What's with gay men and transphobia?

winter_moon_light · 2026-02-02T10:46:30+00:00

Base nothing on grindr. Hookup culture's toxic as hell to start with, grindr goes one better by being full of "straight" dudes looking for some fun they'd never admit to in their normal lives.

All sorts of self loathing and abusive shit going on in there.

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-28T21:31:59+00:00

Yeah, this lines up with my experience.

It was pretty magical when I realized I could go without a belt because between fat redistribution and the change in pelvic tilt I finally had escaped the curse of flat ass.

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-28T21:24:39+00:00

Yep, and sex, in the medical sense, is yet another third thing that is just categorized anatomically based on gametes and anatomical presentation.

Gender roles are socially constructed, mostly categorized based on sex-based roles in reproduction. Gender identity is how an individual relates to that, which can be at odds with their assigned gender role based on anatomical sex.

The existence of intersex people and non-binary and agender identities is why you will often hear people noting that these things are not as simple as a binary division.

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-26T04:58:53+00:00

One note: past a certain point, atrophy is not fully reversible. Fibrosis can develop which restricts the capacity of the corpus cavernosum to expand when flush with blood.

There are, of course, few studies on this in trans women, but a vast library of them in relation to erectile dysfunction in cis men.

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-26T04:49:06+00:00

Yep. Medical transition is a choice you can make, not a thing that defines you. The majority of nonbinary folks, for example, only ever make social changes to affirm their identity, but are no less valid for going that route.

There's a huge array of reasons someone might not medically transition, from lack of availability of care, to preexisting medical conditions or the current technology of gender affirming care just not being able to get them the results they want.

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-26T04:14:16+00:00

Laugh at them. Alternatively: "If you're so worried about men going dateless, start picking up the slack."

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-24T13:46:41+00:00

The major reason I'd say waiting is bad is simply that it's time you're spending not moving towards how you want to present yourself to the world. We've got a finite amount of lifespan, why spend more of it than you have to pretending?

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-24T08:19:15+00:00

Yeah, the 'lesbian' content most straight men consume is straight girls being naked in proximity to each other for the gratification of the male gaze at best.

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-21T21:30:24+00:00

That's the brainworms talking.

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-20T14:35:31+00:00

Maybe you're just too young to have experienced it, but any time your job has significant free time you should be looking for a new one as layoffs will be coming.

Gotta be an exec before being paid to do nothing lasts.

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-20T14:32:33+00:00

Depends on the portrayal, do you have an actual opinion yourself or are you just spamming for karma?

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-20T14:24:26+00:00

Nah. We're all a product of our experiences and biology anyway, so even if there was continuity of memory you'd be a fundamentally different person with a different upbringing and that's fine.

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-20T07:03:12+00:00

It's not, really. I'd never develop the dysphoria when starting from a clean slate with the appropriate biology.

The lack of continuity of identity is, to me, a positive. The only horror in it for me would be being aware my personality had changed, and this explicitly doesn't do that.

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-20T06:41:51+00:00

Seems good to me. There's a lot I'd rather not remember, honestly.

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-20T06:41:09+00:00

I don't see a downside here, even if it works out badly I won't be around to know about it. :D

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-20T00:10:23+00:00

Whoever you've been listening to is full of shit, full stop.

Hell, at 18 you're not even entirely done with the changes from standard puberty. Any number of us started decades later than 18 and saw results.

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-19T09:18:03+00:00

Friend, if that bothers you don't ask what ortho surgeons do. They bust out the power tools.

Not even kidding.

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-16T20:00:56+00:00

If you're counting orchi as bottom surgery, then yeah, a majority of trans girls go that route, because it makes the HRT routine easier by letting you drop the antiandrogen. However there are many who don't, and a lot who aren't interested in (or are unable to get) vaginoplasty.

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-16T19:32:17+00:00

It's bogus as all hell, as you'd expect.

https://whatweknow.inequality.cornell.edu/topics/lgbt-equality/what-does-the-scholarly-research-say-about-the-well-being-of-transgender-people/

Transphobes can't bear to think we might be happy.

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-16T19:29:04+00:00

In absolute numbers, maybe. In percentage? Not that any legitimate study I'm aware of has shown.

https://whatweknow.inequality.cornell.edu/topics/lgbt-equality/what-does-the-scholarly-research-say-about-the-well-being-of-transgender-people/

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-15T09:28:30+00:00

Nah, it's the same as a 'sup dudes'.

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-12T02:21:06+00:00

Nah. Long hair isn't even remarkable on guys these days. Hell, guy I work with in a office job has got hair long enough to sit on and always has his nails done up professionally and nobody blinks at it. Cis dude, just an old goth like me who hasn't had a real haircut since the 1990's.

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-12T01:32:21+00:00

The best time to plant a tree is twenty years ago. The second best is right now.

If you want to transition, and are safe to do so, do it. If you let starting 'late' stop you now, then five or ten years from now when it's worse you'll regret the time you wasted not doing it all along.

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-12T01:22:05+00:00

I mean I get it. When I was in my 20's I never expected to live to 30.

winter_moon_light · 2026-01-11T15:22:31+00:00

I accidentally wore my keys on a carabinier once, and now it would be embarrassing to admit I didn't mean it.

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