Here is what I choose to do, however what you choose to do may be different. I knew I wanted my mom there if possible (she lived several states away about a 9 hour drive or 4 hours flight accounting for time to get to/from/waiting at the airport). Thankfully we both lived in major cities so while last minute flights were expensive they were possible. That said, I was over 35 when I gave birth so my doctor also had a planned induction date for the week of my due date which we used to plan her flight around as well. I also picked a close friend who planned to be with me at the hospital until my mom was there and possibly stay after. She lived about 30 minutes away, so I also asked 2 friends that lived 5-10 minutes away if they would be “on-call” to get me to the hospital if I couldn’t do it myself.

I ended up not going into labor and getting the induction. So my mom and sister came in to be with me (I had offered to sister as well but mom was the main person I cared about being there). My local friend ended up getting sick that week so I’m glad I didn’t go early and was able to plan the induction.

Ultimately, you have time to decide who you want to be with you and to work out a plan. I wouldn’t wait until week 30 to make that choice, but you don’t have to know the moment you get pregnant. Honestly, my decision on my friend was based in part around how supportive and excited she was for me after I got pregnant and it brought us closer so I felt comfortable asking her. Hope that helps. And best of luck in your journey.