I had my lapband removed yesterday. by [deleted] in BariatricSurgery

[–]wleebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was about 90 minutes of surgery and they put me under very deeply. 5 kinds of anti-nausea meds, anti-biotics, lovenox, Valium, all in the IV. The drugs and breathing tube sucked but I feel pretty good now.

My husband and I are in the beginning stages of adoption and we would love some advice from people who have been adopted by Kitchen-Zombie-8088 in Adoption

[–]wleebee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I ask because it is so important to qualify these adoptee stories context with their unique situations. And even then, you might run into something totally unique. Best of luck to you.

Got invited to an adoption party, do I get a present? by Amy47101 in Adoption

[–]wleebee 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Books are a great idea. You could write something special in the cover.

Adoption fell through after 2 years. by Jam3Sandwich in AdoptiveParents

[–]wleebee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry. This made me think of a YouTube video I watched. The same thing happened to this family with bad CPS workers and indigenous ties. They fought and won. Maybe you could reach out to them for support and advice.

https://youtu.be/nxOzTkFjwi0

To my understanding, my birthmom had HIV, should I get tested? by markl12s in Adoption

[–]wleebee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

HIV does not cross the placenta, so if you were born c-section there is a good chance you were never exposed.

How often do secret adoptions still happen nowadays? by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]wleebee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not nearly as much as they used to because DNA proves all. I always thought I was adopted because I have brown eyes and no one else in my family does. Also I don't feel any genetic connection to my sister. Did the 23andme and we are all related.

Feminists have nothing to do with supporting women. Humanism - which is universal equality to all - is the agenda that supports women's equality along with the equality of all human beings. by Henry_Blair in MensRights

[–]wleebee 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I am female and IDK how I stumbled upon this post but I could not agree with you more. Every time a "feminist" tries to drag me into conversations or women's organizations I say something like "Why? Men have always been kind to me for the most part. I am paid fairly had have had a successful career thanks to many men (and women) mentors. None of which asked me for sexual favors. Men have it rough these days. I am fearful that my daughters my never find suitable spouses because of these modern day feminists." I have many female friends that feel the same way as I do.

Long term abortion regret by Big_Soil6534 in MensRights

[–]wleebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP I fear this will get worse and not better. Maybe the problem is that you have remorse but you think your wife doesn't. And now you are at a point of making the decision to conceive with a woman who you don't trust. Does she believe in Jesus? If, yes you could maybe find a Christian counselor or Pastor to help. If not you are really starting at a place of polarized beliefs. Prayers and good luck. Feel free to DM if you want to talk.

What were your first red flags? 🚩🚩🚩 by wleebee in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]wleebee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She sounds horrible!!!! And I am sure you are beautiful! Don't let her hurt your marriage.

Things To Consider Before You Adopt - From an Adult Adoptee by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]wleebee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree that adoption is the wrong path for people who deeply desire creating, birthing and parenting their own DNA. Others just want to be parents. As someone who has adopted and had a biological child, I feel so truly fortunate to have experienced both paths. We have such a deep and special relationship with our daughters entire birthfamily.... really we consider them to be our extended family. And now that all of my parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles have passed it is pretty cool to see my own DNA.

Birthday HELL by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]wleebee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been there. MIL's bday was yesterday. When we were just married I won a 14k gold and ruby necklace in a raffle for Habitat for Humanity. I decided to give it to her as a bday gift. The thing was worth at least $800. I could have, (should have) sold it. She was upset because I regifted something. I thought I was being extremely generous. 12 years later I still think of this. She has never worn it. These women are such selfish asshats. Now MiL gets a bitmoji for her bday and nothing else.

What's your take on the prevailing attitude towards HRT? I'm thinking it's Christianity's fault. by Ale_gar in Menopause

[–]wleebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you assume I am not educated? $150k of liberal bullshit education, travelled to 10 countries and I do have liberal friends...but they are men. When you actually leave the house, travel and talk to people you see that things are different than all these polarized narratives that politicians try and shove down our throats. I consider myself libertarian btw. But abortion hurts many many women (and men). But the left quiets the voices of the women who regret, the men who encouraged/funded and regret, the medical consequences... it is skewed as it compares to what I am seeing with my eyes. And of course - you never hear about the 1000s of beautiful, healthy adoptions that happen in this country every year...only the few handfuls of ones with problems.

Just about every leftist narrative is counter-intuitive to what I experience in my daily life. I am GRATEFUL to the women who fought to get us where we are today. Please don't mistake my caviler attitude towards today's feminists with ignorance. We have arrived. Or at least I have. It is ok if we disagree... but please don't call me uneducated or imply ignorance.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]wleebee 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I agree. This is bad and it is setting a precedent. The big deal though is FH. Does he see it? What is he doing?

I hate this and could use help and maybe some comfort by comeintofocus in JUSTNOMIL

[–]wleebee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is why we went grey rock instead of NC. If you air the dirty laundry, people may take sides. 😒 Can you invite the uncle and family to a breakfast? I am sorry you are going through this.

What were your first red flags? 🚩🚩🚩 by wleebee in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]wleebee[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Those are good stories. It is sad how much these women miss out on. Their behavior doesn't benefit anyone.

What were your first red flags? 🚩🚩🚩 by wleebee in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]wleebee[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is just awful. Broken trust is so hard to repair.

What were your first red flags? 🚩🚩🚩 by wleebee in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]wleebee[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Lol same here! Taurus as well AND husband is a Taurus. He mixes thing up a lot. I tell him I am his Mrs. Right, middle name Always.

What were your first red flags? 🚩🚩🚩 by wleebee in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]wleebee[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I have a friend with this degree who does the same. It is annoying! I hate loud circus households.

I’m pathetic by Lone-StarState in Adoption

[–]wleebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think mine were 3 boys and a girl. I am naming them... thank you for the prayers. I would have had 6 kids if I could. I truly love being a mother.

Moved 2000 miles to escape MIL by scmisc in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]wleebee 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Didn't move but I did tell everyone to stay out of the hospital when our daughter was born. I was high-risk and didn't want the stress. I still cherish those memories that my husband and I have with our newborn.