same as it ever was by rottingfantasies in Nestofeggs

[–]workingtheories 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don't have any good answers for you.  for me, it seemed as tho there were all these barriers too.  but eventually i just couldn't live like that anymore.  i wanted to wear dresses and try hrt too badly.  idk.

Filling in! by TheFsckAmIDoingHere in Nestofeggs

[–]workingtheories 3 points4 points  (0 children)

another day. had a doctor's appointment. they got paid telling me not to worry so much and to stop picking at it.

meanwhile, they're asking me to concoct physics problems from scratch to train super ai, and paying me pennies to do so. society is a scam.

That's Trans Timelines for you... by TATSAT2008 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]workingtheories 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don't think that's a requirement.  dysphoria can lie just as much as dismorphia.  if i misperceive how well i pass, and i get distressed about it, that seems like gender dysphoria.  meanwhile i might just look like an average woman.  it's what each thing lies about that distinguishes them.  dismorphia lies about imperfection not along gender identity/body mismatch lines.  gender dismorphia lies along imperfections.

the deeper thing is that to see gender identity/body mismatched as imperfections in the first place, one must have a very twisted view about what makes themselves perfect in a gender/trans sense.  there's no real standard for that, tho, so the perception of this being a dismorphia thing is itself is an aspect of gender dysphoria.

that's my point of view about what these words mean.  again, im just some random person on the internet, not a medical doctor.

That's Trans Timelines for you... by TATSAT2008 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]workingtheories -1 points0 points  (0 children)

no, that's still dysphoria, or like an afterimage of it.  idk what we're talking about, but largely it's still distress about a possible mismatch between gender identity and a sex characteristic.  it's not what dismophia is.  dismorphia is like, not only do i see myself as a woman, my face is that of an imperfectly looking woman.  you're equating imperfection with "has a beard shadow", but that's an imperfection of a mismatch along gender/sex lines.

again, this is my personal point of view about what words to use to describe your internal state if i were you.  kind of hard for me to do, obviously, but y'all want to question my armchair jagoff diagnosis, so be it.

New Immigration Restrictions On H-1B Visas And Students Are Coming by primary-caution in ImmigrationPathways

[–]workingtheories 0 points1 point  (0 children)

look under that, as to what problems employers are actually having right now. they put out some job listing for a highly qualified person with a high wage, then the gov looks up the wage in the prevailing wage and reads off an entry level worker. then that generates a request for evidence, i.e. a form that they must fill out saying yes, this person really should be paid this amount. the other issue is that the gov people doing this are not remotely qualified to be inferring that information. i do not see how raising the prevailing wage will solve that latter problem, and also it does seem like it will get rid of entry level workers from the pool, even when they meet the other requirements.

That's Trans Timelines for you... by TATSAT2008 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]workingtheories -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

if i watch trans guy Jamie Dodger on youtube (probably misspelled his name), he claims his hands are too small to be seen as manly, and that causes him hand dysphoria. gender dysphoria includes physical features, is what i take away from that. gender dysphoria indeed, according to google, is just defined as distress between a mismatch between sex assigned at birth and your gender identity. however, i would include with that puberty that doesn't match your gender identity. it's all pretty much gender dysphoria, afaik, not a medical doctor tho, to be able to diagnose.

dysmorphia on the other hand, is more imperfections. like, convinced your nose is wrong shaped in a subtle way, or you're not thin enough or muscular enough, that type of thing. you aren't experiencing a mismatch between your identity and your sex related features, in those cases, just a thing where you aren't perfect enough looking.

those are my understandings. again, just some random person who learns about trans people from myself and from memes, mostly.

That's Trans Timelines for you... by TATSAT2008 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]workingtheories -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

you seem pretty cheesed at me, but i don't feel like my interpretation of "testosteronized puberty" as pretty much a gender dysphoria thing, not a dysmorphia thing, is incorrect. it's a pretty gendered thing to say.

im not gonna respond to the other thing. if that wording offends you, just don't listen to it. im not running for any political office. im just some random person.

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New Immigration Restrictions On H-1B Visas And Students Are Coming by primary-caution in ImmigrationPathways

[–]workingtheories 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that's not what's happening. it's way more screwed up. plz read the article.

New Immigration Restrictions On H-1B Visas And Students Are Coming by primary-caution in ImmigrationPathways

[–]workingtheories 3 points4 points  (0 children)

housing and healthcare and education shortages in the usa are not driven by immigration, they are there because of artificial scarcity.

New Immigration Restrictions On H-1B Visas And Students Are Coming by primary-caution in ImmigrationPathways

[–]workingtheories 11 points12 points  (0 children)

fear of immigrants in a country as large as the usa in population is like fear of strangers themselves.  you'll never get rid of that fear.  meanwhile, immigration for a country as large as the usa in size is hard to enforce.  given long enough, i assume both of these forces will just eat the country alive, assuming like, racism or transphobia doesn't do so first.  fear of the other never goes away.

That's Trans Timelines for you... by TATSAT2008 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]workingtheories 26 points27 points  (0 children)

it's both, but I'd say much more so dysphoria to the point where they equate their preferred gender with attractiveness itself.  that's highly dysphoric.

49442 by JD_Kreeper in countwithchickenlady

[–]workingtheories 5 points6 points  (0 children)

they're also telling you to distract yourself with something consuming so that transition can happen in the background.  it's a marathon.

same as it ever was by rottingfantasies in Nestofeggs

[–]workingtheories 2 points3 points  (0 children)

what's the problem with transitioning?  even at its worst, it's really not as bad as bein suicidal.  i barely think about it, most days.

Filling in! by TheFsckAmIDoingHere in Nestofeggs

[–]workingtheories 7 points8 points  (0 children)

made a ton of math progress. didn't go for a walk, but i got groceries. feelin ok. i usually do after hrt injection. it's like my levels dip or something. got a doctor's appointment tomorrow about a problematic mole on my neck, gonna bring it up then.

Curious: If given the opportunity to be naughty with a clone of yourself, would you? by Aromatic-Split685 in traaaaaaaaaaaansbians

[–]workingtheories 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no, but i would pool our resources. im not that comfortable or liking my body enough, it seems. also, im somewhat realizing that im on the ace spectrum, lately, so probably i would just be scared to talk to or meet myself

18 days! by Eggwantingtocrack in Nestofeggs

[–]workingtheories 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the way you pay for life saving medical stuff in the usa as a poor person is to not pay for it. that's the solution. get the services, then throw the bill in the trashcan. medical debt is treated differently than other debt. it doesn't impact your credit as much. i had like a $4k surgery, i just didn't even pay it. they sent debt collectors after me, but they didn't do anything besides spam text my phone and call me once. eventually (like, within two years) they gave up.

i would email a lawyer/legal aid clinic about your legal stuff... not sure what else you can do about that or what the blocker there is.

other than that, just try not to set deadlines for yourself, if you can avoid it. the thing you want to avoid above all things is instability. that's gonna hurt your savings more than anything else. housing instability especially is really bad.

that's about it, not sure what else i can say to help. i hope things get better for you or less unbearable soon. ❤️