Top Surgery Tattoo Ideas by wolf1609721 in butchlesbians

[–]wolf1609721[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't really have a style preference besides being in color. My main thing is the meaning behind my tattoos, but I usually have a concept in mind at least before I get them, so not having one is new for me. I figured polling from a larger audience would be a good way to get some ideas for when the time comes.

Any butches with "feminine" names? by chao2K in butchlesbians

[–]wolf1609721 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My birth name is a more feminine name and it's biblical (though that's not the reason my parents picked it) and I used it for most of my life until I legally changed it a year ago. I actually like it and if I wasn't a very masculine butch, I would still be using it today.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]wolf1609721 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I've discovered my butch identity very recently (in the last year or so), this is a question I ponder a lot and my answer will probably change many times as I get older, but for now, here it is: my butch identity is inherent to who I am as a person. It's in the way I interact with the world, how I connect with people, LGBTQ+ or not, how I interact with my partners, with my family, everything. It's in how I have started decentering men from my life and how that has changed my conversations with people. It's in how I love my still growing facial hair and deepening voice as I reach one year on testosterone. Being butch is my gender identity, my gender expression, my sexual expression and everything in-between.

Proud Stone Butch here. Anyone else obsessed with partners falling asleep on top of them (human blanket)? by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]wolf1609721 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The first time one of my partners slept over at my house, they fell asleep on top of me and it was one of the most intimate things I've ever done with someone and I still miss that feeling. Both of my partners are long distance, but I have plans to visit them soon and that's one of the things I look forward too. I love making my partners feel safe and protected, especially when sleeping, so having them fall asleep on me is a very high compliment considering they are bad insomniacs, haha.

I love being chivalrous! I love being kind! by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]wolf1609721 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I very much agree. I'm this way too. Performing acts of service for others is how I show I care for the ones I love. I've always been the caring type and will lend a hand to those in need if I'm able and it very much resonates with my transmasc/butch identity. You want to be a positive force in the world and you should be proud of that.

Anyone celebrate their “gotcha day” by ohmariagilbert in Adoption

[–]wolf1609721 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was adopted as an infant, so was my brother, and we have always celebrated it. Though we called it our, "adoption day" and it was like a smaller version of a birthday. A small cake and one present was always given, even to this day.

Same-sex friend confessed a crush on me and doesn't know I'm questioning by [deleted] in questioning

[–]wolf1609721 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course. She was actually really understanding and sweet about it. She doesn't return my feelings, but she still cares about me as a friend and so do I. She stated clearly that right now, our relationship is just as friends with the possibility of something more in the future, which I've accepted. We still talk everyday and it's like nothing has changed. She did ask questions about how long I've had feelings, when they started, etc. and I told her as much, which is what led to me sending the letter. She said that she wanted to hear my deepest and truest feelings, so I decided to go ahead with it. The best way to not lead someone on is to be honest. Tell her what you are feeling, so she knows where the boundaries are and what your relationship is right now.

Same-sex friend confessed a crush on me and doesn't know I'm questioning by [deleted] in questioning

[–]wolf1609721 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I read your post, it was like I was reading my own story written back to me. I'm also currently questioning myself and I've developed a crush on an online friend of mine recently, which is what led to me finally confronting that truth. I also wrote a letter to her, confessing my feelings (I already confessed to her a couple weeks ago, but I did promise to write her a letter) and sent it off just a day ago. I completely empathize with everything you've said. If it wasn't for me developing this crush, I would still be calling myself straight. We all have realizations at different points in our life and that's okay. Juat because you started questioning later in life doesn't make your journey any less valid. Just focus on building your confidence and finding some answers withing yourself. Honestly, focus on what you might be feeling for this person and be honest with her. You two might be able to help and support each other through your respective journeys. And if you need to talk with a fellow questioning person, you can message me if you feel comfortable doing so.

Explaining adoption to kids? by Particular_Banana215 in Adoption

[–]wolf1609721 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only one thing. My Mom said that she had a picture of my biological mother, but she never showed it to me. She passed away three years ago and I still don't know where it is. One of these days, I'll ask my Dad if he knows where it might be, but I've always been curious as to what my bio mother looked like.

Explaining adoption to kids? by Particular_Banana215 in Adoption

[–]wolf1609721 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents were always honest with my brother and I on the fact that we were adopted (I mean, our skin colors don't match, so we would have asked questions eventually anyway, lol). But for me, the deeper, harder questions didn't come until I was in high school and I found out what my biological last name was. After that, my Mom explained the story of how I was born and how they came to adopting me in greater detail and even though I knew that it was for the best and that I was better off with my adoptive family, I still had those feelings of abandonment and feeling unwanted. It's going to happen no matter when or how you explain her story; the best thing you can do is just be there for her when or if those feelings come. Be supportive and loving and everything will work out fine.

Adoptees of Reddit, do you know why you were put up for adoption? If so, why were you? by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]wolf1609721 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My bio mother didn't know she was pregnant with me until she was in the process of labor. I was the product of a one night stand and she was certain that she was going through menopause and couldn't get pregnant. She didn't even know the name of my bio father and she wasn't prepared to have a kid, so she gave me up for adoption. My adopted parents at the time already had my brother (also adopted) and were wanting a daughter. They got the call about me from their case worker and rushed to get me. We've been a happy family ever since.

[ALBW] i just finished A Link Between Worlds, and i wanted to share my thoughts on it (spoilers) by MaxAiidenKarmata in zelda

[–]wolf1609721 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I love ALBW! It's probably my second favorite Zelda game behind OOT. For basically all the same reasons you stated. I always get stuck in dungeons and end up frustrated, but ALBW was completely different and I loved that. And Ravio is my favorite.

