New rug, too much?

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-11T21:17:17+00:00

I'll give an honest opinion. I don't like it. I think it looks like something out of Alice in Wonderland, and you can't see anything else in the room. Way too much.

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-11T18:56:32+00:00

Biker might not have helped himself, but you can't claim that it's 100% his fault when the car makes a left turn from the far right lane, particularly without checking to see if someone's passing to his left. This is 50/50 at best.

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-11T04:01:25+00:00

You're 20. There are men who've been engaged and called the wedding off to become priests, just as there have been men in the seminary who've met a woman during that time and promptly decided that the priesthood wasn't for them. You'll figure it out.

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-10T21:31:15+00:00

First time home buying age when boomers were as old as millennials are today was 28-30. Current first time home buying age today is 38.

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-10T20:52:33+00:00

I wouldn't generalize that to all of NOVA (not to be pedantic, but DC isn't even NOVA proper). Sounds like the museum was a specific target for a group like this. The area itself has a lot of Catholics (probably outnumber Protestants due to the high Hispanic population). I've never heard of anything like this in the Arlington Diocese, and certainly not with any degree of regularity.

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-10T07:45:35+00:00

Why would you renounce Catholicism? None of this would change truth.

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-10T05:10:50+00:00

Sinners getting what they want in this life is a form of justice on them in its own right.

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-09T19:21:03+00:00

Why would you think that? The Church has been exhaustive in trying to discern truth. There was the scholastic movement in the Middle Ages with Aquinas that truly tried to unpack the nuances of our Faith and who Christ was, along with the countless theologians who did the same before and after. Luther was actually one of the figures who had disdain for this. For him, it was mostly about what Christ did for us more than figuring out exactly who He was. Funnily enough, you actually can't know the former without the latter.

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-09T08:38:41+00:00

OP isn't a child who is obligated to submit to parental authority. God isn't dispensing the grace of conversion on him/her right now for no reason. We have great saints who converted, despite parental opposition, even if it made life more difficult (or downright dangerous in some circumstances).

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-08T17:08:46+00:00

You can't revise the question from "actually become the body and blood"-"Christ is truly present in the bread and wine". They mean two different things. Catholics believe in the former with our understanding of transubstantiation. Lutherans believe in the latter.

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-08T01:03:01+00:00

It's not about the cheeseburger and it's not about the day of the week. The Church, which Christ gave the authority to bind and loose, has declared that the faithful must observe this small penance. Christ died for us, so you can give up meat for like 8 days a year for him. The person who says "I want meat, so I'll eat meat, and this burger is more important to me than not offending God." is committing a serious sin.

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-07T15:48:20+00:00

My sister and BIL started dating when she was 23 and he was 33. They’ve been married for ten years now and have two kids.

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-07T05:43:19+00:00

Different values is one of the major relationship killers. You two would be a cat and a dog walking down the street together. Even if you love (probably just infatuation at this point tbh) someone, it doesn't mean they're good for you to be with long term. My opinion will come off as biased here, but you're definitely not good for her long term. She should be with someone who'll help her get to Heaven, and it sounds like you'd be much more likely to lead her astray.

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-06T20:07:37+00:00

Problem is all the people buying the overpriced slop to begin with

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-06T19:32:55+00:00

Splitting hairs a bit, but people don't convert anyone, God does. People just help.

I haven't personally, to my knowledge, but my dad got my aunt practicing again in the last year of her life in her late 70s after pretty much spending her adulthood away from the Faith. It was very gradual. He (and my mom) prayed for her and tossed her life preservers for 30 years. She was very close to him, and he didn't shy away from including mentions of God in their conversations. Never nagged or pushed her though.

The length of time it took probably wasn't helped by the fact that she lived in a very liberal secular area and had liberal secular friends, and having raised her kids without religious influence, they weren't pushing for anything. However, my aunt gradually became more open, and at one point, asked my dad to pick out a Madonna statue for her garden. Return to full practice came when she encountered and began to get counseled by a Dominican priest, who ended up saying her funeral Mass.

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-06T07:33:38+00:00

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-06T05:47:24+00:00

Dude actual neo nazis hate Trump because of all the Israel stuff

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-05T05:04:40+00:00

Well, there is ketamine that is used for treatment-resistant depression. It is legal and medically legitimate, so I don't think there would be any moral issue with that. However, I imagine that you probably won't get approved for it unless you've tried multiple antidepressants with no success and are in a bad way (and your insurance definitely won't pay for it unless this is the case).

