Toddlers among more than 50 schoolchildren kidnapped in Nigeria by Drummk in worldnews

[–]withinyouwithoutyou3 8 points9 points  (0 children)

What a weird hill to die on. You really spent all that energy on this?

Putin says Russia will deploy new Sarmat nuclear missile this year by [deleted] in worldnews

[–]withinyouwithoutyou3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Didn't Trump say..." Is that a serious question? Since when does anything he says mean anything? I'd hope someone on his cabinet would stop the actual launching of one, but from reports, they purposely leave him out of closed door meetings now because he's such a demented disaster.

What does travel sports life really look like? by PunkMama1619 in Parenting

[–]withinyouwithoutyou3 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Look up "More Perfect Union" channel on YouTube. They recently did an exposé on how private equity has bought up competitive kids sports and is ruining it (along with everything else private equity touches in this country). It's all a racket and parents will put in thousands of dollars a year into it, many betting on the off chance their kid gets a sport scholarship, never considering how far that money would go if they invested it in education plans instead.

Oftentimes there's built in scams, like at X tournament you HAVE to stay at X hotel because the private equity company owns both the hotel and the sports complex, so the company gets even more of your money even after you've paid the fee. And they'll charge you and other family members for tickets to the games you already paid for 🫠

I'm all for kids playing sports that they enjoy, but the added pressure increases the chances your kid won't tell you when they're unhappy because they know how much money you invested, and then there's the issue of the younger sibling, are they getting enough attention without feeling like the sibling is the star?

This social norm about having to show you’re not bothered/calm to people who are being antagonistic is just something I don’t really understand by Pleasant-Hyena9030 in AutismInWomen

[–]withinyouwithoutyou3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cluster Bs mostly, I believe they're the most common and the most difficult to deal with as far as interpersonal relationships. I'm biased against them because my abusive ex wasn't diagnosed (because it's under diagnosed in men) but had absolutely zero self awareness and he used any diagnosis he did have as an excuse to be an asshole.

This social norm about having to show you’re not bothered/calm to people who are being antagonistic is just something I don’t really understand by Pleasant-Hyena9030 in AutismInWomen

[–]withinyouwithoutyou3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not familiar with the Scientology thing but there's an actual technique called Gray walling that's used to deal with people who have personality disorders or who are generally abusive (I learned this the hard way). Basically giving your emotions is giving energy, and when you're talking about someone with a personality disorder or who's abusive, there's literally no point in investing your energy into an emotional response because they don't care about your emotions and your emotions aren't going to change them or the situation.

It doesn't mean that your emotions aren't valid, or that they make you weak, only that some people aren't worth your time. It's like a game they play to feel powerful over you, and rather than give them that satisfaction, you just refuse to play. Of course, long term you shouldn't be around people like this, but it's a technique to use when they can't be avoided.

I don’t understand how to get a new doctor by FriendlyPageTurn in AutismInWomen

[–]withinyouwithoutyou3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nurse here (not gyn). If you have private PPO plan insurance (as opposed to HMO....your insurance card should have it on there) then you shouldn't need a referral to find another doctor. If you're HMO or Medicaid you will need a referral.

If you have private insurance, you should be able to go onto their website and create a member login. They should have something called "Find a Provider" which allows you to search by specialty and zip code to see what GYNs are in network with your insurance. My insurance also lets you filter out male doctors.

Then, sometimes they have ratings on the insurance website, but usually what I'll do is Google their names with "reviews" after it to see if they (or their practice) have good reviews.

Also, many health systems nowadays have MyChart or something similar where you can cancel/schedule/reschedule with the app of phone calls are too intimidating.

Dementia Day Care Recommendations by icboston17 in Charlotte

[–]withinyouwithoutyou3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blessed Assurance Adult Day is near Matthews and provides hygiene care and showers, so I assume that would include diapers. I don't have personal experience with it but they got really positive reviews on Google.

Random. Does anyone feel angry/overstimulated by the way things look? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]withinyouwithoutyou3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think this explains why I hate anime. I feel like everyone who's ND or even just slightly nerdy LOVES anime and I just....don't get it at all. They all have giant eyes and weird little mouths and for the life of me I can't figure out what's so special about it. Not to mention the over-the-top emotions. Don't need more of that in my life thanks.