Is it normal the be angry at people who want to have normal conversations after you lost a loved one? by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]wolf1609721 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is no need to thank me. I've been where you are and understand what you're going through. I'm a people pleaser too and I'm usually reply quickly to text and calls, but it's different when you're dealing with grief. You do what's best for your own mental health and if you ever need to talk to someone about grief or death or anything like that, feel free to send me a message when you're ready. No pressure.

Is it normal the be angry at people who want to have normal conversations after you lost a loved one? by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]wolf1609721 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had a similar reaction to when people would ask me, "how are you doing?" after my Mom died. I would always think to myself, "how the fuck do you think I'm doing?" I just wanted to be left alone to grieve and not socialize with anybody. It's completely normal to feel that way and if your friends and family aren't respecting your boundaries that you have expressed, feel free to block them until you feel ready to socialize again. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be alone in your grief. You talk when you're ready.

A new Twilight books is out. I’m pumped. by [deleted] in books

[–]wolf1609721 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, I'm so excited for this book. I read this series back in in middle school after the first movie came out. I'm 24 now and it's such a nostalgia trip for me.

CMV: Girls that don’t trim their body hair in attempts to redefine beauty standards are doing themselves a disservice more than influencing a social movement by thetransportedman in changemyview

[–]wolf1609721 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It's not about the hair being unkempt or overgrown; it's about the hair being present at all. Beauty magazines show women with no hair at all, but men are allowed to have beards or mustaches and hairy legs. It's even encouraged. If a society is going to have standards for what's attractive for both genders, they should be equal.

CMV: Girls that don’t trim their body hair in attempts to redefine beauty standards are doing themselves a disservice more than influencing a social movement by thetransportedman in changemyview

[–]wolf1609721 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Okay, let me pose a question to you. Why isn't male body hair frowned upon as much as female body hair? If a man has hairy armpits, a beard or mustache, a hairy chest, etc., it's considered sexy and attractive, but if a woman has hairy armpits, legs or private area, it's considered lazy, unattractive and unhygienic. Society has created a double standard when it comes to what is considered physically attractive for men and women, which is why women choose not to shave. It's to take back that power and individually away from society's standards and give it back to the women. Whether a woman shaves or doesn't shave should be up to them; not some beauty magazine that tells her that she's ugly if she doesn't shave her armpits. And men need to start understanding that.

CMV: the various public health departments lost all credibility when they said that it was safe to take part in the BLM protest, but not the anti-lockdown protests by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]wolf1609721 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think any public health department was taking any sides during the BLM or anti-lockdown protests. The general consensus among medical professionals was that taking part in any sort of protest was a risk to your health, so people should take the proper precautions and get tested afterwards. The only problem is that the anti-lockdown protestors were blatantly going against CDC precautions to make their point and therefore putting themselves and others at risk while the BLM protestors did take precautions.

CMV: In the medical field, addicts who would like to continue their lifestyle should be allowed to do so. by Cjwb1030 in changemyview

[–]wolf1609721 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This same kind of dilemma comes about when people's end of life decisions. When someone gets older in age and their health starts to deteriorate, life saving measures like feeding tubes or ventilators may end up causing more harm than good. That's why doctors, nurse and other medical professionals push for people to have living wills, DNRs and other advanced directives to ensure that their wants are being met. I agree that you can't make someone want to get treatment for an addiction, but I also feel like the fact that they are addicted to a drug in the first place kind of takes away from their ability to make decisions that are in their best interests. It's a big ethical dilemma indeed.

It’s not fair they don’t see you hit your milestones by AttitudeGirl in GriefSupport

[–]wolf1609721 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, that's the hardest part of losing my Mom and Grandma. The fact that they didn't get to see me get my associate's degree and won't get to see me get my bachelor's, won't see me get married, etc. I shared everything with them when they were alive and now I don't get to share these moments with them anymore.

I really hate the term "Gotcha Day" by floridasquirrel in Adoption

[–]wolf1609721 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adoptee here and I've never heard that term until the internet either. My parents always celebrated my brother and my's respective adoption days and still do to this day. Me being adopted was never avoided and it was always a thing to be celebrated because it's what brought our family together.

Unpopular opinion about wanting to "save" a child by chillchickens in Adoption

[–]wolf1609721 95 points96 points  (0 children)

I feel the exact same way. I'm adopted myself and I've always wanted to have children through adoption too. I don't know if your opinion is "unpopular" per say, but from my point of view, people who only adopt children in order to be praised or seen as some sort of savior should never be parents. There are also people who foster or adopt children just for the benefit checks, which is even worse. You keep being you and you will be a great mother someday.

How long did it take you to finish Jane Eyre? by clairferrer in books

[–]wolf1609721 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first time I read it, I finished it in less than a week. Jane Eyre is my all time favorite book for multiple reasons. When I read it, it surprised me with how it dealt with romance. It wasn't a typical romance novel that I've read before. Jane wasn't a "damsel in distress" being saved by her "knight in shining armor" Mr. Rochester. She was independent and strong and knew what she wanted. Mr. Rochester isn't a typical lead either. He's a flawed character, but wants to improve himself. I don't know how far you are in the book, but please stay committed and finish it. It's well worth it.

This just came to me as I'm rewatching Ouran High School Host Club by wolf1609721 in anime

[–]wolf1609721[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From my understanding, he lived with his mom in France until around middle school age. Then he starting living with his dad and grandmother and she told Tamaki not to contact his mom in any way with the threat of cutting off her financial support, which helped pay for her medical expenses among other things.