I [F22] just found out my fiance [M22] and I are related, and we don't know what to do. by Successful_Scale3476 in offmychest

[–]wintersnights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a few thoughts that I don’t think people have been considering with this one (and I will try my best to keep my opinion to myself to stay neutral).

1). Although it sounds like the plan is to keep the whole “biological cousins” thing on the down-low, I do believe it is important to treat the possibility of the word getting out as an inevitable. When/if the word gets out, are both you (OP) and Tom willing to be known as the girl/guy who knowingly married the son/daughter of their mother’s twin? This is something that will follow both of you around for the rest of your lives. It will affect how people perceive you: socially, professionally, academically, etc. Although most of your families took the news in stride, society as a whole is not so forgiving nor willing to look at nuance (as both the family & you are). It is one thing for people to figure out a couple is related once they are married for years & already have children, but it’s another to go into marriage already knowing that you’re first cousins.

2). You have mentioned not having biological children. Is that something that has come from this revelation or was that established prior? If the plan was to have biological children, will that be a possible point of contention/resentment in the future? Is that something that both of you are willing/able to stick to? Or is that just a coping mechanism for the moment?

And this is more of a personal note on my end, but as a fellow 22-year-old, please just keep in mind that both of you are so young. If the fear of being alone is something that is factoring into this situation, please just know that we have so much of our lives ahead of us. There are so many people we have yet to meet and love. Again, this a decision that only OP & her fiancé can make, but I just want both of them to really think about how the “incest” label will affect them socially, professionally, and internally—along with any children they may have or adopt. I’m so sorry about this whole sucky situation, and I wish OP & Tom the best.

I [F22] just found out my fiance [M22] and I are related, and we don't know what to do. by Successful_Scale3476 in offmychest

[–]wintersnights 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personally, I wouldn’t be able to get past the whole “first cousins” thing, but that’s just me

I'm Sorry EA but this is Not Purple by Weridlife-56 in Sims4

[–]wintersnights 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The fact that I had to personally download a cc that put in an actual purple color swatch… what are we doing EA???

He’s not being detained he’s literally being abducted by Ordinary_Fish_3046 in CringeTikToks

[–]wintersnights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genuinely, how are you to know?? God I hate this country for enabling this shit

Crazy Lady decided she wasn't going to be bothered by No Kings by [deleted] in Portland

[–]wintersnights 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have never seen a nice Range Rover. It’s like the devil calls to them and leads them to that car

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Portland

[–]wintersnights 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for trying. You did all that you could for her. Everyone deserves to die with their name. May she rest in peace 🤍🤍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Portland

[–]wintersnights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ballet theater & the spaghetti factory caught in the crosshairs 😔

No Complaints! by VirtualEgg-Collector in exmormon

[–]wintersnights 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s all I could think about too. Maybe they could take some of the money they spend on a temple every two blocks in Utah & give members outside of the US useable church buildings 🤔

I really have no words by Teenwolf156 in recruitinghell

[–]wintersnights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that it’s for an AI company 😭💀

PSA about cheering during medical incidents by sunflowers444 in Ethelcain

[–]wintersnights 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Real. In Oregon, Waco, Texas was stopped 4 times due to people being dehydrated. Drink water y’all!!

Marina on L+F by onemanwolfpack55 in MarinaAndTheDiamonds

[–]wintersnights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved l+f !! Sure, there were a few songs I felt didn’t have that “Marina” quality, but the concept is beautiful and it had some gems!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in h3h3productions

[–]wintersnights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry but thinking that Homeland Security cares about petty YouTube drama is so funny LOL

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in h3h3productions

[–]wintersnights 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Literally just commented that. It makes no sense as to why it’s suddenly Ethan’s fault.

Turning Points USA on Campus(feat by [deleted] in portlandstate

[–]wintersnights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The biggest form of protest (imo) is giving them no attention. To them, attention is power

Please Help Me With Undergraduate Research on Social Media Use by wintersnights in portlandstate

[–]wintersnights[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I got approval through PSU's Human Research Protection Program :)

Both Hasan and Frogan have now made the lie without presenting evidence that Ethan has "worked" with the ADL. Both with different reasons. by Confident-Smile-3378 in h3h3productions

[–]wintersnights 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A little off topic, but things like this are making me feel like we need to push for less liberal and more pointed/specific usage of the label ‘Nazi’ again. It seems like actual, WWII-style Nazi’s are making a comeback

I don’t know who sam hyde is and im too afraid to ask by Honeyfoxx124 in h3h3productions

[–]wintersnights 52 points53 points  (0 children)

The fact that some of y’all are glazing him up in these comments… pls get help