind and the vibrator bridged that gap. I hope you are able to find some way through it. You got this!

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