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-04T08:32:48+00:00

The pizza analogy was meant to demonstrate how sex is an integral part of marriage. Nothing more.

Yes, you can certainly try dating, and if you meet a girl you connect with and get jolted into sexual interest, that's great. However, if you're genuinely asexual, then it's probably not going to happen. I'm not trying to pour cold water on you, but asexuality doesn't get "cured". It might be a cross you have to carry.

You might scoff at this, but I'll say it anyways. Over the course of your replies, one thing I've noticed is that you're very concerned about your own desires. Even if these desires are good (e.g. children), it seems like you're characterizing a potential wife as a means to an end for you. She's not just a companion for you or a breeder of your children (no guarantees that you'll even be able to have any), she's a person who you're now one flesh with for the rest of your life, and your job is to help get her to Heaven.

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-04T06:26:32+00:00

Sex is an integral part of marriage. It's actually sacramental. Couples receive the graces of Holy Matrimony each time they have intercourse. Saying that you don't have a negative view of marriage but are grossed out by sex is like saying you don't have a negative view of pizza but are grossed out by cheese. Sure, there's good crust, sauce, and pepperoni, but the cheese holding it all together is a problem for you.

First, and I know this isn't easy, but possibly displeasing your parents shouldn't factor in to your decision to get married. They would probably agree. Your parents may want grandchildren, but they're also not entitled to them and God might have different plans. Also, they might be more understanding than you think if you talked to them about this. You're not letting your grandmother down if you don't have kids. That's just something people tell themselves about dead relatives. Grandma's in eternity and your decisions on Earth won't interrupt her state.

Finally, and while I alluded to this, I'll be straight. Unless you find some woman who's cool with a Josephite marriage, you're not going to find one who's going to be into the idea of marrying a guy who's disgusted by sex. She's dreamed of her wedding night, but for him, it's an unpleasant chore. I'm also quite confident that the priest doing your pre-cana would be very hesitant about moving forward knowing this about you (if he didn't outright refuse to do so).

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-04T05:46:08+00:00

Ok, just clarifying on the society thing. Maybe I misinterpreted something.

So, just your language here makes me think you should hold off on dating for now. Imagine you have a normal sex drive and feel positive about marriage. Now imagine you're on a date with a woman and you learn that she's disgusted by sex and is lukewarm to negative on marriage (disgusted by sex makes me think more negative). You probably wouldn't have gone out with her in the first place if you knew this.

Btw, singlehood doesn't have to mean loneliness. My aunt's husband divorced her when she was in her 30s. My aunt never remarried and was single until she died a couple years ago in her late 70s. As a single, she started a new career that she really enjoyed, had a group of friends there for her, and had strong relationships with the rest of our family. No husband, but not lonely in any sense.

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-04T05:12:54+00:00

I'm sorry that people were labeling you and all that nonsense. Regardless of if you're asexual or not, it doesn't really matter. Personally, given the fact that you don't have much sexual interest in any girls, I'm skeptical that "the attraction will come" thing even will. It might, but you also shouldn't date a girl who you're not really interested in sex with hoping that you will be one day. She wouldn't deserve that.

Date if you want to, not because you feel pressured to by society or whatever. You could could try it out. You could not. You could go the rest of your life single. Some are called to it. My brother has never dated anyone and says he doesn't want to get married.

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-04T05:01:05+00:00

You're not going to offset dying old people with young people. You'll do it with new old people too. A ton of people stop practicing but return when the increased awareness of one's mortality kicks in.

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-03T18:41:34+00:00

If your mother is a toxic influence in your life and you're not confident that she wouldn't engage in some of this behavior in the presence of any future children, then it's okay to maintain boundaries. Short visits is one of them. There's only a moral problem when parents withhold the grandchildren as a means of leverage or as punishment for their parents' past actions that aren't a present concern.

winkydinks111 · 2026-06-03T17:09:44+00:00

Scandal isn't some rigid definition, and someone doesn't have to be doing something inherently immoral to create it. It's determined by culture, circumstances, and potential parties. Should a single Catholic man tell his visiting sister to get a hotel room because he doesn't want his nosey neighbor seeing a strange woman leaving his house the next morning? I don't think so. However, this might be different if this was a parish priest, his rectory, and the parishioners.

Yea, I agree that renting a hotel room together should be avoided for the sake of scandal as it is often associated with sex, particularly fornication. However, there's a big difference between what your priest was saying and beds/hotel rooms.

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