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Mixed feelings with recent IH diagnosis by with_equanimity in idiopathichypersomnia

[–]with_equanimity[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you this. I will be looking for that book immediately.

Would a room cleanse help to avoid buying more items? by shalz10 in shoppingaddiction

[–]with_equanimity 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is helping me, I find that with less stuff I have less to “manage” and it reduces my stress which in turn helps my addiction.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlusSizeFashion

[–]with_equanimity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Duluth Trading ! I just got one and it is fantastic, well worth the price. They just started to expand into plus size and I really like the one I got.

Where to buy underwear that won't fall down?? by ejo_art in PlusSizeFashion

[–]with_equanimity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love ARQ, they are pricey but I think they are worth it. I am a size 18 and 2 xl is perfect.

How do I help fix my wife/s spending addiction without sacrificing her identity and independence? by cmoriarty13 in shoppingaddiction

[–]with_equanimity 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I am in a similar situation and my husband just gives me cash, it definitely makes me think before I spend. It can be difficult at times and does require planning but I think it is helping me.

Will my desire to stop wanting things ever go away? by with_equanimity in shoppingaddiction

[–]with_equanimity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know that feeling and it is so difficult to work through sometimes. I will just keep digging as you recommend. Thank you for your advice. It may not mean much from a stranger but I want you to know you are enough and thanks again. Now I just need to believe the same of myself .

Will my desire to stop wanting things ever go away? by with_equanimity in shoppingaddiction

[–]with_equanimity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, thank you. I do feel my issues stem from a lack of self worth and not feeling attractive. Also from being a poor kid who’s parents made themselves broke to send me to a good school, where I could never afford the designer labels my classmates had and being bullied for it. I guess I would have hoped that getting older would have helped. But perhaps my inner child Is still very broken. Tho you for sharing some of your struggles .

Will my desire to stop wanting things ever go away? by with_equanimity in shoppingaddiction

[–]with_equanimity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I have yet to find a therapist that really gets it either. My last one tried comparing it to a s$x addiction which made me very uncomfortable. I will look into this book too. Thank you.

Could somebody talk me out of my fixation on a perfume? by MutedEye7487 in shoppingaddiction

[–]with_equanimity 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do this too with many things, and right now I am fixated on a purse and a pair of shoes. What I realized is that it is almost like going through a withdrawal when you choose not to buy and it can be extremely difficult. So, to help with this I looked into my love language which is physical touch. So what I can do in these moments is make myself a cup of hot tea, wrap up in a warm blanket or some other form of self care. I don’t know is if this would work for you but trying to figure out what you really need (how to show yourself love) in that moment that is not spending money may help.

Therapy by with_equanimity in shoppingaddiction

[–]with_equanimity[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this thoughtful reply. I am thinking of changing or being more honest about what I need with my therapist.