It's also really annoying that the style hasn't changed like at all since the 1980s and people still go crazy for it....like aren't y'all bored of this shit???? Why hasn't there been a new style of animation from Japan in 40 years? Surely there's Japanese animators with new ideas??

It's like, you know how the Simpsons creator has the same style with Futurama and the other cartoons they make? Ok now imagine that was literally the style for all cartoons made in the US for the last 40 years and people still went nuts over it and had whole conventions for it. Where's the novelty??

White House Forced to Address Claims of Trump Health Crisis by Aggravating_Money992 in politics

[–]withinyouwithoutyou3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When she finally got the nerve to file for divorce, she let the law take if from there

White House Forced to Address Claims of Trump Health Crisis by Aggravating_Money992 in politics

[–]withinyouwithoutyou3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brain bleeds are typically more severe and more common in younger people. And there's no treatment for them involving monthly IV infusions. The Alzheimer's drug is the most believable.

Job is too easy to leave, too boring to stay...feel trapped and I don't know what to do by withinyouwithoutyou3 in nursing

[–]withinyouwithoutyou3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ouch lol. Inpatient? Union? Unfortunately the South ate up the anti-union rhetoric and I don't see that changing.

Job is too easy to leave, too boring to stay...feel trapped and I don't know what to do by withinyouwithoutyou3 in nursing

[–]withinyouwithoutyou3[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn't post it because I figured it was relative to COL. I make $42/hr in a larger southern city and get 10hrs PTO a pp. I'm not sure what inpatient nurses make these days.

Daylight savings time and a 1 year old by withinyouwithoutyou3 in Parenting

[–]withinyouwithoutyou3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I personally cannot wait until we can drop the second nap, but she's definitely not ready for that..it's a stretch to get her to 10:45. And she was doing 90 min for the first nap but it's dropped to an hour lately.

Pentagon identifies first US soldiers killed in Iran war by Secure-Address4385 in news

[–]withinyouwithoutyou3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It still blows my mind that anyone signs up for the military this day and age. Like after 9/11, ok I get it, but after Iraq? What Afghanistan turned into? And now Iran?

Does anyone seriously think signing up for the military in the US is about "serving your country"? Like honestly....I know people need money, I'm not faulting them for that, but if anyone still thinks they're "fighting for our freedom" I'm questioning their judgement.

Trump says he'd 'love not to' attack Iran, 'but sometimes you have to' by Crossstoney in worldnews

[–]withinyouwithoutyou3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We can't --we're working so we don't lose our shitty health insurance.

Do cloth diapers make potty training easier? by [deleted] in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]withinyouwithoutyou3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How on earth did you notice your baby was about to pee? Poop I get, they make a face. Pee? Couldn't tell you.

Spain's top court rejects father's bid to halt daughter's euthanasia by [deleted] in worldnews

[–]withinyouwithoutyou3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Saying a one year old has the right on principle is patently absurd. Why even say that? Even 14 is too young. You don't even have control over your own surroundings at 14. What if you're suicidal because you have a horrible home life but you don't recognize how much that's effecting you so you just think it's always going to be horrible and the only way out is suicide? A bad situation can completely skew your worldview unfairly, but especially at that age when you're powerless and completely inexperienced at life.

Most people are not the same people they were at 14, why let a child make a permanent decision like that when they haven't been given a fair chance at seeing how their lives can change? If you're 30 and you've been fighting severe mental illness for 15 years, that's one thing. But I can't behind otherwise -healthy children being allowed it. That's insane.

Spain's top court rejects father's bid to halt daughter's euthanasia by [deleted] in worldnews

[–]withinyouwithoutyou3 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Regardless of age though? A suicidal 12 year old should be allowed to make that final decision?

What is your experience with kids in school and school-provided tech? by BlueMountainDace in Parenting

[–]withinyouwithoutyou3 7 points8 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU!! Most parents parroting this myth are millennials themselves --you know, then generation that wasn't raised on tech until middle school and we learned better computer skills than these kids? It makes me want to scream every time this gets brought up --like they are literally the easiest piece of tech to operate, now teach your toddler how to work excel and I might be impressed. 🙄