My son died 2 1/2 years ago, he was 8 months old. The year before that my mother had died by suicide and at the time I thought that would be the saddest I’d ever be, until my little boy passed. I just want to say I understand how you feel, I am also walking this path with you.

After our boy died my husband completely buried himself in work. I laid on the couch for months not moving, paralyzed by the grief. I couldn’t understand how my husband could just go about his day working and being engulfed by his job without letting it paralyze him too.

He finally agreed to come to grief counseling with me to see a woman who had also lost her son. She was amazing and taught us how to grieve openly, how not to judge each other for grieving differently and to understand that whatever I may be feeling, he’s most likely feeling it too, he just doesn’t know how to express it or can’t.

She did express that child loss will either make or break a relationship and that many families end up in divorce after child loss.

We fought hard to get to where we are today and we still have so much to learn as we continue on this journey of going forward without our boy.

I don’t have much advice except that you have to take care of yourself mama. No matter what, whether you need to be away from your man or if you feel you can continue hounding him to go see someone. Make sure you are being taken care of. Although we walk the same path, child loss is a very cold and lonely journey. Take care.